# For the Doper Men - Blow jobs: good vs. bad **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 7, 2009, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872 "2009-10-07T00:35:56Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/81 "2009-10-08T17:50:43Z")
> [@control-z](#): > > That’s like saying that if a man can sick his penis in the woman’s mouth, then the woman should be able to penetrate a man’s mouth with a strap-on. No, it’s not. It’s like saying that if you think your secretions are too gross to be in your mouth, why should I want them in mine? It has nothing to do with “equality”, it’s about grownup attitudes towards bodies, both our own and our partners’. Hey, I’m all about everyone negotiating these things with the people they actually have sex with, to all partners’ satisfaction. You don’t like something, you don’t like it, and if that’s okay with each of you, fantastic. But for me personally, if a guy wouldn’t kiss me after I swallowed (it’s not like I’m still rolling it around in there, you know), I wouldn’t be having sex with him again. It’d just feel a little too much like he doesn’t especially like \*either \*of us. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Tao\_s\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@The\_Tao\_s\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Tao_s_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 5:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/82 "2009-10-08T17:52:00Z")
> [@DianaG](#): > > Which would seem to be an excellent argument for not sticking your tongue up someone’s ass, and a terrible argument for expecting someone to stick their tongue up your ass and then refusing to kiss them. > > The issue here isn’t the relative ickyness of the secretion involved, it’s the fact that if you expect someone to take that secretion into their mouth, you should be willing to do the same. Never said otherwise but may have missed the point of the argument. I would never ask someone to do that because it’s nasty. if they surprise licked me than I would be too squicked out about it to kiss them. I mean I’d know where their mouth had been. \>.\< ---
**Author:** ![The\_Tao\_s\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@The\_Tao\_s\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Tao_s_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/83 "2009-10-08T17:53:44Z")
> [@control-z](#): > > That’s like saying that if a man can sick his penis in the woman’s mouth, then the woman should be able to penetrate a man’s mouth with a strap-on. Sex isn’t about total equality, men and women do have different plumbing and different mindsets. And everybody has different likes and dislikes. > > I don’t require my gf to kiss me after I perform oral on her, but luckily she doesn’t mind her own taste. OTOH, I’m not gonna french kiss her after she does all-the-way oral on me. Just personal preference. Well it’s more like saying the woman ought to be able to kiss him. Which I agree. It could also be an argument that a man should be willing to perform oral on her if she goes down on him. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/84 "2009-10-08T18:15:28Z")
> [@gaffa](#): > > Am I going to be the only person to come here and defend anilingus, aka “rimming”? No, you’re not. Rimming rules. And I’m more than happy to be both a “bottom” (tee hee!) and a “top.” Getting a rusty trombone is an awesome experience. But dwelling on the germ factor totally kills the mood. That’s why I don’t think about it. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/85 "2009-10-08T19:34:32Z")
Here’s something I learned from a Greek guy. The cure for dry mouth is not to magically squeeze out more saliva, or to take a sip of water. What really works is a little sip of olive oil, swished around the mouth. I even keep an olive oil dispenser within reach. Also great for massages . . . or I suppose, sex play involving salads. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/86 "2009-10-08T19:39:51Z")
Or as a personal lubricant. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/87 "2009-10-08T19:40:47Z")
> [@gaffa](#): > > Am I going to be the only person to come here and defend anilingus, aka “rimming”? A freshly showered and scrubbed asshole is as clean as any other part of the body. And licking one can (in my experience) produce _astounding_ orgasms. My partner does several different locations, including feet and ass, before oral. Neither of us has had a health problem yet. (I think the health risk is minimized by monogamy.) ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/88 "2009-10-08T19:56:07Z")
> [@kittenblue](#): > > Why? Spitting is just rude. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/89 "2009-10-08T20:09:28Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > Nope. Lousy point. Point not made. > > Assholes, being the exit point of your colon, carry quite the bacterial load and can potentially cause an infection. > > Sperm does not carry E. coli and other bacteria. Ergo, they are not the same in one’s mouth. (Or partner’s mouth.) > > The two are therefore not similar enough for you to be able to make a point. > > (For the record, I have no problems kissing after either giving or receiving oral. ATM, not so much.) Yeah, but just because it’s sterile doesn’t mean I want it in MY mouth. It’s personal preference. Probably because the salty taste reminds me of CoLyte. If you ever had a colonoscopy, it’s the crap you have to drink the night before to clean your shit out (litterally). It’s salty taste is by far the worst part of having a telescope shoved up your ass. Your initial reaction is to try to vomit it up (which means you have to take it all over again). And then of course, you have to wait while it does its job. So yeah, the taste of my own semen reminds me of drinking something that makes me throw up, shit for 6 hours and then get a tube shoved up my ass. In fact, I almost threw up in the theater watching the scene in Jackass 2 where Steve-O and Johnny Knoxville drink a glass of horse semen. Besides, I’m pretty sure MY shit doesn’t carry bacteria (since it doesn’t stink).😃 ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/90 "2009-10-08T20:15:27Z")
