# Flamsterette, you crossed the line. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [September 24, 2003, 10:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647 "2003-09-24T22:42:01Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Horrifying\_Howler\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/df788c/32.png) [@Horrifying\_Howler\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Horrifying_Howler_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/81 "2003-09-25T02:13:14Z")
Happy birthday **jarbabyj**. Err, I meant to send you a card, but the dogs ate it. ---
**Author:** ![Tiburon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e36b37/32.png) [@Tiburon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tiburon)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/82 "2003-09-25T02:14:04Z")
Dear Jarbaby Diane, I have reconsidered. Bring on the smoochies. Sincerely, Tibby. ---
**Author:** ![Ilsa\_Lund](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/a6a055/32.png) [@Ilsa\_Lund](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ilsa_Lund)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/83 "2003-09-25T02:14:54Z")
Can men come, too? Misspelled my _middle_ name? God almighty. I have more respect for His4Ever. Not to mention she’s a total airhead. See the sexiness of male names and our discussion of my username. ---
**Author:** ![DynoSaur](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/b487fb/32.png) [@DynoSaur](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DynoSaur)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/84 "2003-09-25T02:14:55Z")
**Flam** calling **Tiburon** a degenerate? Well, if that’s not the pot calling the blindingly shiny copper kettle black, I don’t know what is. ---
**Author:** ![BottledBlondJeanie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/0ea827/32.png) [@BottledBlondJeanie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BottledBlondJeanie)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/85 "2003-09-25T02:15:24Z")
As far as her responding, I’d give her just a bit of time to respond…I guess people sleep and go home from work or whereever they might post 😉 and stuff. It’s possible she hasn’t seen this yet. I don’t want to speculate as to what she might do…it’s possible she may truly apologize from her heart…people do screw up and sometimes there are things going on behind this flat surface we call the sdmb…I guess I’d say let’s give her a bit more time to respond and reconsider… ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/86 "2003-09-25T02:16:12Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Jodi \* > \*\*Wow. Just . . . well, **wow**. > > Well, the only thing to do at this point is to apologize abjectly, lavishly, and repeatedly. If you can work up a credible explanation of temporary insanity, that would be helpful as well. Then after the extensive apologizing and credible explanation of how you’re now back in your right mind and simply cannot _believe_ you ever acted so badly, you’ll just have to hope that people will forgive and forget. > > But you shouldn’t hold your breath. \*\* I don’t know… it would take clear evidence and proof that her computer and/or account had been hacked or she had a gun to her head or something to allow me to forget what she said. Truly Tib is a better person than I am in this matter. ---
**Author:** ![CuriousCanuck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/d2c977/32.png) [@CuriousCanuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CuriousCanuck)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/87 "2003-09-25T02:16:44Z")
Tibby, I love you. Flam… at least explain yourself! I mean, really. Wow. ---
**Author:** ![tavalla](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tavalla/32/89_2.png) [@tavalla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tavalla)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/88 "2003-09-25T02:17:56Z")
Re the “she hasn’t come in here to explain herself yet, it’s all over the boards and LJ, so she knows about it” stuff. While I’m not a flamsterette and neither do I play one on TV, but it’s possible she hasn’t seen this yet. The OP of the card thread was 1:15pm (all times given are Chicago, the board’s default). Her last post there was 4:44pm. This one was started at 5:42pm, and it’s now around 9.30pm. She might well have turned off her computer after her last post and gone out to dinner or something, and just hasn’t seen this yet. I’m not saying she didn’t fuck up - she did, and from the defense-by-agression tone of her posts in the card thread, I think she knew it then and knows it now. All I’m saying is, maybe she’s got away from the computer to cool down a bit, or friends came over and interrupted or something. Maybe another few hours before the predictions of “she doesn’t dare show her face” and “farewell threads then returning in a week” perhaps? [sub]Flami, don’t you make a liar out of me here. Apologising would be the right thing to do, and you know it.[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![BottledBlondJeanie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/0ea827/32.png) [@BottledBlondJeanie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BottledBlondJeanie)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/89 "2003-09-25T02:22:29Z")
Ha **tavalla** beat you by two minutes… [sub]someone let me go home…help…[/sub] ---
