# Fetishes..hmm.. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [October 25, 1999, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972 "1999-10-25T19:53:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Pennywise](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/2bfe46/32.png) [@Pennywise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pennywise)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 1999, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/1 "1999-10-25T19:53:00Z")
OK, I made this post for a couple of reasons. One of those reasons was that I have no idea where fetishes can originate. I looked in the dictionary and all I got was a non-sexual thing/object that doesn’t normally have a sexual connotation. I’ve searched far and wide for an actual answer and I can never find one. This post could have went on general questions, but I just thought it really had no relevancy anywhere. Also, does anybody out there have one that they don’t understand? With me, I have this thing towards feet. I’ve told a couple people and they’ve totally thought me strange. I really can’t help the fact that I like feet in particular. It really makes no sense to me and it would be a huge help if anybody clarified this topic for me. * * * We all float down here… ---
**Author:** ![BurnMeUp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@BurnMeUp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BurnMeUp)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 1999, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/2 "1999-10-25T19:55:00Z")
I have a few ## Freckles neck lines shaved large nipples (not necessarily breasts) Magnificent to behold - Greatly to be praised. ---
**Author:** ![SqrlCub](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea5d25/32.png) [@SqrlCub](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SqrlCub)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 1999, 7:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/3 "1999-10-25T19:55:00Z")
I have a fetish for fat, hairy, older men. Santa would be my ideal mate. Many of the dopers already know that. Somehow when I post about this my posts seem to disappear even though it is true. HUGS! Sqrl * * * Move over Satan. 😉 Now there’s something meatier. [http://smallwonder.simplenet.com/COC.html](http://smallwonder.simplenet.com/COC.html) ---
**Author:** ![LongHrn99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/a88e4f/32.png) [@LongHrn99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LongHrn99)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 1999, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/4 "1999-10-25T20:46:00Z")
Okay, here’s what a fetish is (I’m remembering this from a psych class I took last year, so bear with me if I get some details wrong). It’s a type of psychological conditioning in which a person becomes so used to a certain object to the point where they can only get aroused by having that object. That means some men can’t erections without that object being visible to them. For example lets take a guy that has a fetish for panties. He regularly holds them or rubs his face with them while he masturbates. He becomes conditioned to them, and he has to have them with him when he has sex. Also, if just seeing an object makes you aroused (like the panties, not naked women)you have a fetish for that object. So sorry to burst your bubble Sqrl, you just have a personal preference for Santa, not a fetish. I can’t say for sure about you, Burn, because, well, you didn’t give away any clues. My guess is that’s just a personal preference as well. * * * “There are many sweeping generalizations that are always true” -Space Ghost ---
**Author:** ![BurnMeUp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/91b2a8/32.png) [@BurnMeUp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BurnMeUp)\ **Post date:** [October 25, 1999, 9:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/5 "1999-10-25T21:05:00Z")
Well I can function without them but let’s just say that any time i have or see one of the abovr it makes doing my part a hell of a lot easier! * * * Magnificent to behold - Greatly to be praised. ---
**Author:** ![Omniscient](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omniscient/32/3290_2.png) [@Omniscient](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omniscient)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 1999, 6:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/6 "1999-10-26T06:37:00Z")
Yes, LongHrn basically said the going sentiment from the professionals. Not that this holds a lot of water in the real world of conversation, but if you tell a shrink or doctor that you have a fetish he’ll likely assume that you need **X** to function sexually. Now the real definition of a fetish in actual conversation has become the particular aspects that you enjoy most about the opposite sex (or same). This is quite inaccurate, and is kinda confusing when discussing serious problems. A hybrid of the two which seems to be gaining more acceptance is the concept of a non-typical sexual activity. Be it leather, latex, ass play, bodily functions, hot wax, or just about any porn genre you’ve heard about. What do I consider the definition of a fetish? Well, I tend to use it as the parts of a person that appeal to me which are not directly sexual in nature. Schoolgirl and Cheerleader skirts for example, and tan lines. I love small perky nipples (not necessarily breasts), but would not consider that a fetish, just a preference. I don’t suppose any of this has cleared things up in the least. Basically its one of those words which everyone has their own definition for, and because of that the dictionaries haven’t pinned it down yet. ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 1999, 8:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/7 "1999-10-26T08:05:00Z")
So you don’t want us to list what our extreme sexual proclivities are? Whew!! That’s a relief… **slinks away** * * * “Well, roll me in eggs and flour and bake me for forty minutes!” [The Legend Of PigeonMan](http://www.hotkey.net.au/~guanolad/pigeonman/) - updates every Wed & Sat ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 1999, 1:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/8 "1999-10-26T13:32:00Z")
