# Finding out a friend from high school now has her own Porn Site **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 28, 2002, 5:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204 "2002-05-28T17:19:22Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Fern\_Forest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/71c47a/32.png) [@Fern\_Forest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fern_Forest)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2002, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/41 "2002-05-30T06:04:29Z")
She does appear to be living in PA like you. Did you download the free video? Does it sound like her? Nah, I’d say you got me beat KK. It’s not her. Maybe somebody cloned her? ---
**Author:** ![Kricket](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f14d63/32.png) [@Kricket](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kricket)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2002, 1:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/42 "2002-05-30T13:19:52Z")
I’ve warned most of my family that if they come across anything titled Kricket to just leave it be. I’ve been on one site about two years ago and the pictures have already cycled out of the site. And without trying to turn this into a bebate, but I don’t understand why someone would put up their pictures, dance, or do movies if they are worried about people recognising them. There is most likely going to be someone out there somewhere who recognises you. ---
**Author:** ![Hamadryad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/6de8d8/32.png) [@Hamadryad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hamadryad)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2002, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/43 "2002-05-30T14:36:01Z")
_“Needless to say, she is now the butt of our jokes and we still laugh at the mere thought of it.”_ How open-minded, tolerant, and mature of you. Sounds like you were a great friend to her, all right. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2002, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/44 "2002-05-30T14:57:14Z")
People shouldn’t see the humor in Miss Lecturing-Others-On-Their-Morals doing lesbian porn on the Internet? For people who’d been around ‘Miss LOOTM’ in that incarnation, I’d expect discovery of her new life to be not just a funny-once, but a funny-for-quite-some-time. ---
**Author:** ![Arnold\_Winkelried](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Arnold\_Winkelried](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arnold_Winkelried)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2002, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/45 "2002-05-30T15:23:02Z")
Sure Kricket but some other people might think “that’s so-and-so from high school” and start telling all their friends about it, and _be mistaken_. So unless I got confirmation from the party involved I wouldn’t go repeating a rumor as fact. In addition some people might be driven to porn because of dire financial need and hope that none of their friends/family IRL will find out about it. What “proof” does the person in the OP have? Someone at the porn site asks “is this your real name and did you go to this school” and is booted from the site. That might be SOP for the porn site, because they probably get that quite often and some of the people appearing in the photos want to remain anonymous. The other evidence is that a bunch of people say “It looks just like her.” A little more convincing but it wouldn’t be enough evidence to make me bet a large sum of money that it really is her. Of course I’m not a gambler. ---
**Author:** ![ElwoodCuse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/edb3f5/32.png) [@ElwoodCuse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ElwoodCuse)\ **Post date:** [May 30, 2002, 7:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/46 "2002-05-30T19:10:04Z")
Savage Love talks about this very subject this week. [http://www.theonionavclub.com/avclub3820/savage3820.html](http://www.theonionavclub.com/avclub3820/savage3820.html) ---
**Author:** ![Neptune](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5a626/32.png) [@Neptune](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Neptune)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2002, 12:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/47 "2002-05-31T00:26:38Z")
> [@](#): > > Neptune- …You’re not serious, are you? I _am_ serious. I know two teenage girls, sisters of two friends, who were sent to Bible camp by their parents and returned pregnant. I swear. Really. ---
**Author:** ![Princhester](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/3e96dc/32.png) [@Princhester](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Princhester)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2002, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/48 "2002-05-31T03:40:32Z")
Look let’s face it, churches are communities. Bible camps are meetings of young people of a particular community. Whether it is acknowledged or not, the purpose of such things is for young people to find mates. I find it hard to recall _anyone_ at school who fell into the category of “married young, had a baby less than nine months later” who _wasn’t_ a self described born again Christian. And as for the person described in the OP, there is no one so fervent as a convert. Whether that’s a convert _to_ religion, or a convert _away_ from religion, makes no odds. ---
**Author:** ![NurseCarmen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/5daacb/32.png) [@NurseCarmen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NurseCarmen)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2002, 3:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/49 "2002-05-31T03:50:27Z")
I just have to giggle, go back and look at how many views this topic has had compared to any of the others. I love this place. We’re all just a bunch of gosh dang cerebral pre-verts. ---
**Author:** ![Already\_in\_Use](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9adbd/32.png) [@Already\_in\_Use](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Already_in_Use)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2002, 6:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/50 "2002-05-31T06:38:12Z")
Best line from the site **SweetLilKitty** e-mailed to me: “If you are not 18 years of age, or if you are law enforcement, or drive a Ford Escort you have to Leave now.” ---
