I should clarify again,
I realize what I have been offering are what people working on the problem call “soft filters” which mean they reduce the chances.
A “hard filter” would be a single issue that explains everything in one go and would be what would be required to “resolve” the paradox for many people.
But right now the general fudging numbers with the fuzzy part of the social portion of the Drake equation that most people use put the number of “advanced civilizations” somewhere between none and a ~15,000.
Recent number of powerball tickets sold on one of the big jackpot run ups ($456.7 Million won on 03/17/18).
4.62% chance for 13,498,238 tickets
4.89% chance for 14,293,921 tickets
4.24% chance for 12,387,150 tickets
5.14% chance for 15,024,559 tickets
4.64% chance for 13,570,900 tickets
5.66% chance for 16,550,828 tickets
5.17% chance for 15,097,182 tickets
6.14% chance for 17,937,561 tickets
5.36% chance for 15,652,638 tickets
6.28% chance for 18,340,583 tickets
6.34% chance for 18,515,054 tickets
7.28% chance for 21,262,539 tickets
6.71% chance for 19,609,833 tickets
7.83% chance for 22,866,868 tickets
7.82% chance for 22,856,063 tickets
9.48% chance for 27,711,369 tickets
9.36% chance for 27,357,412 tickets
10.81% chance for 31,595,593 tickets
12.40% chance for 36,246,189 tickets
15.33% chance for 44,791,214 tickets
In total they sold 425,165,694 tickets for a ~ 1:292,201,338 chance of win in any one draw.
If you have a ton of “soft filters” that are additive including the chances the chances that Von Neumann nano probes go Skynet or self replicate until life on the planet is killed off, their planet is too heavy for chemical rocket, or the tech required to make small fusion reactors is used to wipe out life with nuclear war it is not hard to reach powerball like odds.
If you see the challenges we have on our own planet trying to get people to agree to limit the avoidable effects of climate change it is clear that we are at risk of not making it past “The Great Filter” ourselves. The Cuban missile crisis also almost ended the world too.
We need to have people thinking about this problem, but once again we don’t know enough to say the lack of observations of other life is proof we are alone, we are just narrowing where we need to keep looking. Just like powerball example above our short time looking and we may not be lucky enough to be in a time period where we hit the jackpot.