# Foods you gave up when you got married (better explained in OP) **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Tags:** food-cooking\ **Created:** [December 16, 2024, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727 "2024-12-16T19:51:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2024, 11:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/41 "2024-12-17T23:49:35Z")
I think my wife’s given up more stuff than I have: mainly mushrooms and seafood. When we go out, she tends to order stuff with those things in them. The only thing I’ve given up eating since getting married are those cans of Hormel corned beef hash. But that’s probably not a bad thing. ---
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2024, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/42 "2024-12-17T23:51:36Z")
> [@GESancMan](#): > > I am of the opinion that the first ingredient in any recipe should be a giant onion. There is no such thing as too much onion. Preach it! ---
**Author:** ![Bear\_Nenno](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bear_nenno/32/3358_2.png) [@Bear\_Nenno](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bear_Nenno)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2024, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/43 "2024-12-18T00:33:03Z")
> [@gnoitall](#): > > you must surely realize, is very much a thing. I had no idea. Wild. ---
**Author:** ![Treppenwitz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/treppenwitz/32/3445_2.png) [@Treppenwitz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Treppenwitz)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2024, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/44 "2024-12-18T16:06:42Z")
> [@JohnT](#): > > So what youre saying is… > > You’ll do anything for love, (but) you won’t do meat loaf. I know I’m way late on this, but it was magnificent. I laughed out loud _and_ I clapped with glee. j ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2024, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/45 "2024-12-18T16:11:27Z")
I’m really glad I’m with my gf.Other than veal, she’s happy eating anything I choose to make. And I have never turned down anything she has made. We are both fairly adventurous eaters and will try anything. Once we took my kids out to a nice restaurant. On their specials board they had a brain appetizer, which my kids noticed. My gf ordered it just to mess with them. Our server came back to the table to inform us that the last order of brains was just taken. My gf was relieved. ---
**Author:** ![Treppenwitz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/treppenwitz/32/3445_2.png) [@Treppenwitz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Treppenwitz)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2024, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/46 "2024-12-18T16:26:26Z")
Sesos (cow brain) is a popular tapa in parts of Spain - Granada, for example. I mention this because in Granada, when you buy a drink in a bar, it comes with a small tapa to nibble on. I don’t know if you can specify which tapas you do or don’t want, and my Spanish isn’t good enough to have that conversation anyway. So a night out in Granada has a certain sense of culinary Russian roulette about it. j (I’m don’t know what sesos looks like, and I’m not aware of having eaten it.) ---
**Author:** ![Treppenwitz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/treppenwitz/32/3445_2.png) [@Treppenwitz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Treppenwitz)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2024, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/47 "2024-12-18T16:36:28Z")
To answer the OP’s question, tuna fritters is the standout. This was one of my mother’s recipes: savory batter with tinned tuna, fried. Cheap, fast, simple - the perfect bachelor staple. Mrs T hated it from the get-go. So that went. Others (speed of exit may vary by item): merguez, cassoulet, pork pies, beef, corned beef. As it turns out, my dietary limitations now mean that I can’t eat any of those anyway. Kippers (which she also hates) I can eat, however, and they remain something which I cook when she’s gone out. j ---
**Author:** ![sciurophobic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/cab0a1/32.png) [@sciurophobic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sciurophobic)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2024, 4:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/48 "2024-12-18T16:47:05Z")
Most seafood at home. Wife is allergic to crustaceans, and she only likes sushi and smoked salmon. She does like mussels. ---
**Author:** ![doreen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/858c86/32.png) [@doreen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/doreen)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2024, 5:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/49 "2024-12-18T17:13:53Z")
I didn’t have to give up anything. In fact, I can’t think of anything I eat that my husband doesn’t - there are a very few items that he wouldn’t choose on his own but he will eat them. There are , however, many things that he eats that I don’t. He didn’t have to give anything up , either. Sometimes our different tastes don’t matter - if he makes a seafood boil sort of meal, I will eat the parts I like and leave the rest for him. Other times it’s more he has a pork chop and I have a lamb chop but that’s not really any different from cooking two pork chops. Worst case, I’m just fine with having a garden salad for a meal so it’s never a matter of cooking two separate meals. There are a very few foods that he doesn’t eat when I am home because I can’t stand the smell. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2024, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/50 "2024-12-18T19:20:05Z")