**Author:** ![Ashkicker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/4bbf92/32.png) [@Ashkicker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ashkicker)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/90 "2003-09-25T02:25:03Z")
My heart sank when I read the IMHO thread. I don’t know John, but if your out there reading this you rock! You know what? I have all my health. Two functioning legs, arms, the whole works. My friends are lucky if I even get them a card. Does it mean I love them any less? No. My thoughts are with them on that day. I’m usually thinking “Shit, I forgot to get so and so a card it’s their b-day today, dammit, dammit, dammit”. 😃 I’ve got one friend I’ve had for 16 yrs. I’d say her card has arrived late at least 10 times and the other 6 she probably didn’t get one. You know what she over looks my faults and accepts me for who I am as I do her. We all got them. One other thing that I found ironic is **Flamsterette’s** sig in the IMHO thread which goes… **It’s funny when you discover that all problems eventually just loop back on themselves… and disappear into their own paradox.** Somehow I just don’t think this problem is going to disappear! ---
**Author:** ![Venoma](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/c4cdca/32.png) [@Venoma](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Venoma)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/91 "2003-09-25T02:25:21Z")
Actually, she’s active on AIM right now. 🙂 So she isn’t away from the computer. And I dare say she is very very aware of this thread. Oops. Gee, I’m not a stalker. Really. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![erislover](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/71e660/32.png) [@erislover](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/erislover)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/92 "2003-09-25T02:25:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by jarbabyj \* > \*\*I will be a spunky 31 tomorrow, and my middle name is Diane. Report to my house for tongue kisses any time after 8:00 am \*\* So this is an open invitation? 😛 ---
**Author:** ![elf6c](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c57346/32.png) [@elf6c](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elf6c)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/93 "2003-09-25T02:26:35Z")
Holy fricken crap. Unbelievable. That is the sort of thing you don’t recover from. Also, when did it become permissable to make personal attacks outside the Pit? That’s the height of Jerkish behavior. **Tiburon** that was one classy response. ---
**Author:** ![Jodi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/7feea3/32.png) [@Jodi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jodi)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/94 "2003-09-25T02:26:43Z")
> [@](#): > > I don’t know… it would take clear evidence and proof that her computer and/or account had been hacked or she had a gun to her head or something to allow me to forget what she said. Yes! Exactly! This is the kind of inventive explanation that she should get to work concocting immediately. Abducted by aliens. Possessed by an evil spirit that made her projectile vomit, rotated her head around 360 degrees, and then used her computer. A gun to her head would be acceptable because _of course_ she would never post something so amazingly appalling. Right? Right? ---
**Author:** ![Jodi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/7feea3/32.png) [@Jodi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jodi)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/95 "2003-09-25T02:30:55Z")
Not that it’s not totally deserved, but I’ve broken my own rule regarding participating in pile-ons, so if you see me back in this thread, kindly smack me. HAPPY BIRTHDAY JAR “BABY” J!!! _:: Exit ::_ ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/96 "2003-09-25T02:40:06Z")
I’m waiting to hear that she had a bomb strapped to her and she was en route to rob a bank. ---
**Author:** ![BottledBlondJeanie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/0ea827/32.png) [@BottledBlondJeanie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BottledBlondJeanie)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/97 "2003-09-25T02:43:16Z")
As a side note and a complete hijack…Tibs…just saw LJ photos of you…you are smokin hot! ---
**Author:** ![tavalla](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tavalla/32/89_2.png) [@tavalla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tavalla)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/98 "2003-09-25T02:44:26Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Venoma \* > **Actually, she’s active on AIM right now.** _sigh_ There goes a hope… ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/99 "2003-09-25T02:49:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by deb2world \* > **Yesterday I was driving to work and suddenly everyone was slowing down, quickly. Well an accident had just occurred on the other side of the freeway (for those of you interested and understand LA freeways, it was the 405 in Long Beach). I of course had to look (I think it is the law that we must look at all accidents to determine if they are sight seeing worthy or just run of the mill everyday fender benders). There was a truck and a couple of cars who got too personal with each other. Well there was this van that was rolled over and I saw a group of about a half dozen men gather round the van trying to help the person inside (the cops hadn’t got there yet). All these gentlemen were in suits but you could tell they were doing their part to help someone in need. It gave me a warm fuzzy feeling to have that remembrance that there are those people in the world who will help others even if it puts their good clothes in jeopardy.** I hate to ruin the rest of your day, but they were probably lawyers looking for work. [sub]I kid! I kid! I love lawyers! Please don’t sue me![/sub] ---
**Author:** ![BottledBlondJeanie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/0ea827/32.png) [@BottledBlondJeanie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BottledBlondJeanie)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2003, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/flamsterette-you-crossed-the-line/203647/100 "2003-09-25T02:51:30Z")
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