# For the Doper Women - Cunnilingus: good vs. bad **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 8, 2009, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085 "2009-10-08T18:18:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Captain\_Awesome](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a698b9/32.png) [@Captain\_Awesome](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Awesome)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 6:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/1 "2009-10-08T18:18:26Z")
'Fess up then, what cunning lingual-stimulation methods should we know about, so we don’t just pay lip service to it. [Mirror thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=534954) ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/2 "2009-10-08T19:29:18Z")
The whole goddamn board has an oral fixation this week. So do I. ---
**Author:** ![Drain\_Bead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e47774/32.png) [@Drain\_Bead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drain_Bead)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/3 "2009-10-08T19:30:21Z")
No stubble. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 7:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/4 "2009-10-08T19:32:21Z")
Oh, it’s _all_ good! ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 7:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/5 "2009-10-08T19:56:59Z")
Oh, come on! Somebody post some real information here! This is a message board - you can post general pointers and preferences without bruising our fragile male egos! WHAT DO YOU WANT? ---
**Author:** ![WOOKINPANUB](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wookinpanub/32/132_2.png) [@WOOKINPANUB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WOOKINPANUB)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/6 "2009-10-08T20:00:57Z")
For me, the actual technique is less important than the guy’s attitude. Make me feel like there’s nothing you like better than eating some pussy (sorry to be crude), like you’re doing it just as much for your own pleasure as for mine. It’s all about the enthsuiasm. Also, don’t lick too hard and if I start showing signs of liking what you’re doing at that particular moment, DO NOT STOP. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/7 "2009-10-08T20:00:59Z")
> [@bup](#): > > Oh, come on! Somebody post some real information here! This is a message board - you can post general pointers and preferences without bruising our fragile male egos! > > WHAT DO YOU WANT? I want you to calm the fuck down. Not \*you \*you, the general you. You’re not gaining any points by jack hammering my vagina with your mouth. Pretend like it’s not going to disappear if you stop attacking it for .05 seconds. Other than that, have at it. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/8 "2009-10-08T20:13:54Z")
One wants more enthusiasm, one wants less. Bah. Women. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/9 "2009-10-08T20:17:50Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > One wants more enthusiasm, one wants less. Bah. Women. Enthusiasm does not equal attacking my vagina with your face. ---
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/10 "2009-10-08T20:18:52Z")
Not less enthusiasm, just more finesse. For me personally, when in doubt, gentler is better. It really is quite a sensitive area, and when I want more/faster/harder, you will know. Like always, it’s my job to show or tell you what I want, and it’s yours to pay attention. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/11 "2009-10-08T20:21:39Z")
> [@](#): > > Enthusiasm does not equal attacking my vagina with your face. What am I _supposed_ to attack it with, then? 😉 New question: how many fingers is too many fingers? ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/12 "2009-10-08T20:21:50Z")
OK, this is helpful. I think I can pull off showing my enthusiasm while maintaining muscle control. Go on… ---
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/13 "2009-10-08T20:22:07Z")
Depends. Where? ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/14 "2009-10-08T20:23:19Z")
You tell us. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/15 "2009-10-08T20:26:09Z")
> [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](#): > > What am I _supposed_ to attack it with, then? 😉 Ha! > [@](#): > > New question: how many fingers is too many fingers? If you would like to use your hands (no need to), 1 or 2 is plenty. Please try not to thrust them in clumsily. ---
**Author:** ![DianaG](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/7ab992/32.png) [@DianaG](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DianaG)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/16 "2009-10-08T20:29:01Z")
Well… if you hear “mmmmmmmmmm”, keep going. If you hear “mmm followed by anything that sounds kinda gulpy”, you’re probably at capacity. If you hear “OW!!!” that’s too many. ---
**Author:** ![gurujulp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ba9def/32.png) [@gurujulp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gurujulp)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/17 "2009-10-08T20:34:30Z")
As a man, I want to post the one single statement that changed my life forever as a giver of cunnilingus. I was going at it, all enthusiastic and crazy. She said, gently, when I was done, one simple statement. “Imagine you are tenderly french kissing my mouth.” The next evening she came three times from my cunnilingus, and she never had before. Seriously, although variation per woman comes along in every case, starting just as if it were her lips and tongue can never hurt. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/18 "2009-10-08T20:41:57Z")
> [@gurujulp](#): > > “Imagine you are tenderly french kissing my mouth.” I was just going to suggest that. Much in the same way that I like to be kissed enthusiastically, but not in a way that draws blood. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/19 "2009-10-08T20:49:14Z")
> [@tdn](#): > > I was just going to suggest that. > > Much in the same way that I like to be kissed enthusiastically, but not in a way that draws blood. I went out with a guy once who liked to bite my lip (on my face) pretty hard. I guess the pulling away and groans of discomfort weren’t enough of a clue for him, so I had to stop him and say, “Please don’t do that.” It was kind of unsexy and killed the mood, but having my bottom lip bitten hard was killing my mood. It hurt. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [October 8, 2009, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085/20 "2009-10-08T21:03:02Z")
> [@bup](#): > > Oh, come on! Somebody post some real information here! This is a message board - you can post general pointers and preferences without bruising our fragile male egos! > > WHAT DO YOU WANT? really graphic Take your tongue in long, broad strokes from the entrance of the vagina all the way up to the clit. Repeat. Don’t be afraid to stick your tongue in there. And hold my thighs down so I can’t wriggle away. Shit, is it getting hot in here? [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-doper-women-cunnilingus-good-vs-bad/513085.md?page=2)