> [@HeyHomie](#): > > Yeah, I was going to say, in my hometown of Springfield, IL, rare is the (local) restaurant that doesn’t have bologna sandwich on the menu. And many have PB&J on the kids’ menus. I can’t remember the last time I’ve seen bologna sandwiches on a restaurant menu. I checked the menu of the [Double T Diner in Annapolis](https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5e7a6c3e8fe74049a7982934/t/663a7305e5e03d742403f8c4/1715106566061/doublettANNAPOLISmainfeb24PRINT07.pdf), figuring that of all the places I’ve eaten in recent years, a diner would be the most likely sort of place to have a bologna sandwich because it tries to have pretty much everything. No bologna there. I checked the lowbrow chains: Denny’s, Bob Evans, Cracker Barrel. Nope, nope, and nope. I thought of Culver’s, since it’s a Midwestern chain that’s recently popped up in Florida near the in-laws. Nope there too. There’s a local restaurant, the [Dream Weaver Cafe](https://www.dreamweavercatering.com/menu), that only does breakfast and lunch. Maybe there? They serve grilled cheese sandwiches and tuna salad sandwiches, which few restaurants IME serve because, again, too basic to need to go to a restaurant for. But no bologna there either. And as far as PB&J goes, (a) one restaurant in one town that serves PB&J doesn’t prove much, and (b) the kids’ menu doesn’t count. That they’ll make a PB&J for your kid while you and the spouse are ordering real meals, doesn’t mean they’ll serve one to you if you come in by yourself and order one. ---
**Author:** ![Mollie\_Magill](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mollie_magill/32/20882_2.png) [@Mollie\_Magill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mollie_Magill)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2024, 7:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/51 "2024-12-18T19:43:07Z")
> [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](#): > > > [@Bear\_Nenno](#): > > > > I’m still trying to get past the fact that one goes to a restaurant for meatloaf. > > I made meatloaf once at home. > > Once. > > My wife wouldn’t touch it. My two kids each ate like half a serving. The remaining loaf was all me, and after eating it for the next eight meals, I was done. > > Once in awhile, I’ll get meatloaf at a restaurant: it’s not my favorite, but it has some serious nostalgia value. But I’ll never make it at home again. > > Other than meatloaf, three of my favorite foods repulse my wife: broccoli, blue cheese, and olives. My kids love broccoli, so she’s gotten used to my adding it to stirfries or making it as a side dish, and she can just pick it out. Olives are super-easy for me to add to my side of the pizza, or to sprinkle over my salad. Blue cheese is now a rare treat for me, ordered at restaurants, and I have to brush my teeth before she’ll kiss me. I’ll get meatloaf at the meat and three around the corner from our house. That’s also the only place I can get lima beans. **Mrs Magill** does not like them and has convinced our sons that they don’t like them ether. Mmm… steamed fresh lima beans with butter. Lovely. ---
**Author:** ![HeyHomie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/heyhomie/32/207_2.png) [@HeyHomie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HeyHomie)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2024, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/52 "2024-12-18T19:56:13Z")
> [@RTFirefly](#): > > I can’t remember the last time I’ve seen bologna sandwiches on a restaurant menu. [Main Gate Bar & Grill](https://slicelife.com/restaurants/il/springfield/62702/main-gate-bar-grill/menu) 2143 N 11th Springfield, IL Bologna sandwich $4.00 [Weebles Bar & Grill](https://www.allmenus.com/il/springfield/601958-weebles-bar-and-grill/menu/) 4136 N Peoria Rd Springfield IL (Fried) Bologna sandwich $3.50 [The Burger Bar](https://www.allmenus.com/il/springfield/740498-the-burger-bar/menu/) 2765 S 6th Street Springfield IL (Fried) Bologna sandwich $4.25 Could very well be a Springfield, IL thing like the Horseshoe or our various iterations of chili; could also be a Midwest thing. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2024, 10:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/53 "2024-12-18T22:42:55Z")
> [@Bear\_Nenno](#): > > I’m still trying to get past the fact that one goes to a restaurant for meatloaf. That never would have occurred to me. Many places here serve meatloaf - sometimes fancy upscale, sometimes home-style. Here’s an example: _Bacon-wrapped veal, pork & Painted Hills beef meatloaf. With seasonal veg, red potato mashers & red wine veal demi-glace._ I’m perfectly capable of making meatloaf, but why not try some other version while I’m out? ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2024, 1:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/54 "2024-12-19T13:23:33Z")
> [@needscoffee](#): > > I’m perfectly capable of making meatloaf, but why not try some other version while I’m out? The last few times I’ve made meatloaf, I’ve made different variants. Stuffed with spinach & cheese for example. ---
**Author:** ![aceplace57](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aceplace57/32/3500_2.png) [@aceplace57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aceplace57)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2024, 1:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/55 "2024-12-19T13:38:51Z")
I dislike tomatoes unless they’re finely chopped and disappear into the sauce. Italian dishes are rarely served in my house because they are tomato sauces. A few times a year, a Stouffer’s frozen lasagna or Stouffer’s Three Cheese Ravioli is baked and served. That’s enough. The acidity tears me up for a few days. But that cheesy goodness is worth it. Pizza chains used to be ok. But the fancy places use nasty chunks of tomato in there sauce. ---
