# Feminine equivalent to "cuckold?" **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [December 14, 2004, 5:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/feminine-equivalent-to-cuckold/279744 "2004-12-14T05:43:34Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![AK84](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85e7bf/32.png) [@AK84](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AK84)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2015, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/feminine-equivalent-to-cuckold/279744/21 "2015-11-12T05:08:46Z")
> [@Rich\_Lang](#): > > Cuckquean is a gender opposite term of cuckold derived from Middle English (1562 CE). > > Cuckquean refers to a woman with an adulterous husband. In modern English it generally refers to the sexual fetish in which sexual gratification is gained from maintenance or observation of sexual relations by a man with a woman or a number of women besides his girlfriend, fiancé, wife or other long-term female sex partner, and therefore, the reversed gender roles of a cuckold relationship.[ Welcome to the Dope. Answered 10 years ago. By **aldiboronti** \*\*Maastricht \*\* that was…oddly specific. ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/46a35a/32.png) [@Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_T-Bonham.net)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2015, 9:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/feminine-equivalent-to-cuckold/279744/22 "2015-11-12T09:11:05Z")
> [@ccwaterback](#): > > Perhaps the word was never defined, because it was always OK for the man to be unfaithful. And still is, in some places. Here in Minnesota, statute 609.36 ADULTERY says _“When a married woman has sexual intercourse with a man other than her husband, whether married or not, both are guilty of adultery and may be sentenced …”_ Nothing whatsoever about a married man with a woman other than his wife. (Also appears that same-sex couples can’t commit adultery in Minnesota (but bisexuals can)). ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2015, 12:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/feminine-equivalent-to-cuckold/279744/23 "2015-11-12T12:12:43Z")
> [@Askia](#): > > I kept focussing on “cuckold” being somehow related to cock and the sexual act and not the logical result (raising someone else’s kid) so for the very first time I get the term, Larry. It also explains why a woman can’t be a cuckold – unlike a man, if her husband sleeps around, she isn’t very well going to be unwittingly raising another woman’s child as her own. Not unwittingly since it’s pretty evident that kid didn’t come out of you, but raising the child your husband had from a mistress has been known to happen and I don’t only mean in royal families. [This](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=12717372&postcount=36) is a case I’ve known in person, I’ve also heard of families in different Latin American locations and in Spain doing it more or less openly. Some would call the sudden extra child a foundling, some didn’t bother. ---
**Author:** ![Earl\_Snake-Hips\_Tucker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/earl_snake-hips_tucker/32/3269_2.png) [@Earl\_Snake-Hips\_Tucker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Earl_Snake-Hips_Tucker)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2015, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/feminine-equivalent-to-cuckold/279744/24 "2015-11-12T15:35:10Z")
^^You might already know this, but you’re about 8 years too late for him to read this response. ---
**Author:** ![barbitu8](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/839c29/32.png) [@barbitu8](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/barbitu8)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2015, 9:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/feminine-equivalent-to-cuckold/279744/25 "2015-11-12T21:14:42Z")
> [@t-bonham@scc.net](#): > > And still is, in some places. > > Here in Minnesota, statute 609.36 ADULTERY says _“When a married woman has sexual intercourse with a man other than her husband, whether married or not, both are guilty of adultery and may be sentenced …”_ > > Nothing whatsoever about a married man with a woman other than his wife. > > (Also appears that same-sex couples can’t commit adultery in Minnesota (but bisexuals can)). I think that law would be unenforceable as it is unconstitutional, being sex discriminate. ---
**Author:** ![Doctor\_Jackson](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/doctor_jackson/32/32_2.png) [@Doctor\_Jackson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doctor_Jackson)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2015, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/feminine-equivalent-to-cuckold/279744/26 "2015-11-12T21:38:32Z")
Content is the woman who rocks her child And rocks her child alone For many a man rocks another man’s child When he thinks he’s rocking his own. Unknown (at least by me, anyway) ---
**Author:** ![fiddlesticks](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fiddlesticks/32/18129_2.png) [@fiddlesticks](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fiddlesticks)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2015, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/feminine-equivalent-to-cuckold/279744/27 "2015-11-12T21:54:14Z")
> [@aldiboronti](#): > > There’s a word for everything! > > **Cuckquean** _a female cuckold_ , first cite 1560, obsolete. > From the Oxford English Dictionary. There is a particular brand of “cuckquean” Tumblr blogs (NSFW) nowadays, OED might think about removing “obsolete” from the entry next time. Not sure how many of those blogs are actually written/created by women though. ---
**Author:** ![Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/46a35a/32.png) [@Tim\_T-Bonham.net](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tim_T-Bonham.net)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2015, 10:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/feminine-equivalent-to-cuckold/279744/28 "2015-11-12T22:57:13Z")
> [@Doctor\_Jackson](#): > > Content is the woman who rocks her child > And rocks her child alone > For many a man rocks another man’s child > When he thinks he’s rocking his own. > > Unknown (at least by me, anyway) When I worked in a western store (back in the 1970’s) we had a customer come in, who paid cash for an engraved wood plaque, and paid extra for us to gift wrap it and mail it (unsigned) to a Judge at the County Courthouse. The plaque read: _“There ain’t no Justice in this here land The Judge gave a divorce to my ol’ man. But I sure laughed at his decision He gave him the kids, an they ain’t his’n.”_ ---
**Author:** ![brujaja](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/4af34b/32.png) [@brujaja](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brujaja)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/feminine-equivalent-to-cuckold/279744/29 "2015-11-13T01:53:06Z")
> [@Maastricht](#): > > Whatever the word turns out to be, it can be used to describe the feeling you have, as a woman, when you’ve found out that your husband has been hanging up kitchen cabinets and installed wall to wall carpeting in the house of your female rival. **Maastricht:** Can’t resist a bad joke here. Maybe he wanted to make sure the curtains match the rug. but as far as that feeling goes, I think it’s captured best by Marianne Faithfull. [“Why’d Ya Do It?”](http://www.lyricsfreak.com/m/marianne+faithfull/whyd+ya+do+it+_20088583.html) Worth listening to the song on YouTube. My favorite line: “Why’d ya do it, she said, why’d ya do what you did, Betray my little oyster for such a low bitch.” ---
**Author:** ![Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/qadgop_the_mercotan/32/83_2.png) [@Qadgop\_the\_Mercotan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Qadgop_the_Mercotan)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2015, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/feminine-equivalent-to-cuckold/279744/30 "2015-11-13T02:50:56Z")
Per Dan Savage, it’s “cuckqueen”. A little googling verifies this. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/feminine-equivalent-to-cuckold/279744.md?page=1)