# For guys...recharge after sex. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [July 21, 2012, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915 "2012-07-21T01:03:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![voltaire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voltaire/32/313_2.png) [@voltaire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/voltaire)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 3:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/21 "2012-07-21T03:56:44Z")
I wonder if the people with the much longer recharge times also correspondingly have “batteries” that last much longer on the initial charge? If so, that’s not such a bad trade off. If not, uhh… what’s your stance on designated hitters? ---
**Author:** ![don\_t\_ask](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e68b1a/32.png) [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/22 "2012-07-21T04:00:38Z")
No, cash only. I don’t think they take credit cards. ---
**Author:** ![Snowboarder\_Bo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowboarder_bo/32/229_2.png) [@Snowboarder\_Bo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snowboarder_Bo)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 4:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/23 "2012-07-21T04:03:27Z")
15 minutes or so. ---
**Author:** ![voltaire](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/voltaire/32/313_2.png) [@voltaire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/voltaire)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 4:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/24 "2012-07-21T04:06:10Z")
> [@ducati](#): > > Spot on, although with the Coolidge Effect I can manage 30-40 minutes as needed.🙂 I find this _Coolidge Effect_ fascinating, and would like to pursue further research. > [@wiki](#): > > Ethologist Frank A. Beach is credited with naming the “Coolidge effect” in 1955, after one of his students suggested the term at a psychology conference. He attributed the neologism to: … an old joke about Calvin Coolidge when he was President … The President and Mrs. Coolidge were being shown [separately] around an experimental government farm. When [Mrs. Coolidge] came to the chicken yard she noticed that a rooster was mating very frequently. She asked the attendant how often that happened and was told, “Dozens of times each day.” Mrs. Coolidge said, “Tell that to the President when he comes by.” Upon being told, President asked, “Same hen every time?” The reply was, “Oh, no, Mr. President, a different hen every time.” President: “Tell that to Mrs. Coolidge." > **[Coolidge effect](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coolidge_effect)** > > The Coolidge effect is a biological phenomenon seen in animals, whereby males exhibit renewed sexual interest whenever a new female of reproductive availability is introduced, even after sex with prior but still available sexual partners. To a lesser extent, the effect is also seen among females with regard to their mates. > The Coolidge effect can be attributed to an increase in sexual responsiveness, and a shortening of the sexual refractory period. The evolutionary benefit to this phenomenon is... ---
**Author:** ![drastic\_quench](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e36b37/32.png) [@drastic\_quench](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drastic_quench)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 4:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/25 "2012-07-21T04:35:01Z")
As long as I keep going, my erection does not flag. I’m in my thirties, and have never taken any type of ED pills for what it’s worth. The only downside is a second orgasm takes a long time to reach. 45 minutes is not unheard of - with the first one happening in maybe 15 to 20 minutes - sometimes more. So really, that 2nd round is for her. If the lady would like to continue, we can continue, and we can absolutely quit any time during round two. I’m not exactly keen to reach the finish line twice. It’s like agreeing to go for a refreshing jog, and then deciding to tack on a 5k. Once in college, it came to light that a girlfriend of mine bragged about my ability to her friends. That was a proud day. Yes. Go forth, and speak of my prowess to the maidens fair. Verily. ---
**Author:** ![Yorikke](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/yorikke/32/4335_2.png) [@Yorikke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Yorikke)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 4:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/26 "2012-07-21T04:39:40Z")
I’m 38, and it generally takes a few hours before I can even contemplate another orgasm. ---
**Author:** ![Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e47c2d/32.png) [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hershele_Ostropoler)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 6:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/27 "2012-07-21T06:02:43Z")
“Can I get it up” is a separate question from “do I want another round” is a separate question from “am I willing to go again.” Like, for various reasons sex is almost always the last thing we do before we turn in for the night (which is strange fora diurnal species, but I digress). So she’s asleep, I’m falling asleep, the question of whether I want another go and would be capable of it if I did is somewhat academic. On the rare occasions that I’ve had sex when I wasn’t about to go to bed, I generally became interested again a few hours later. From a strictly physical perspective I doubt it would take me more than a couple of hours but I’m not usually all that interested in sex a couple of hours after. Note that I’ve never had the opportunity to experience the Coolidge effect. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 9:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/28 "2012-07-21T09:05:53Z")
Probably about 5-10 minutes. Because of my blood-pressure meds, I no longer get erections. But I can still have orgasms from oral sex, which is what we’ve always done anyway. I’m ready for more in about 5-10 minutes . . . or sometimes it’s non-stop. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 9:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/29 "2012-07-21T09:06:49Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Because of my blood-pressure meds, I no longer get erections. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 9:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/30 "2012-07-21T09:29:50Z")
The only time you think of a second is when you are half way through your first. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 9:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/31 "2012-07-21T09:32:14Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > ☹ From my point of view, sex feels exactly the same as it ever did. In fact my partner had to tell me I was no longer getting erections, I couldn’t tell. I’m having open-heart surgery next month, and that may fix the problem. ---
