# Finding Love on Straight Dope **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 23, 2016, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930 "2016-01-23T02:04:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![TheLadyMage](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8c91f0/32.png) [@TheLadyMage](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheLadyMage)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2016, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/1 "2016-01-23T02:04:03Z")
Has anyone ever found love/a relationship by meeting on this forum? I’d like to know. ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2016, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/2 "2016-01-23T02:06:29Z")
**Asimovian/jsgoddess** comes to mind. I think they met at a Dopefest. ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2016, 2:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/3 "2016-01-23T02:06:55Z")
There have been a fair number of couples meeting her and getting married and a few kids too. ---
**Author:** ![Count\_Blucher](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Count\_Blucher](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Count_Blucher)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2016, 2:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/4 "2016-01-23T02:36:06Z")
…and good for them! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![WOOKINPANUB](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wookinpanub/32/132_2.png) [@WOOKINPANUB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WOOKINPANUB)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2016, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/5 "2016-01-23T02:43:14Z")
Well, I’ve been _WOOKINPANUB_\* for many years and aside from a few pleasant dates with one doper whom I don’t think comes here anymore, not so much. - Just kidding; I did not choose the name because I was “looking for love” here. ---
**Author:** ![Wendell\_Wagner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/8491ac/32.png) [@Wendell\_Wagner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wendell_Wagner)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2016, 4:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/6 "2016-01-23T04:22:02Z")
Here’s a thread from 2004 with a list of couples who had gotten married because of the SDMB: > **[Who got married because of the Dope?](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=237632)** > > Who got married to someone on the Dope, and met that person here? I just read the sperfur/withaK thread, and I’m wondering how many other couples there are. Is it in the neighborhood of eight, a dozen, what? It’s apparently not as common anymore. I think this is because it’s not as common to have Dopefests (i.e., get-togethers for Dopers) anymore. I’m not sure though. Does that match other posters’ perceptions? ---
**Author:** ![Spoons](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spoons/32/3141_2.png) [@Spoons](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spoons)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2016, 6:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/7 "2016-01-23T06:17:47Z")
I did meet a lady here, with whom I went out a few times. But nothing came of it, and we went our separate ways. ---
**Author:** ![ITR\_champion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c67d28/32.png) [@ITR\_champion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ITR_champion)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2016, 6:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/8 "2016-01-23T06:18:46Z")
> [@Wendell\_Wagner](#): > > Here’s a thread from 2004 with a list of couples who had gotten married because of the SDMB: > > [Who got married because of the Dope? - Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share - Straight Dope Message Board](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=237632) > > It’s apparently not as common anymore. I think this is because it’s not as common to have Dopefests (i.e., get-togethers for Dopers) anymore. I’m not sure though. Does that match other posters’ perceptions? Also, there were a lot more people around back in 2004. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2016, 6:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/9 "2016-01-23T06:44:46Z")
I met my first boyfriend on here. We were together for, I think, three years. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2016, 9:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/10 "2016-01-23T09:32:29Z")
Why, are you looking? PM me. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Wendell\_Wagner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/8491ac/32.png) [@Wendell\_Wagner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wendell_Wagner)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2016, 11:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/11 "2016-01-23T11:27:44Z")
Is it really true that there are much fewer people posting to the SDMB now than in 2004? Does anyone have any numbers? I don’t know how to get numbers on how many people are regularly posting to the SDMB in any time period. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2016, 12:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/12 "2016-01-23T12:13:31Z")
> [@Wendell\_Wagner](#): > > Is it really true that there are much fewer people posting to the SDMB now than in 2004? Does anyone have any numbers? I don’t know how to get numbers on how many people are regularly posting to the SDMB in any time period. Yeah. I made a [thread about it here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=765043&highlight=traffic). Was just looking at the more recent history, but [this post by Giraffe](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=18601720&postcount=10) showed average numbers over the last 5 years: > [@Has board traffic gone down significantly?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/has-board-traffic-gone-down-significantly/727820/10): > > Here’s the data on daily averages since 2010: > > 2010: Threads: 117, Posts: 3,730 > 2011: Threads: 109, Posts: 3,582 > 2012: Threads: 99, Posts: 3,339 > 2013: Threads: 89, Posts: 3,058 > 2014: Threads: 76, Posts: 2,861 > 2015: Threads: 81, Posts: 2,572 > > So we’re down about 30% over the past five years. And the trend is not encouraging. I don’t even know what it’d look like going back to '04. But it was probably even higher then. ---
