# For the single ones among us **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 11, 2001, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-single-ones-among-us/68350 "2001-06-11T00:09:13Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Cumber](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b5ac83/32.png) [@Cumber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cumber)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2001, 2:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-single-ones-among-us/68350/61 "2001-06-13T14:46:07Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Obsidian Flutterby \* > **_sighs and nods to vengeance and dust and Pushkin_ Join the club… I know I’m just 18 but I rarely get the chance to go out (I do volunteer and stuff like that but I don’t meet many guys) and I’ve never been in any kind of a relationship… be it a teenage fling or a serious emotional one. There is a guy I like but I’m shy ☹** Exactly the same with me… 'cept that I’m male… and there’s a girl I like atm but my shyness isn’t the problem, since I told her. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2001, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-single-ones-among-us/68350/62 "2001-06-13T18:40:33Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by UncleBill \* > **Can you define “Canada”?** The big lump of land north of you. Where everyone makes a little less money, but is a little more polite. > [@](#): > > **How’s about you become GingerOfTheSouth and we compare tan lines in December?** Bwhahahaha! I glow in the dark or am lobster red. Tan? What’s “Tan”? > [@](#): > > \*\* > That, plus the blowjobs. \*\* Finally! Honesty! ---
**Author:** ![MaxTheVool](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9fc29f/32.png) [@MaxTheVool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MaxTheVool)\ **Post date:** [June 13, 2001, 11:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-single-ones-among-us/68350/63 "2001-06-13T23:51:35Z")
What I don’t miss: -Her lack of communication. If you don’t want to do something, say so. If you do want to do something, say so. If you say something, _mean it_. It hurts me a lot more to later on figure out what it was you didn’t tell me than for you to just come out and tell me. -Her grumpiness in the morning -The fact that the only way she could fall asleep was by rolling away from me and curling up in a ball, which always, no matter how much snuggling preceded it, felt kind of like a rejection What I miss: -Lots of things, many of them already mentioned on this thread, but mainly, how happy her smile made me -Also, the feeling of anticipation when I was off doing something alone (like playing Softball) knowing that I would soon get to see her PS: I hope I’m not the only person clicking on the profile of everyone of the relevant gender and orientation and hoping that they are within 7 years-of-age and 50 miles of me… which they never are. Which is frustrating, because I figure I should be a hot commodity… there are _so_ few single nerdy men in the Silicon Valley area, right? So I should just be snapped up, right? 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Lsura](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7993a0/32.png) [@Lsura](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lsura)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2001, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-single-ones-among-us/68350/64 "2001-06-14T00:10:14Z")
Thanks y’all. Even though this got me thinking about what I _do_ miss as much as what I don’t miss, it’s been fun. And best of all, despite thinking about what I do miss, I didn’t call dorkboy the ex BF. Which is always a good thing. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Eo\_Echo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ebca7d/32.png) [@Eo\_Echo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eo_Echo)\ **Post date:** [June 14, 2001, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-single-ones-among-us/68350/65 "2001-06-14T00:12:57Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by MysterEcks \* > \*\*No, **JBirdman12** , I never fume over anything insignificant. I don’t get upset about little things. I don’t sweat the small stuff… **HEY! YOU MISSPELLED MY NAME, YOU ROTTEN SON OF A BITCH! I HOPE A PIANO FALLS ON YOU AND YOU BURN IN HELL** …er, I don’t get angry, is what I was saying. \*\* My apologies on my misspelling your name. It shall not happen again and I will now go outside and flog myself with the cat o’ nine tails in repentence. Incidentally, it’s nice to know there are others in the world with a sense of humor. In my daily life I sometimes fear I’m the last one left. FWIW, the “five perfect nights” I mentioned in my OP were spread over three weeks, something else I see I neglected to mention. Communication is my middle name. But JCommunicationBirdman12 was too long of a screen name. ---
**Author:** ![Neidhart](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Neidhart](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Neidhart)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2001, 1:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-single-ones-among-us/68350/66 "2001-06-15T13:30:43Z")
My only relationship so far was a long-distance one: she lived halfway across the country. So although it lasted five months, we only spent about ten days together in all. I don’t miss: - Worrying about what to get her for Valentine’s Day. - Having to make airline reservations two months in advance. - Having to constantly reassure her via email and ICQ of her true beauty. - Trying to bolster her self-worth when she got into one of her depressive moods. (actually we remain friends, so I still do the latter two, but since we’re no longer a couple I don’t feel as burdened by expectations.) - Trying to fall in love with her the same way she loved me, and feeling guilty and ashamed that I couldn’t. I do miss: - Touching, holding hands, lying curled up beside her in bed watching TV . . . - The excitement of looking forward to our next visit, her showing me around her hometown and me likewise. - The thrill of the early days, telling each other all about ourselves, finding out our similarities and differences. - The sheer unadulterated ego boost of: After 32 long years, somebody actually LIKES ME THAT WAY!!! ---
**Author:** ![Monkey\_Chews](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/65b543/32.png) [@Monkey\_Chews](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monkey_Chews)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2001, 2:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-single-ones-among-us/68350/67 "2001-06-15T14:58:33Z")
I don’t miss having to listen to crappy boy bands. I sure as hell don’t miss having sex to the sounds of Westlife’s latest album. ::shudder:: [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-the-single-ones-among-us/68350.md?page=3)