You paid actual money to see Jackass 2? ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 9:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/91 "2009-10-08T21:22:08Z")
No, he used Monopoly money. Watch for it in _Jackass 3_. ---
**Author:** ![chowder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/977dab/32.png) [@chowder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/chowder)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2009, 7:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/92 "2009-10-09T07:57:13Z")
> [@gaffa](#): > > I’m very sorry for your loss. > I’m sure, but that sounds like more than reason enough. > > Again, sorry for your loss, and - after the pain of her loss dulls enough, I hope you can find love again. But you probably won’t find another woman with your late wife’s skill. > > . Thanks for your thoughts but it was a long time ago that my wife passed on, the pain has dulled over the years. As for finding another woman, I’m 67, almost 68, if I should be lucky enough to find someone else (and I haven’t even been looking) I’m afraid BJs are but a dim and distant memory. Hang on a minute, there’s allus Viagra 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hazle_Weatherfield)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2009, 8:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/93 "2009-10-09T08:00:39Z")
Thanks to you guys, I gave an exceptional bj to a birthday boy Wednesday. No doubt about it! Thank you! ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2009, 1:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/94 "2009-10-09T13:12:55Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > No, you’re not. Rimming rules. And I’m more than happy to be both a “bottom” (tee hee!) and a “top.” **Getting a rusty trombone is an awesome experience.** > But dwelling on the germ factor totally kills the mood. That’s why I don’t think about it. I’ll second this post, especially the bolded part. Rim play isn’t something we do often but is something we both really enjoy. We’ve been engaging in it for years and have yet to suffer any negative health effects. ---
**Author:** ![I\_Love\_Me\_Vol.I](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/i_love_me_vol.i/32/521_2.png) [@I\_Love\_Me\_Vol.I](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/I_Love_Me_Vol.I)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2009, 1:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/95 "2009-10-09T13:22:49Z")
> [@Surly\_Chick](#): > > And what constitutes a “good” blow job? Deep throat. ---
**Author:** ![I\_Love\_Me\_Vol.I](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/i_love_me_vol.i/32/521_2.png) [@I\_Love\_Me\_Vol.I](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/I_Love_Me_Vol.I)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2009, 1:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/96 "2009-10-09T13:38:35Z")
Actually, I always wanted to start a thread in here about deep throat. Basically how many women Dopers can do it? Like to do it? Maybe it should be a poll! (Or pole???) ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2009, 1:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/97 "2009-10-09T13:51:03Z")
> [@chowder](#): > > Hang on a minute, there’s allus Viagra 😃 You do not need an erection to enjoy a BJ or to climax. The nerve endings are still there. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2009, 2:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/98 "2009-10-09T14:03:40Z")
> [@VinylTurnip](#): > > No, he used Monopoly money. Watch for it in _Jackass 3_. That doesn’t even make sense.😕 > [@Hazle Weatherfield](#): > > Thanks to you guys, I gave an exceptional bj to a birthday boy Wednesday. No doubt about it! Thank you! My birthday is coming up on Monday. Just FYI. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2009, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/99 "2009-10-09T14:34:28Z")
> [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](#): > > Thanks to you guys, I gave an exceptional bj to a birthday boy Wednesday. No doubt about it! Thank you! Well, it beats the hell out of a clown. ---
**Author:** ![NajaNivea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/22d042/32.png) [@NajaNivea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NajaNivea)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2009, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872/100 "2009-10-09T14:44:31Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > Well, it beats the hell out of a clown. Definitely… that grease paint tastes awful. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-men-blow-jobs-good-vs-bad/512872.md?page=6)