# For those of you who are engaged or married **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 20, 2014, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-of-you-who-are-engaged-or-married/701925 "2014-10-20T16:07:40Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2014, 2:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-of-you-who-are-engaged-or-married/701925/41 "2014-10-21T14:05:56Z")
We met at work, at her interview but I wasn’t interested in her at that time. I was going through a painful divorce (painful because it was her leaving me, very suddenly from a loving 10+ year marriage with three young kids). My current wife and I, we eventually became good work friends, and then later we became good outside-of-work friends. Three years after her interview we finally started dating. I guess I knew on that first date where we just had great, relaxed conversation, for hours. We were so comfortable together, and for me it was like coming home. We dated for three years before we got married. It took me that long because I was feeling a little snake bit from my first marriage. She was patient and she waited for me to see the light. My wife and I have been married now for 12 years and counting. We are best of friends. ---
**Author:** ![Gymnopithys](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/fbc32d/32.png) [@Gymnopithys](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gymnopithys)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2014, 2:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-of-you-who-are-engaged-or-married/701925/42 "2014-10-21T14:41:35Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > IIRC it was about three months after we first met. > > We were dating, and there was a huge snow storm that shut the whole city down. Neither of us could get to work, and even the buses weren’t running. So I called her and asked if she wanted to spend the day together, and I walked the four miles to her apartment thru the snow drifts. It took about two and a half hours, and sometime during the second hour I asked myself if it was really worth it to go thru all that just to see her. > > It was. Thirty four years later, she is still there to welcome me in from the storm. > > Regards, > Shodan Can’t help from commenting: Touching! ---
**Author:** ![Gymnopithys](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/fbc32d/32.png) [@Gymnopithys](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gymnopithys)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2014, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-of-you-who-are-engaged-or-married/701925/43 "2014-10-21T14:55:57Z")
> [@dracoi](#): > > the period of infatuation lasts about two years. This period impairs your judgment - you’re head over heels in love, I’ll take that as a lesson. Counting: 14 months left. ---
**Author:** ![Pabitel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bbce88/32.png) [@Pabitel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pabitel)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2014, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-of-you-who-are-engaged-or-married/701925/44 "2014-10-21T15:11:27Z")
We met in May when she was engaged to someone else, were living together by September, engaged by December and married the next June. It was letting her decide that the engagement was a mistake that was the hardest thing. I didn’t want to convince her and be the one who caused it to end, so I had to wait for her to decide on her own. ---
**Author:** ![Dogzilla](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@Dogzilla](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dogzilla)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2014, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-of-you-who-are-engaged-or-married/701925/45 "2014-10-21T15:24:48Z")
> [@Shodan](#): > > IIRC it was about three months after we first met. > > We were dating, and there was a huge snow storm that shut the whole city down. Neither of us could get to work, and even the buses weren’t running. So I called her and asked if she wanted to spend the day together, and I walked the four miles to her apartment thru the snow drifts. It took about two and a half hours, and sometime during the second hour I asked myself if it was really worth it to go thru all that just to see her. > > It was. Thirty four years later, she is still there to welcome me in from the storm. > > Regards, > Shodan You should repost that story every time some woman/girl posts that her BF is inattentive and plays her for yo-yo girl and should she stay or should she go. I’ve maintained for some time now that, if a dude is seriously into you, he will close the fucking deal. And your story is a perfect example of that. If you were not seriously into her, you’d have bailed on the snowbank walk about ten minutes into it, if you’d even left the comfort of your own warm home. ---
**Author:** ![RTFirefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/c77e96/32.png) [@RTFirefly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RTFirefly)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2014, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-of-you-who-are-engaged-or-married/701925/46 "2014-10-21T17:07:25Z")
Our first kiss was a couple months after we met. I remember thinking the next morning that this was the proverbial ‘it.’ That will be 26 years ago next week. Seems to be working out pretty well so far. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2014, 7:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-of-you-who-are-engaged-or-married/701925/47 "2014-10-21T19:01:25Z")
I’m a guy- if there’s such a thing as love at first sight, I had it bad. From the day we met when we were 18, I couldn’t get her out of my mind. We dated for about 6 months before I expressed my love, and not long after that the ‘M’ word entered the conversation. We were too young, but looking back I think I knew within days of meeting her. And we’re happily married today. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-of-you-who-are-engaged-or-married/701925.md?page=2)