**Author:** ![glee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b5a626/32.png) [@glee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/glee)\ **Post date:** [January 23, 2016, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/13 "2016-01-23T23:27:33Z")
I saw a Las Vegas Dopefest advertised here and after some StraightDope chat travelled from England to attend. I became friends with some Americans who attended the Dopefest and have visited them in Vegas several times since. 🆒 ---
**Author:** ![LC\_Strawhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@LC\_Strawhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LC_Strawhouse)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2016, 12:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/14 "2016-01-24T00:14:49Z")
> [@Wendell\_Wagner](#): > > Is it really true that there are much fewer people posting to the SDMB now than in 2004? Does anyone have any numbers? I don’t know how to get numbers on how many people are regularly posting to the SDMB in any time period. The flip side is there used to be WAY more fluff on the board. People who now dick around on Facebook or their blogs used to use this board for that purpose. I recall lots of tiresome “board drama” with people breaking into factions supporting one wannabe-class-clown over another… all a total waste of bandwidth. ---
**Author:** ![TheLadyMage](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/8c91f0/32.png) [@TheLadyMage](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheLadyMage)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2016, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/15 "2016-01-24T00:22:11Z")
> [@Rigamarole](#): > > Why, are you looking? PM me. 🙂 Ha-ha. I’m currently single, but not looking for anyone. I’ll likely be leaving in a year for a mission trip. And, no, I’m not mormon. It’s an interdenominational mission trip. The requirement, however, is that you are not allowed to date before or during the trip. It cuts back on the drama as they have both genders participating in the trip. It also cuts back on the amount of distractions that participants experience. It’s called the World Race. I’d be leaving eleven months from now, and since the trip is 11 months long then that means 22 months of forced celibacy/singleness. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Nylock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/77aa72/32.png) [@Mr.Nylock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Nylock)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2016, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/16 "2016-01-24T01:36:43Z")
> [@LC\_Strawhouse](#): > > The flip side is there used to be WAY more fluff on the board. People who now dick around on Facebook or their blogs used to use this board for that purpose. I recall lots of tiresome “board drama” with people breaking into factions supporting one wannabe-class-clown over another… all a total waste of bandwidth. I think that’s a big stretch as a way to explain it. Maybe some of it’s fluff, but there are other message board type places that have far more traffic, and are growing. The general trend is people spending _more_ time online. I myself like the SDMB, but the decline in activity isn’t something I applaud. ---
**Author:** ![Ms\_Boods](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5e9695/32.png) [@Ms\_Boods](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ms_Boods)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2016, 3:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/17 "2016-01-24T15:53:21Z")
> [@TheLadyMage](#): > > Has anyone ever found love/a relationship by meeting on this forum? I’d like to know. Two relationships, but not at the same time. ---
**Author:** ![Smeghead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f1d935/32.png) [@Smeghead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Smeghead)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2016, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/18 "2016-01-24T15:57:44Z")
There was also a #straightdope IRC chat room that was very active for many years, which encouraged socialization. ---
**Author:** ![WordMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/e8c25b/32.png) [@WordMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WordMan)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2016, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/19 "2016-01-24T16:53:31Z")
> [@Mr.Nylock](#): > > I think that’s a big stretch as a way to explain it. Maybe some of it’s fluff, but there are other message board type places that have far more traffic, and are growing. The general trend is people spending _more_ time online. I myself like the SDMB, but the decline in activity isn’t something I applaud. Are there messageboards that are growing? I have been observiing the decrease in SDMB traffic, the too-many bans, and the lack of newbies and just assumed the End was Nigh a few years down the road. If it is more of a question of how a messageboard is positioned, that would interesting to hear. ETA: I have noticed connections made over the history of the SDMB, and while I am sure it still happens, it appears to happen a bit less. ---
**Author:** ![Wendell\_Wagner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/8491ac/32.png) [@Wendell\_Wagner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wendell_Wagner)\ **Post date:** [January 24, 2016, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930/20 "2016-01-24T18:12:42Z")
I think the most important change that caused there to be less romances, marriages, children, etc. between Dopers is the slow disappearance of Dopefests. In the early 2000’s we used to have regular Dopefests in the Mid-Atlantic region. They are very rare now. I presume that this is true in other areas too. What’s going on to cause this? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-love-on-straight-dope/743930.md?page=2)