**Author:** ![Jackknifed\_Juggernaut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9de053/32.png) [@Jackknifed\_Juggernaut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackknifed_Juggernaut)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 9:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/32 "2012-07-21T09:32:25Z")
I see that many of you haven’t tried Levitra yet. About a year ago, my doc handed me a sample pack of it. I don’t have ED but mentioned to him that I couldn’t really go more than once or maybe twice a night any more. If I take one pill on a Friday evening, I can pretty much go at will through Monday morning. ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 9:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/33 "2012-07-21T09:37:54Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > From my point of view, sex feels exactly the same as it ever did. In fact my partner had to tell me I was no longer getting erections, I couldn’t tell. > > I’m having open-heart surgery next month, and that may fix the problem. Wow, I’ve never heard of that side effect with blood pressure pills. Good luck with your surgery BTW. ---
**Author:** ![Cicero](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cicero/32/3594_2.png) [@Cicero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cicero)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 9:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/34 "2012-07-21T09:44:07Z")
> [@Jackknifed\_Juggernaut](#): > > I see that many of you haven’t tried Levitra yet. About a year ago, my doc handed me a sample pack of it. I don’t have ED but mentioned to him that I couldn’t really go more than once or maybe twice a night any more. If I take one pill on a Friday evening, I can pretty much go at will through Monday morning. I hadn’t heard of that before. I looked it up - after taking one of those the doctor would not want to bend over in front of you. ---
**Author:** ![UltraVires](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ecccb3/32.png) [@UltraVires](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UltraVires)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 2:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/35 "2012-07-21T14:39:37Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > When I got married in my early 30s my wife was constantly wanting sex, and I was constantly not ready or willing: huge points of discussion and hurt feelings. This is me as well. Most relationships involve hurt feelings because she doesn’t feel like she is desirable because I’m not ready to go at it again after 20 minutes like many posters in this thread. I think that my libido is perfectly normal after a couple of days without. That first time is great, no erectile dysfunction, nothing. But after the first time, sex is the furthest thing from my mind. Law, politics, ANYTHING but sex. Even 8 hours later I CAN do it if she insists, but I could just as well go without. The next day it gets better, and the third day I’m back to normal. I wonder (and I’m sure that this is WAAAY TMI for some of you) because I’ve been told that the volume of my ejaculate is very high. Everyone I’ve dated has made comments about it. I wonder if that has something to do with it… ---
**Author:** ![Eonwe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eonwe/32/240_2.png) [@Eonwe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eonwe)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/36 "2012-07-21T15:46:32Z")
> [@jtgain](#): > > This is me as well. Most relationships involve hurt feelings because she doesn’t feel like she is desirable because I’m not ready to go at it again after 20 minutes like many posters in this thread. > > I think that my libido is perfectly normal after a couple of days without. That first time is great, no erectile dysfunction, nothing. But after the first time, sex is the furthest thing from my mind. Law, politics, ANYTHING but sex. Even 8 hours later I CAN do it if she insists, but I could just as well go without. The next day it gets better, and the third day I’m back to normal. Statistically, people have much less sex than you would think by reading things on the internet. The idea that if you don’t want to have sex at least once a day you are abnormal is a pernicious myth perpetrated by men trying to one-up other men (and impress women) with their alpha-maleness. Not being able to get the most impressive hard-on over and over again is not ‘erectile dysfunction,’ it’s somewhere comfortably in the band of ‘normal’. ---
**Author:** ![UltraVires](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ecccb3/32.png) [@UltraVires](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UltraVires)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 4:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/37 "2012-07-21T16:00:45Z")
> [@Eonwe](#): > > Statistically, people have much less sex than you would think by reading things on the internet. The idea that if you don’t want to have sex at least once a day you are abnormal is a pernicious myth perpetrated by men trying to one-up other men (and impress women) with their alpha-maleness. Not being able to get the most impressive hard-on over and over again is not ‘erectile dysfunction,’ it’s somewhere comfortably in the band of ‘normal’. Not according to this thread. These guys have perpetual hard-ons which can be summoned on command. ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 4:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/38 "2012-07-21T16:30:07Z")
> [@Eonwe](#): > > Statistically, people have much less sex than you would think by reading things on the internet. The idea that if you don’t want to have sex at least once a day you are abnormal is a pernicious myth perpetrated by men trying to one-up other men (and impress women) with their alpha-maleness. Not being able to get the most impressive hard-on over and over again is not ‘erectile dysfunction,’ it’s somewhere comfortably in the band of ‘normal’. > [@jtgain](#): > > Not according to this thread. These guys have perpetual hard-ons which can be summoned on command. Aye. Speak fer yerself. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/39 "2012-07-21T16:35:58Z")
And also **Eonwe** , where’s your cite for your claims? Or is that just your pet theory that you pulled out of your ass? ---
**Author:** ![UltraVires](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/ecccb3/32.png) [@UltraVires](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/UltraVires)\ **Post date:** [July 21, 2012, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915/40 "2012-07-21T16:42:03Z")
> [@Justin\_Chaschowy](#): > > Maybe you’re lacking testosterone, OP. You can go talk to a Dr for that. Seriously? (And then we can go back to joking) You really think that my sexual libido is so far outside the norm that it is a medical issue? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-guys-recharge-after-sex/628915.md?page=3)