# FoieGrasIsEvil asked for money and I gave — a Thank You would’ve been nice **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [February 11, 2018, 5:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632 "2018-02-11T17:12:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2018, 6:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/81 "2018-02-12T06:39:22Z")
> [@Happy\_Lendervedder](#): > > I came to know him only recently myself, and I’ve concluded he doesn’t have more than four brain cells to rub together, and unfortunately, he rubbed them all together. And it appears his only reason to be here is to somehow score points against other people, with a Bible verse in his sig. I’m sure Jesus loves that. To be fair to him,\* he doesn’t use his .sig very often. I had to look it up in his profile to familiarize myself with what you were talking about. Also, IS that actually from the Bible? It’s just I’m used to seeing attribution (book, chapter, and verse) when it’s a Bible quote. \*(“being fair” to people is just something I like to make a habit of. It’s one of the character flaws I like to cultivate, just so I can say I have some. Like my insistence on using Oxford commas.) ---
**Author:** ![Superdude](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/superdude/32/13450_2.png) [@Superdude](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Superdude)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2018, 6:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/82 "2018-02-12T06:53:06Z")
> [@D\_Anconia](#): > > Yes, even then. Begging is always poor form. And yet, here you are, begging for attention. You’re the 6 year old who keeps saying “mommy. Mommy. Mommy! Watch me! Mom! Are you watching?” In other words, shut the fuck up, Donny. You’re out of your element. ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2018, 9:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/83 "2018-02-12T09:20:53Z")
> [@kaylasdad99](#): > > To be fair to him,\* he doesn’t use his .sig very often. I had to look it up in his profile to familiarize myself with what you were talking about. Also, IS that actually from the Bible? It’s just I’m used to seeing attribution (book, chapter, and verse) when it’s a Bible quote. > > \*(“being fair” to people is just something I like to make a habit of. It’s one of the character flaws I like to cultivate, just so I can say I have some. Like my insistence on using Oxford commas.) [2 Corinthians 4:18](http://biblehub.com/2_corinthians/4-18.htm). ---
**Author:** ![kaylasdad99](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kaylasdad99/32/3398_2.png) [@kaylasdad99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kaylasdad99)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2018, 10:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/84 "2018-02-12T10:43:07Z")
> [@Monty](#): > > [2 Corinthians 4:18](http://biblehub.com/2_corinthians/4-18.htm). Ta. ---
**Author:** ![SaneBill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e68b1a/32.png) [@SaneBill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SaneBill)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2018, 12:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/85 "2018-02-12T12:38:44Z")
> [@Monty](#): > > [2 Corinthians 4:18](http://biblehub.com/2_corinthians/4-18.htm). Is that the same two Corinthians of that guy who demanded thanks for getting those shoplifting basketball players from Chinese jail ? ---
**Author:** ![kayT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayt/32/3633_2.png) [@kayT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayT)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2018, 12:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/86 "2018-02-12T12:45:27Z")
> [@steatopygia](#): > > In the veering, swerving, ripping, carving, and shredding that this thread has become, I would like to acknowledge **Bullitt** ’s refusal to double down. Rather, he admitted he was mistaken and apologized. > Don’t see much of that these days. > Kudos. Agreed. This thread has both the good and the bad, and Bullitt, you did good. ---
**Author:** ![bucketybuck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/898d66/32.png) [@bucketybuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bucketybuck)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2018, 1:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/87 "2018-02-12T13:53:21Z")
I wonder did that rabbit ever get its air conditioning? ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2018, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/88 "2018-02-12T14:35:15Z")
> [@bucketybuck](#): > > I wonder did that rabbit ever get its air conditioning? Well played, suh, welllll…played. This thread hits close to home. Nieces and nephews on one side of the family write thank you notes, the other side doesn’t. We’d never cut the latter off from Christmas gifts because of that, but we often have no idea whether they got them. But it drives my (quite proper) nonagenarian mom crazy. We sometimes have to cut off her twentieth rant about a gift with “Did you give just so you’d get a thank you?” ---
**Author:** ![SaneBill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e68b1a/32.png) [@SaneBill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SaneBill)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2018, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/89 "2018-02-12T14:48:20Z")
**digs** ; Send a similar present again and again until they contact you asking what is going on. And you innocently say “Oh, I thought it went missing 'cause I heard nothing from you…” After that they will thank you every time as soon as possible. ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2018, 3:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/90 "2018-02-12T15:12:48Z")
> [@SaneBill](#): > > **digs** ; > > Send a similar present again and again until they contact you asking what is going on. And you innocently say “Oh, I thought it went missing 'cause I heard nothing from you…” After that they will thank you every time as soon as possible. Unless it’s money. ---
**Author:** ![EddyTeddyFreddy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eddyteddyfreddy/32/18796_2.png) [@EddyTeddyFreddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EddyTeddyFreddy)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2018, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/91 "2018-02-12T16:43:37Z")
> [@SaneBill](#): > > **digs** ; > > Send a similar present again and again until they contact you asking what is going on. And you innocently say “Oh, I thought it went missing 'cause I heard nothing from you…” After that they will thank you every time as soon as possible. Never mind “similar” – the exact same thing. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Whiskey\_Dickens](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/9fc348/32.png) [@Whiskey\_Dickens](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Whiskey_Dickens)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2018, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/92 "2018-02-12T19:17:56Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > Pardon me, would you have any Grey Poupon? I do indeed! Here’s my Thank You form which allows you to thank me specifically, and at length for my donation of the mustard. Don’t go drinking it, you drunky. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2018, 7:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/93 "2018-02-12T19:31:44Z")
