# For one single yesterday **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 27, 2000, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684 "2000-09-27T00:12:31Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![JimOfAllTrades](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@JimOfAllTrades](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JimOfAllTrades)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/1 "2000-09-27T00:12:31Z")
Well, I almost made it through the day. 14 years ago today she died. A moment of inattention, a truck she didn’t see and that didn’t see her, and she was gone. We had planned to be married within the year. We were in love as teenagers, but hadn’t seen each other in 10 years. At the beginning the summer (both of us recently out of bad marriages) we found each other again. We fell in love again instantly. Actually, I never quit loving her. I know she felt the same. It’s always a little hard for me on this day. Today I did ok until about 20 minutes ago when Janis Joplin came on the radio. Although I’m happy with my new life, and love my wife (10 years this year), there are times when I feel the words of the song I just heard very strongly: “I’d trade all my tomorrows for one single yesterday…” Ugly ---
**Author:** ![chique](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/4491bb/32.png) [@chique](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chique)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 12:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/2 "2000-09-27T00:51:30Z")
☹ ---
**Author:** ![Tabithina](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/f04885/32.png) [@Tabithina](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tabithina)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 1:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/3 "2000-09-27T01:02:21Z")
{{{{RJKUgly}}}} ---
**Author:** ![racinchikki](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eada6e/32.png) [@racinchikki](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/racinchikki)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/4 "2000-09-27T01:03:53Z")
☹ Big thoughts for you. reminded me of this… _I love my life, and I’d never trade Between what you and me had and the life I’ve made She’s here and she’s real, but you were too And every once in a while I think about you_ ---
**Author:** ![Booker57](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Booker57](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Booker57)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 1:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/5 "2000-09-27T01:31:42Z")
{{{{RJKUgly}}}} ---
**Author:** ![Medea\_s\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Medea\_s\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Medea_s_Child)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 3:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/6 "2000-09-27T03:28:56Z")
{{{{{{{RJKUgly}}}}}}} That hurts. Be well. ---
**Author:** ![dpr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8797f3/32.png) [@dpr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dpr)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 3:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/7 "2000-09-27T03:38:02Z")
Oh god. I’m so sorry to hear it. {{{{RJKUgly}}}} But at least you had some time together. It would’ve been even more tragic if it had remained unrealised. * * * insert any quote from The Dance here ---
**Author:** ![andygirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9adbd/32.png) [@andygirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andygirl)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/8 "2000-09-27T03:46:21Z")
\ \ Peace be with you. ---
**Author:** ![Serendipity](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/f17d59/32.png) [@Serendipity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Serendipity)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 3:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/9 "2000-09-27T03:52:54Z")
{{{{{{{{{{{{RJKUgly}}}}}}}}}}}}} I don’t think the words exist for me to lend any comfort. ☹ Take special care of yourself today – I think she would be happy that you’re happy and in love, and I’m sure you love more purely (whatever that means) now because of her. What better tribute to her memory? Oh, I need to hug you again. 🙂 {{{{{{{{{RJKUgly}}}}}}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![The\_Mermaid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@The\_Mermaid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Mermaid)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 3:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/10 "2000-09-27T03:54:52Z")
{{{{{ugly}}}}} And I’m glad I didn’t know the way it all would end the way it all would go. Our lives are better left to chance I could have missed the pain but I’d have had to miss the dance. (Garth Brooks) I’ll say a prayer for you and your family. ---
**Author:** ![JimOfAllTrades](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@JimOfAllTrades](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JimOfAllTrades)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/11 "2000-09-27T04:10:14Z")
Thanks folks. I felt a little foolish posting that, but I just kind of lost it there for a minute. Anyway, thanks. Ugly ---
**Author:** ![dpr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8797f3/32.png) [@dpr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dpr)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 4:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/12 "2000-09-27T04:49:31Z")
No need to feel foolish mate: there’s no sin attached to feeling. ---
**Author:** ![TroubleAgain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e480ec/32.png) [@TroubleAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroubleAgain)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 4:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/13 "2000-09-27T04:52:59Z")
☹ {{{{{{{{RJK}}}}}}}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![mega\_the\_roo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3da27b/32.png) [@mega\_the\_roo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mega_the_roo)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 5:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/14 "2000-09-27T05:15:13Z")
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**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 8:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/15 "2000-09-27T08:38:22Z")
> [@](#): > > **Rush - Afterimage** > > Suddenly – > You were gone > From all the lives > You left your mark upon > > I remember – > How we talked and drank > Into the misty dawn > – I hear the voices > > We ran by the water > On the wet summer lawn > – I see the foot prints > I remember – > > – I feel the way you would > – I feel the way you would > > Tried to believe > But you know it’s no good > This is something > That just can’t be understood > > I remember – > The shouts of joy > Skiing fast through the woods > – I hear the echoes > > I learned your love for life > I feel the way that you would > – I feel your presence > I remember – > > I feel the way you would > This just can’t be understood… > _Music by Lee and Lifeson > Lyrics by Peart_ That was a very moving post, RJK. I suppose we all have loved ones that we miss at particular dates, or at certain times of the year. But she was your wife-to-be… I can’t imagine anything like that. And it scares me to even TRY to imagine it… RJK, all the best. For one thing, I hope your current wife understands why you feel this way on this particular day. But then, maybe it’s a hard feeling to share. ---
**Author:** ![Missy2U](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/3bc359/32.png) [@Missy2U](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Missy2U)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 2:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/16 "2000-09-27T14:37:47Z")
{{{RJK}}} I hurt for you. And my thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![Girlbysea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c6cbf5/32.png) [@Girlbysea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Girlbysea)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/17 "2000-09-27T14:48:03Z")
I know how you feel. After 22 years of marriage, my husband and I separated. All through the separation, we continued a beautiful friendship. In July at the age of 44 he had a massive heart attack and was gone. If I could have one day back, I would love to hug him one more time and tell him how much that I truly loved him… ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 3:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/18 "2000-09-27T15:13:36Z")
Okay, we really, REALLY need a crying emoticon. Something a bit more effective/poignant than a blue face. ---
**Author:** ![struuter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b9e5f3/32.png) [@struuter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/struuter)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2000, 3:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/19 "2000-09-27T15:18:44Z")
Oh honey. I can never think of anything comforting on these occasions. I wish to god I could. Please accept my good thoughts and support. ---
**Author:** ![JimOfAllTrades](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@JimOfAllTrades](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JimOfAllTrades)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2000, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684/20 "2000-09-28T01:53:37Z")
Once again, thanks everyone. The feeling of support is incredible, especially considering that with my post count I’m a virtual stranger to most of you. Thanks with all my heart. Girlbysea: After 22 years it’s hard to even imagine the hole in your life a loss like that makes. My heart go out to you. I can only say this: Even though the feeling of loss doesn’t go away, it gets easier to deal with. With time, you find that the happy memories and the smiles tend to come first. Savor those memories. And at some point, it gets easier. For me, when I think of my lost lady, I see her smile first. The most absolutely beautful smile ever. Even after 14 years I can see her smile in my minds eye. Thanks everyone. You’re good people. Ugly [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-one-single-yesterday/34684.md?page=2)