# Female dopers - would you want to watch your partner do it with another guy? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [March 6, 2011, 10:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-would-you-want-to-watch-your-partner-do-it-with-another-guy/573674 "2011-03-06T10:51:30Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2011, 1:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-would-you-want-to-watch-your-partner-do-it-with-another-guy/573674/21 "2011-03-07T13:13:45Z")
> [@Illuminatiprimus](#): > > I think this is a complete overreaction, personally. Are you seriously saying that someone isn’t allowed to have an emotional connection with another human being once they get married? No, I’m not saying that at all. What I’m saying is that if your SO has an emotional connection to someone else _that you find threatening_, something is wrong. Either you’re too sensitive and mistrusting or that connection \*is \*threatening to the relationship, and either way, you’ve got Issues that should be dealt with head on. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2011, 1:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-would-you-want-to-watch-your-partner-do-it-with-another-guy/573674/22 "2011-03-07T13:43:58Z")
99.99999% of cases, no. There’s a handful of exceptions I might be willing to make, but only because I’d want to get in on the action, which is actually a different question. ---
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2011, 3:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-would-you-want-to-watch-your-partner-do-it-with-another-guy/573674/23 "2011-03-07T15:03:36Z")
> [@WhyNot](#): > > No, I’m not saying that at all. What I’m saying is that if your SO has an emotional connection to someone else _that you find threatening_, something is wrong. Either you’re too sensitive and mistrusting or that connection \*is \*threatening to the relationship, and either way, you’ve got Issues that should be dealt with head on. Okay, thaks. Clarification gratefully received. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2011, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-would-you-want-to-watch-your-partner-do-it-with-another-guy/573674/24 "2011-03-07T15:23:50Z")
> [@Heyoka13](#): > > Um, no you don’t. > > I’m the best buddy that moved away. John’s wife and I were both STUNNED at John’s reaction . . . > > :eek: I have a few very good friends who I’d miss terribly if they moved away. I’m not sexually intimate with my girlfriends (yuck) but we share more common interests than I share with my husband. Because we’re in the same place (e.g. middle class, teenage children, married to Type A men), we understand and support each other in a way that my husband cannot. So, if one of my really good girlfriends moved away, I’d be somewhat devastated. ---
**Author:** ![simster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/simster/32/1047_2.png) [@simster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/simster)\ **Post date:** [March 7, 2011, 6:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-would-you-want-to-watch-your-partner-do-it-with-another-guy/573674/25 "2011-03-07T18:39:07Z")
> [@PunditLisa](#): > > I have a few very good friends who I’d miss terribly if they moved away. I’m not sexually intimate with my girlfriends (yuck) but we share more common interests than I share with my husband. Because we’re in the same place (e.g. middle class, teenage children, married to Type A men), we understand and support each other in a way that my husband cannot. > > So, if one of my really good girlfriends moved away, I’d be somewhat devastated. yeah - but you’re a _girl_ - thats par for the course. Clearly husbands are not allowed to show such emotion - especially for another fella or \ a different girl once married. \ [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-dopers-would-you-want-to-watch-your-partner-do-it-with-another-guy/573674.md?page=1)