# Female overanalyzing **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 1, 2010, 7:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470 "2010-06-01T07:27:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![BigBertha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d78d45/32.png) [@BigBertha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigBertha)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2010, 4:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/81 "2010-08-02T04:17:49Z")
6, your answer has convinced me it was a silly idea to ask opinions of dopers about this, though you may not have intended it that way. ---
**Author:** ![6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e19adc/32.png) [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2010, 4:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/82 "2010-08-02T04:23:00Z")
With all due respect **BigBertha** , I probably think it’s a silly idea to ask _anyone’s_ opinion on this. ---
**Author:** ![BigBertha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d78d45/32.png) [@BigBertha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigBertha)\ **Post date:** [August 2, 2010, 4:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/83 "2010-08-02T04:24:45Z")
True, it would be almost like asking Sylvia. Almost. But I thank y’all for the good advice. ---
**Author:** ![BigBertha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d78d45/32.png) [@BigBertha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigBertha)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2010, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/84 "2010-08-05T03:19:15Z")
Yeah, I know i said I wouldn’t be back here, but I called him today and told him I was going to the library. We go most every night, its free and a/c. He said “I might head up there.” So we got there, and there he comes. Hes never there, we would’ve seen him before. Don’t worry, I’ll be back eventually to let you know when (and if) we have sex.😛 ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2010, 10:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/85 "2010-08-05T10:11:54Z")
Ooooh, library sex. Nice. ---
**Author:** ![6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e19adc/32.png) [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2010, 10:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/86 "2010-08-05T10:35:33Z")
> [@BigBertha](#): > > So we got there, and there he comes. I’m tellin’ ya \*\*BigBertha \*\*- forget the sex . It’ll only end in tears if he comes \*that \*quickly. ---
**Author:** ![Justin\_Bailey](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/justin_bailey/32/8792_2.png) [@Justin\_Bailey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Justin_Bailey)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2010, 10:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/87 "2010-08-05T10:57:51Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > Ooooh, library sex. Nice. Fuck no! It’s bad enough catching two teenagers with their hands down each other’s pants. I think I’d have to beat some ass if I caught two 50-year olds going at it under the Danielle Steel books. ---
**Author:** ![6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/6/e19adc/32.png) [@6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/6ImpossibleThingsB4Breakfast)\ **Post date:** [August 5, 2010, 11:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/88 "2010-08-05T11:41:45Z")
> [@Justin\_Bailey](#): > > Fuck no! It’s bad enough catching two teenagers with their hands down each other’s pants. I think I’d have to beat some ass if I caught two 50-year olds going at it under the Danielle Steel books. Ah ya see **Justin\_Bailey** here’s the rub - it’d be a 50-year-old and a 31-year-old… EEEEW!!!Danielle Steel?!? ---
**Author:** ![BigBertha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d78d45/32.png) [@BigBertha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigBertha)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2010, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/89 "2010-08-26T01:50:41Z")
yeah I feel like updating, shoot me Was walking down the street and heard my name, he came across the street and went to some meeting about the city, we joined him. He was going to go home but said he wanted to walk me home most of the way. He was talking about raising money (politically) and said if he had it, he would take me to lunch. Which is nice. ---
**Author:** ![BigBertha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d78d45/32.png) [@BigBertha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigBertha)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2010, 1:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/90 "2010-08-26T01:54:50Z")
> [@EvilTOJ](#): > > FUCK HIM! Fuck him right now!! Give me time, I am working on it! ---
**Author:** ![EvilTOJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee59a6/32.png) [@EvilTOJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EvilTOJ)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2010, 10:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/91 "2010-08-26T10:31:57Z")
You’ve had a month, so chop chop! Times a wastin’. ---
**Author:** ![BigBertha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d78d45/32.png) [@BigBertha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigBertha)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2010, 12:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/92 "2010-11-05T00:44:26Z")
Thanks for all the help but I have to be over it now. Turns out he got a car; I asked him for a ride to the grocery store for my weekly groceries. Sure, he said. So he picked us up, dropped us off, as he was doing some yard work for this guy. Then he picked us back up, took us home, and went back to the guys, saying he’d be back in 10 minutes to take me up to a place with my application. Never showed up. The app is still in his car.☹ I still like him but cannot accept being stood up. ---
**Author:** ![appleciders](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@appleciders](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/appleciders)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2010, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/93 "2010-11-05T00:49:00Z")
As to the “sweetie”- I occasionally address my female friends as “sweetie” but only when they’re crying or hyperventilating. It’s a comforting thing, not just a familiarity thing, and I don’t think I refer to my girlfriend as “sweetie” any more often than I do my female friends. ---
**Author:** ![Norse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/a9adbd/32.png) [@Norse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Norse)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2010, 6:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/94 "2010-11-05T06:45:52Z")
> [@DCnDC](#): > > Assume no one can take a hint. I totally agree. Some of us are so dense that we can’t see a hint before it’s about as subtle as a kick in the butt or a kiss on the lips. That kind of people need to be told in LARGE. CAPITAL. LETTERS. AND. NOT. MORE. THAN. TWO. SYLLABLES. But may be quite nice and receptive after they’ve taken the not-so-subtle hint. What are you gonna do if **he** ’s shy? What are you gonna do if he’s keeping back because had bad experiences in the past from overinterpreting an innocent flirt without ulterior motives? What are you gonna do if he’s just that kind of guy who’s not a fan of the hard-to-get behavior (which to me seems rather prevalent in the US) and just wants that his partner _tells him what she wants_? ETA: Didn’t notice this was an old one. Oh, well. First paragraph still valid, tho’ ---
**Author:** ![BigBertha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d78d45/32.png) [@BigBertha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigBertha)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2010, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/95 "2010-11-05T20:41:17Z")
Okay. he called today claiming the guy made him work extra and then he came over but we had already left (true) then called me later. It didn’t show up on my caller i.d. though. He came over and did drive me up to turn my application in, then when he droped me off, he asked if I had a few bucks to spare. I do not. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [November 5, 2010, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/96 "2010-11-05T23:25:50Z")
This guy is full of shit. Fuck him. Err, _don’t_ fuck him. And tell him to stop hitting you up for money. ---
**Author:** ![BigBertha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d78d45/32.png) [@BigBertha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigBertha)\ **Post date:** [November 6, 2010, 1:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/97 "2010-11-06T01:24:48Z")
Thanks MOL. I have no income right now, actually. ---
**Author:** ![BigBertha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/d78d45/32.png) [@BigBertha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigBertha)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2010, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/98 "2010-11-17T18:12:32Z")
He called last Friday telling me theres this place we could go to get work that day, they send you out to a job, he said he’d drive me if it was a different location than they send him. Said he’d call back with more info Sunday. No call yet. ---
**Author:** ![Askance](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/askance/32/8281_2.png) [@Askance](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askance)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2010, 4:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/99 "2010-11-19T04:01:41Z")
Oh dear. Con artist. Get away. NOW. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [November 19, 2010, 4:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470/100 "2010-11-19T04:15:41Z")
Possible con artist. Definite flake. You can do better for boyfriends, friends, and general acquaintances, **BigBertha.** [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/female-overanalyzing/541470.md?page=6)