# Female Dopers: How do you masturbate? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 1, 2009, 11:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048 "2009-02-01T23:29:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hazle_Weatherfield)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/41 "2009-02-03T03:40:57Z")
> [@EJsGirl](#): > > I am a 41 year old straight married female with two kids. That’s your answer to the OP? ---
**Author:** ![CaerieD](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/da6949/32.png) [@CaerieD](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CaerieD)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/42 "2009-02-03T03:50:37Z")
> [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](#): > > That’s your answer to the OP? She gave her full answer in #7. ---
**Author:** ![Kerrigan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/49beb7/32.png) [@Kerrigan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kerrigan)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/43 "2009-02-03T03:55:23Z")
My left index finger. Always the left. I’m right-handed. I actually tried the other day to do it with my right hand, and it eventually worked, but it felt… wrong. Sometimes I watch Beautiful Agony videos or read erotica online, sometimes I just lube up and go. If I’m feeling rushed, I’ll do both. I used a Hitachi Magic Wand for a while within the last couple of years, and that definitely worked for me, but the motor broke down after about 10 months - I’m hoping that’s not a symptom of overuse. After going vibrator-less for the extended period of time after that, I do agree that the assisted orgasms, while intense, can sometimes feel cheaper. I could only use it through panties or pajamas. 22 year-old, straight, single. And I suppose it’s worth mentioning that my fingers and vibrators have been my only partners. ---
**Author:** ![Sunrazor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/2acd7d/32.png) [@Sunrazor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunrazor)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 4:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/44 "2009-02-03T04:02:14Z")
[Sunrazor pops some popcorn, pours a small glass of '06 cabernet, settles in to enjoy a little Theatre of the Mind] ---
**Author:** ![stucky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@stucky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stucky)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 5:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/45 "2009-02-03T05:42:29Z")
I came 3 times reading this thread. ---
**Author:** ![Zebra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/c0e974/32.png) [@Zebra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zebra)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 6:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/46 "2009-02-03T06:45:35Z")
We should call you sticky instead of stucky. ---
**Author:** ![Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hazle_Weatherfield)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 7:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/47 "2009-02-03T07:38:50Z")
> [@CaerieD](#): > > She gave her full answer in #7. Gotcha! Thanks…I hadn’t seen her first answer and it just struck me as funny! ---
**Author:** ![chowder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/977dab/32.png) [@chowder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chowder)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 8:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/48 "2009-02-03T08:20:44Z")
> [@cosmosdan](#): > > lol! :d Needs…at…least…_one_…ill…ustration ---
**Author:** ![stucky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@stucky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stucky)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 8:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/49 "2009-02-03T08:37:25Z")
Zebra…LOL ---
**Author:** ![LouisB](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/dfb087/32.png) [@LouisB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LouisB)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 8:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/50 "2009-02-03T08:46:45Z")
> [@cosmosdan](#): > > My ex did that too. And mine. ---
**Author:** ![Scougs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scougs/32/3158_2.png) [@Scougs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scougs)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/51 "2009-02-03T14:46:51Z")
Rampant Rabbit vibe. Almost daily. Direct clitoral stimulation does it for me. Usually fantasy-assisted, even if the fantasy is just about being watched. Intrigued by all this through-the-panties action here - might give it a try! ---
**Author:** ![HolyFreakingMoly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/7ba0ec/32.png) [@HolyFreakingMoly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HolyFreakingMoly)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/52 "2009-02-03T16:02:39Z")
I forgot my favorite when I have a little time to spend on myself… spread eagle under the bathtub faucet, warm water… I once flooded the bathroom, hallway and adjoining bedroom. That was a difficult one to explain to the hubster. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/53 "2009-02-03T16:28:13Z")
Actually I’ve heard of some guys who do the hump the pillow/rub up against something thing, too. Maybe the men are just as varied! ---
**Author:** ![Giltathriel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b38774/32.png) [@Giltathriel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giltathriel)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/54 "2009-02-03T17:29:51Z")
I usually need direct clitoral stimulation with a vibrator, though I am intrigued by those who said mechanical orgasms are less satisfying. I think I agree, perhaps I should be more patient. Before I bought the toy, I would rub against pillows. Straight female, 24, no partners yet ---
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 6:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/55 "2009-02-03T18:00:38Z")
> [@HolyFreakingMoly](#): > > I forgot my favorite when I have a little time to spend on myself… spread eagle under the bathtub faucet, warm water… I once flooded the bathroom, hallway and adjoining bedroom. That was a difficult one to explain to the hubster. That’s impressive. I think I’d likely get distracted if I was in danger of drowning. 😃 I don’t have a “preferred” method, really. It’s all about mood, and I’m a big fantasizer. I’m not a fan of porn precisely because it’s never as good as what I can think up myself, and whatever I’m thinking of is going to influence what I’m doing or using. Sometimes a vibe is in order, sometimes manual, sometimes penetration, sometimes not. In the right frame of mind, I can get off with an especially delicious thought and a couple of kegels. Oh, and I’m 38 (well, tomorrow!). That last trick takes years of practice, you know. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Sir\_T-Cups](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ed655f/32.png) [@Sir\_T-Cups](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sir_T-Cups)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/56 "2009-02-03T19:13:23Z")
So **Kerrigan** and **Guiltitheral** when you say “no partners” are you saying you girls are virgins? ---
**Author:** ![John\_DiFool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_difool/32/19543_2.png) [@John\_DiFool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_DiFool)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/57 "2009-02-03T19:17:46Z")
> [@Scougs](#): > > Rampant Rabbit vibe. Almost daily. Direct clitoral stimulation does it for me. Usually fantasy-assisted, even if the fantasy is just about being watched. > > Intrigued by all this through-the-panties action here - might give it a try! You and me both. Umm…be back in 5… ---
**Author:** ![Santo\_Rugger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@Santo\_Rugger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Santo_Rugger)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/58 "2009-02-03T19:23:08Z")
> [@Freudian\_Slit](#): > > Actually I’ve heard of some guys who do the hump the pillow/rub up against something thing, too. Maybe the men are just as varied! It’s called “face down” masturbation when men do it that way. It’s not good for them, because it puts pressure on the wrong spots and makes it difficult to achieve an orgasm when they’re with a partner. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/59 "2009-02-03T20:06:48Z")
> [@Santo\_Rugger](#): > > It’s called “face down” masturbation when men do it that way. It’s not good for them, because it puts pressure on the wrong spots and makes it difficult to achieve an orgasm when they’re with a partner. Really? The one guy I’ve been with who’s used that method came pretty easily. What are the wrong spots to put pressure on? ---
**Author:** ![Typo\_Negative](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/typo_negative/32/484_2.png) [@Typo\_Negative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Typo_Negative)\ **Post date:** [February 3, 2009, 9:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048/60 "2009-02-03T21:28:07Z")
OK, I have to ask… Those ladies who like only the clitoral stimulation while masturbating, is it the same when you receive oral? And if so, do you give your partner direction? Or let him\her figure it out on their own? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-how-do-you-masturbate/484048.md?page=4)