**Author:** ![The\_wind\_of\_my\_soul](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecc23a/32.png) [@The\_wind\_of\_my\_soul](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_wind_of_my_soul)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2024, 1:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/56 "2024-12-19T13:53:39Z")
It took me a long time to think of something. My bf doesn’t eat meat or eggs, but I refuse to give them up, so we’ve just resigned ourselves to all the extra work of having to cook two separate dishes for dinner, all the extra cleanup from two sets of dishes, and having to buy two different sets of ingredients for the recipes we make. And then I thought of something. Whole Foods sells some really yummy moonshine peaches that are something like $15 a jar, and they’re only about two servings. My ex-husband would get irritated every time I bought them because they were so expensive for so little food. Once we divorced, I went back to them with glee, but then when I started splitting the grocery bill with my bf, he would get mad about them, too, so I’ve stopped eating them again. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2024, 2:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/57 "2024-12-19T14:00:32Z")
> [@JohnGalt](#): > > Oatmeal or similarly textured foods. Especially tapioca, which I haven’t been allowed to have in years. She said her mother made oatmeal for breakfast everyday for her brood of kids. Our kids didn’t get to have it growing up. Huh. I don’t like the texture of tapioca pudding, and won’t eat it. But my husband and (adult) kids sometimes make it. Some dishes of tapioca in the fridge don’t do my any harm. > [@doreen](#): > > Worst case, I’m just fine with having a garden salad for a meal so it’s never a matter of cooking two separate meals. I’ve never cared for salad. So much work and all you have is a salad. When people visiting ask what they can bring, i often say, “salad, if you’d like one”. So… If you want salad in my household, we are kind of making an extra meal for you, and probably going out and buying extra ingredients for it, and the leftovers will turn to slime in the fridge. 😉 Different households have very different norms. > [@doreen](#): > > There are a very few foods that he doesn’t eat when I am home because I can’t stand the smell. The only thing i really can’t stand the smell of is cooked peppers. I’m not wild about raw onion, and he doesn’t like fish, but we agreed to put up with those odors so the other can enjoy their food. > [@RTFirefly](#): > > That they’ll make a PB&J for your kid while you and the spouse are ordering real meals, doesn’t mean they’ll serve one to you if you come in by yourself and order one My husband, who doesn’t like seafood, once took me to a new lobster restaurant in town to celebrate something. I had the works, and he ordered the pb&j sandwich. The waiter obviously thought i had overspent my date’s budget, and was _really_ nice to my husband. I shared all the sides with my husband (well, not the clam chowder, he doesn’t eat that, either, but the fries, slaw, dinner roll, whatever) and we had a good laugh. ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2024, 2:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/58 "2024-12-19T14:07:07Z")
> [@HeyHomie](#): > > [Main Gate Bar & Grill](https://slicelife.com/restaurants/il/springfield/62702/main-gate-bar-grill/menu) 2143 N 11th Springfield, IL Bologna sandwich $4.00 > > [Weebles Bar & Grill](https://www.allmenus.com/il/springfield/601958-weebles-bar-and-grill/menu/) 4136 N Peoria Rd Springfield IL (Fried) Bologna sandwich $3.50 > > [The Burger Bar](https://www.allmenus.com/il/springfield/740498-the-burger-bar/menu/) 2765 S 6th Street Springfield IL (Fried) Bologna sandwich $4.25 There’s a diner just down the street from us that has a bologna sandwich for $19. It may not surprise you to find out that when the new owner bought it a few years ago, he turned it from a reasonable greasy spoon into an insufferable hipster joint. It also may not surprise you to find out that they recently went out of business. ---
**Author:** ![Mollie\_Magill](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mollie_magill/32/20882_2.png) [@Mollie\_Magill](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mollie_Magill)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2024, 2:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/59 "2024-12-19T14:24:57Z")
> [@puzzlegal](#): > > I’ve never cared for salad. So much work and all you have is a salad. When people visiting ask what they can bring, i often say, “salad, if you’d like one”. So… If you want salad in my household, we are kind of making an extra meal for you, and probably going out and buying extra ingredients for it, and the leftovers will turn to slime in the fridge. 😉 > > Different households have very different norms. This is why I like salad kits. Just plop and toss. That way you can pretend the flank steak and baked potato are good for you. > [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](#): > > It may not surprise you to find out that when the new owner bought it a few years ago, he turned it from a reasonable greasy spoon into an insufferable hipster joint. I hate when that happens. The Meat & Three near me has been recently bought by some folks and is showing worrying signs of this. It used to be called Nana’s. It’s now some funky name. ---
**Author:** ![doreen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/858c86/32.png) [@doreen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/doreen)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2024, 2:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727/60 "2024-12-19T14:51:01Z")
> [@Mollie\_Magill](#): > > This is why I like salad kits. Just plop and toss. That way you can pretend the flank steak and baked potato are good for you. That’s kind of why I said salad did not involve making an extra meal - because for me, just pouring it out of a bag into a bowl is good enough. If it involved buying a whole bunch of ingredients and cutting them up , it might be a different story. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/foods-you-gave-up-when-you-got-married-better-explained-in-op/1011727.md?page=4)