**Author:** ![Koxinga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/4af34b/32.png) [@Koxinga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Koxinga)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2002, 6:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/51 "2002-05-31T06:51:06Z")
Are there any libel issues here, if it turns out the person you think looks _exactly_ like so-and-so turns out not really to be her? Or that somebody out there is trying to destroy that person’s reputation by photoshopping pictures? If you e-mail around the links or post them in a message board, are you leaving yourself open to litigation? Not being inflammatory–just curious. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2002, 7:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/52 "2002-05-31T07:27:37Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by SweetLilKitty \* > \*\*The site boasts a chat with the model/webmistress, one of my friends was chatting with her when he asked her if she was from the Levittown area and if her real name was (I’m not giving you her real name) and he was banned from her fan club and her chat immediately. \*\* Wow, your friend is an idiot! He mentioned her real name in chat? Where other people could see it?? Does he not understand why that is so very very wrong?!? –Opal, who knows a lot of online porn women, several of whom have had stalkers. ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2002, 11:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/53 "2002-05-31T11:14:58Z")
The thing about porn models is that, every single one of them have family. So therefore, they are real people who you possibly know. And the odds are increasing, I reckon. One of our models recently panicked when her boyfriend stumbled across the site and saw her ‘coming soon’ pic, so she called us and demanded we take her pictures down. She really had no idea that porn sites are visible to anybody. Another of our models was recognised, we got an email from an ex-boyfriend of hers just to say “Hey, I know her! Cool!” Most models have a fairly clear idea that they will be seen by people who have known them at one point, including family, and are not afraid of that. But there is a small percentage who actually think that if the pictures are for a particular country’s website, then the other countries won’t be able to see it. Our site, though made in Australia, is hosted in the US. If they are afraid that they’ll be seen by people they know, we tell them how likely that is - realistically. It calms them down a bit most of the time, but it also can cause a model to lose her bottle and scarper. The ones you see online (especially those hosting their own site under their own name) are almost definitely aware that they’ll be recognised. And are unafraid, and prepared for the consequences. ---
**Author:** ![SweetLilKitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/91b2a8/32.png) [@SweetLilKitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SweetLilKitty)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2002, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/54 "2002-05-31T16:26:18Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Doghouse Reilly \* > \*\*Are there any libel issues here, if it turns out the person you think looks _exactly_ like so-and-so turns out not really to be her? Or that somebody out there is trying to destroy that person’s reputation by photoshopping pictures? If you e-mail around the links or post them in a message board, are you leaving yourself open to litigation? > > Not being inflammatory–just curious. \*\* I haven’t mentioned anyone’s name, either on the boards or in the emails. I just mentioned that it is a friend I knew from high school and there are a lot of high schools in this area. I haven’t given out any real details about her. Just the link to those who requested it, if anything all I have really done was _possibly_ give this webmistress/ model some business. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2002, 4:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/55 "2002-05-31T16:55:52Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by OpalCat \* > \*\*Wow, your friend is an idiot! He mentioned her real name in chat? Where other people could see it?? Does he not understand why that is so very very wrong?!? > > –Opal, who knows a lot of online porn women, several of whom have had stalkers. \*\* **Opal** , I agree that it was wrong of him to bring up her real name online. But expecting him to understand “why that is so very very wrong” is asking an awful lot, IMHO. When I go to the hardware store, I’m not thinking about the difficulties of running a retail hardware business; I just want to get my lumber or my mulch, and get out of there. Similarly, when I visit a porn site, the trials and tribulations of the women whose photos are the reason for my visiting the site don’t cross my mind at all. For instance, the risk of stalkers as an occupational hazard for such women is unsurprising _once you think of it_, but before reading your post, I never had. You’ve got friends in the business, so how it looks from their side is second nature to you. But I can’t see that it’s reasonable to expect the same of everyone else. ---
**Author:** ![Superdude](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superdude/32/13450_2.png) [@Superdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superdude)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2002, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/56 "2002-05-31T17:17:53Z")
Two things: First of all, **Kitty** , please email me the link. I’d like to see it. My email is in in my profile. Second, my ex-fiancee has pictures of herself on-line. A friend of mine emailed them to me, asking if it was her. It was. I know (for instance, she used to keep her pubic hair sculpted into a “K” - my first initial. These pics had the same initial). I’ve found the site where THOSE pics are, and have searched to see if I could find an actual website run by her, but no luck yet. ---
**Author:** ![pezpunk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@pezpunk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pezpunk)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2002, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204/57 "2002-05-31T20:00:48Z")
Need help on the search superdude? 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/finding-out-a-friend-from-high-school-now-has-her-own-porn-site/111204.md?page=2)