Squrlcub, Santa only comes once a year! ---
**Author:** ![SqrlCub](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea5d25/32.png) [@SqrlCub](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SqrlCub)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 1999, 2:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/9 "1999-10-26T14:49:00Z")
Lonhrn, Santa’s uniform also turns me on. Just seeing it does it to me. When I was taking psych classes, I heard that too; although, when I took human sexuality, my professor said that fetishes can also extend onto people rather than inanimate objects. This completely contradicted what I heard in introductory psych. At least then I did not think there was anything unusual about it. Orangecakes: (to adapt a Vandal’s song) Santa’s neato Santa’s fun Santa makes love to everyone. I know he only comes once a year, that is why I have my Santa suit on the ready. HUGS! Sqrl * * * Move over Satan. 😉 Now there’s something meatier. [http://smallwonder.simplenet.com/COC.html](http://smallwonder.simplenet.com/COC.html) ---
**Author:** ![neuro-trash\_grrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3ab097/32.png) [@neuro-trash\_grrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/neuro-trash_grrrl)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 1999, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/10 "1999-10-26T15:53:00Z")
Santa only comes once a year? My god, how does he manage? His balls must be about ready to explode by the time Christmas rolls around… ---
**Author:** ![neuro-trash\_grrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3ab097/32.png) [@neuro-trash\_grrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/neuro-trash_grrrl)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 1999, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/11 "1999-10-26T15:57:00Z")
Oh, yes, there’s a topic here, isn’t there? Well, I don’t really know where fetishes come from. I have a lot of them, if anybody really wants to know what they are, I’ll tell them. Around about the time I became aware that my love for my fellow woman was starting to get out of hand, I started becoming very aroused by other things as well. All I know is that I thought that these things were normal until I was informed that they weren’t. ---
**Author:** ![Triskadecamus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/b19c9b/32.png) [@Triskadecamus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Triskadecamus)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 1999, 4:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/12 "1999-10-26T16:02:00Z")
Uh, did I mention that I am a portly middle aged man, with a long white beard, and curly grey and white hair that comes down past my shoulders? No? Oh, well, . . . nevermind. (Where did I put that darned red suit? hmmmmm) \

Tris\ ---

**Author:** ![Polycarp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/82dd89/32.png) [@Polycarp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Polycarp)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 1999, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/13 "1999-10-26T16:22:00Z")
Oh, I thought you were a two-year-old blonde cutie who was extremely precocious. :::reads fine print “That’s not me.”:::: Oh. Well, at least I didn’t think you were a cherry tree in full bloom! ---
**Author:** ![SqrlCub](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea5d25/32.png) [@SqrlCub](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SqrlCub)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 1999, 5:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/14 "1999-10-27T05:13:00Z")
I love you Triskadecamus. 😉 I have the suit if you have the time. If you want to roleplay, I also have an elf suit. 🙂 HUGS! Sqrl * * * Move over Satan. 😉 Now there’s something meatier. [http://smallwonder.simplenet.com/COC.html](http://smallwonder.simplenet.com/COC.html) ---
**Author:** ![LongHrn99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/a88e4f/32.png) [@LongHrn99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LongHrn99)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 1999, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/15 "1999-10-27T03:50:00Z")
I think that last post belongs in the “Things I didn’t need to know” thread. * * * “There are many sweeping generalizations that are always true” -Space Ghost ---
**Author:** ![tanstaafl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ba8739/32.png) [@tanstaafl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tanstaafl)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 1999, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/16 "1999-10-27T03:56:00Z")
And I was wondering why I rarely checked the MPSIMS board… ---
**Author:** ![Omniscient](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omniscient/32/3290_2.png) [@Omniscient](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omniscient)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 1999, 5:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/17 "1999-10-27T05:42:00Z")
Yeah, what they said! ---
**Author:** ![Byzantine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/dfb087/32.png) [@Byzantine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Byzantine)\ **Post date:** [October 27, 1999, 5:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fetishes-hmm/9972/18 "1999-10-27T05:58:00Z")
A fetish need not be sexual. IMHO (with some back up from the 30 pound, unabridged, Webster’s dictionary) a fetish is “any object, animate or inanimate, natural or artificial, regarded with a feeling of awe” I have a fetish for pine strewn mountains and running streams. Do I desire them sexually? No. I wouldn’t mind making love in them or near them but they don’t turn me on. I just find myself filled with awe whenever I am around them. But hey, that’s just me. I’ve been told I’m a queer duck!