> [@steatopygia](#): > > In the veering, swerving, ripping, carving, and shredding that this thread has become, I would like to acknowledge **Bullitt** ’s refusal to double down. Rather, he admitted he was mistaken and apologized. > Don’t see much of that these days. > Kudos. If you hadn’t posted this, I would have missed the followups from Bullitt. So, in the spirit of thankfulness, I’d like to gratefully acknowledge your acknowledgement of Bullitt’s acknowledgement (that he erred) and say also that I got a much-needed reminder that sometimes, people can learn & grow. Was getting a bit cynical on that last part. ---
**Author:** ![mhendo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mhendo/32/3159_2.png) [@mhendo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mhendo)\ **Post date:** [February 12, 2018, 7:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/94 "2018-02-12T19:43:42Z")
Just one more data point: I gave a small donation, and received a very nice personal “thank you” message, which came to my email through the GoFundMe site. I was one of the first to give, and as more and more people gave money, it probably made sense to give a more collective thanks to everyone. If i hadn’t received a personal thanks, i’m not sure what my reaction would have been. I might have been a bit miffed, but that would have gone away once i saw the more general thanks. I understand why the OP started this thread, but i’m also glad that he’s reconsidered his position a little bit. If nothing else, this thread serves as an excellent reminder (assuming one were needed) of what a flaming asshole **D’Anconia** is. ---
**Author:** ![Rhythmdvl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/85f322/32.png) [@Rhythmdvl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rhythmdvl)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2018, 12:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/95 "2018-02-13T00:39:13Z")
I am emotionally crippled right now; I’ve been in an odd paralysis for about two years. Many people have reached out with their thoughts and prayers over this time, and each one has brought much-needed solace. I have tried to return the kindness, to express gratitude for the outreach, but I know I have failed both to express the enormity of the appreciation to some and to ensure completeness in reaching out to everyone who has personally touched our lives. It is a burden of guilt I carry, and though it pales in comparison to the overall weight of misery I shoulder, it is nonetheless a heavy piece of straw. If compassion gives you cause to help, let that compassion carry over to the social formalities that should be in play – and add a modicum of forgiveness for social inelegance. ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2018, 2:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/96 "2018-02-13T02:37:12Z")
Well said, Rd, and my wife is very forgiving while I am less so, and she is a constant reminder to me that I need to be more forgiving. This thread is a case in point. And thank you to those who have recognized my small step towards the right direction. > [@SaneBill](#): > > **digs** ; > > Send a similar present again and again until they contact you asking what is going on. And you innocently say “Oh, I thought it went missing 'cause I heard nothing from you…” After that they will thank you every time as soon as possible. > [@EddyTeddyFreddy](#): > > Never mind “similar” – the exact same thing. 😃 Unless it’s money. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2018, 3:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/97 "2018-02-13T03:17:45Z")
Just going to pop in here and say that I would have sent individual TY notes, but I wouldn’t have started a Pit thread for not receiving one. … now where’s my halo? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![FoieGrasIsEvil](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foiegrasisevil/32/16638_2.png) [@FoieGrasIsEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FoieGrasIsEvil)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2018, 1:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/98 "2018-02-13T13:39:58Z")
Well…I guess I just saw this for the first time this morning. **Bullitt** , I am sorry if you did not receive a personl thank you. I used the GoFundMe site to personally thank everyone that donated, and I also used the thread as a platform for expressing my gratitude as well. There were many anonymous donations, and I sent them thank you notes as well, but perhaps some of these didn’t get through? I wondered that, because the GFM website uses email addresses to send out those notes, so if someone didn’t post their email address, maybe they didn’t receive it? All GFM says each time you send one out is “Your Thank You Has Been Sent”. This is why I also used the thread to express thanks, a) because I was sincerely grateful and blown away by the generosity of the board, and b) just to be sure that I had thanked everyone. I grew up writing thank you cards for family members that bought a Christmas present, or a birthday card, etc. There’s no way that I didn’t at least _try_ to thank each and every one of you personally. So, again I apologize if you didn’t receive one personally from me, believe me, I tried to send it as I did to everyone else. And I am doing pretty well, by the way. Still no drinking, still going to AA, still struggling with this sickness every day. But at least now I can keep the lights on a little longer. Thank you again, everyone. ---
**Author:** ![k9bfriender](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/k9bfriender/32/3283_2.png) [@k9bfriender](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/k9bfriender)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2018, 2:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/99 "2018-02-13T14:07:45Z")
> [@crowmanyclouds](#): > > I’d like to thank; What Exit?, Bullitt, IvoryTowerDenizen, Colibri, bobot, running coach, Folly, buddha\_david, Crazyhorse, kayT, Vinyl Turnip, BigT, Riemann, Tee, Morgenstern, Happy Lendervedder, cochrane, Penfeather, k9bfriender, neofishboy, Qadgop the Mercotan, Chefguy, elbows, John Mace, and Beckdawrek for . . . something. > > CMC fnord! No, Thank\* You\*! I must apologize, as it was indeed, my pleasure. ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [February 13, 2018, 2:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632/100 "2018-02-13T14:52:00Z")
**FoieGrasIsEvil** , I owe you an apology. I am sorry that I called you out publicly. It was wrong to do that. I should not have done this. I am truly sorry. I’m glad you are doing better. Keep up the good work, keep fighting the good fight. Sincerely, **Bullitt** [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foiegrasisevil-asked-for-money-and-i-gave-a-thank-you-would-ve-been-nice/808632.md?page=6)