# For those that have been married for 30 years or more **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [July 11, 2017, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016 "2017-07-11T17:41:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![TreacherousCretin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/treacherouscretin/32/476_2.png) [@TreacherousCretin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TreacherousCretin)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2017, 2:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/21 "2017-07-12T02:27:49Z")
Just observed our 47th a couple of weeks ago. Our 30th almost certainly was like all the others before and since- we’re homebodies, don’t enjoy going out to eat, and our usual celebration is to look at each other and say “\_\_\_ years?! Gawd DAMN!!” Then we hug, and feel warm and fuzzy the rest of the evening. It helps that we’re still each other’s best friend. ---
**Author:** ![diggerwam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/919ad9/32.png) [@diggerwam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/diggerwam)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2017, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/22 "2017-07-12T02:39:31Z")
I’ll tell you in a few years, we have 25 on August 1st. congrats ---
**Author:** ![Shoeless](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/shoeless/32/7099_2.png) [@Shoeless](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shoeless)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2017, 2:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/23 "2017-07-12T02:42:11Z")
Congrats! We’re up to 25 and took a trip to Hawaii last October to celebrate. Not sure what we’ll do for 30, but I have a few years to figure it out. ---
**Author:** ![Defensive\_Indifference](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/defensive_indifference/32/6502_2.png) [@Defensive\_Indifference](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Defensive_Indifference)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2017, 2:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/24 "2017-07-12T02:51:50Z")
Congrats!! We’re youngsters at just 15 years, as of last month. We went to a nice restaurant and drank too much, neither of which we do much anymore. It was nice. ---
**Author:** ![Hari\_Seldon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hari_seldon/32/5173_2.png) [@Hari\_Seldon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hari_Seldon)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2017, 4:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/25 "2017-07-12T04:00:23Z")
53 and counting. So our 30th was in 1994 and our first grandchild was on the way. The last thing it would have occurred to us was to go to the motel in the rathole of a town where she partly grew up and where we were married. I don’t know what we did for the 30th, although we generally go out for a fancy meal, mostly at our favorite Syrian restaurant called Alep. For our 50th, our kids got together and arranged a glorious week in Myrtle Beach and we have wonderful photos of the 14 of us (two of us, three children, three spouses, and 6 grandchildren, on the beach). ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2017, 8:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/26 "2017-07-12T08:53:26Z")
Congratulations! 🙂 My parents celebrated it… I was going to say “like any other July 7th, lunch out”, but no: that was the year I finished college, meaning my Defense had taken place just a few days before and in Barcelona; on the weekend between both dates all five of us had lunch at Can Soteras, the same restaurant where they celebrated the wedding banquet. They also did special stuff for the 25th anniversary of the day they met (a week in Paris, including New Year’s at the Moulin Rouge; they’d met on January 2nd) and for their 25th wedding anniversary (big lunch with friends and closest relatives). ---
**Author:** ![koeeoaddi](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/koeeoaddi/32/408_2.png) [@koeeoaddi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/koeeoaddi)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2017, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/27 "2017-07-12T14:29:44Z")
Congrats, **Czarcasms**! 43 years, here. How did our 30th go? Pleasant, presumably, but honestly it was so long ago I don’t remember. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![somepumpkin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/7feea3/32.png) [@somepumpkin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/somepumpkin)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2017, 2:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/28 "2017-07-12T14:50:47Z")
Congratulations, sir! I’m but 0.64 years into it but I’ll try to (remember to) post back in ~29 years. ---
**Author:** ![Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mean_mr.mustard/32/3865_2.png) [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mean_Mr.Mustard)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2017, 4:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/29 "2017-07-12T16:20:29Z")
Congrats! 34 years here. I recall we were thrown a nice surprise party for 25, but don’t remember doing anything extraordinary for 30. We had always hoped to visit Alaska for our 25th; finally made it there last year. mmm ---
**Author:** ![Fir\_na\_tine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a587f6/32.png) [@Fir\_na\_tine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fir_na_tine)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2017, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/30 "2017-07-12T16:28:22Z")
Congrats you young whipper snappers. We celebrated our 47th back in January. Haven’t the foggiest idea what we did 17 1/2 years ago! ---
**Author:** ![BobArrgh](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bobarrgh/32/2881_2.png) [@BobArrgh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BobArrgh)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2017, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/31 "2017-07-12T17:05:21Z")
Congrats, **Czarcasm** and **Rahne McCloud** … very nice! My wife and I will be “celebrating” #34 this weekend. (The quotes are around that word because we are both going to be at a family graduation party this weekend, and then I am coming home and she will be staying with her mother for a few days for her annual summer visit. Thus, we will not be together on our actual anniversary.) We didn’t do anything really special for our 30th. Just two weeks before that anniversary, we had gone on a mission trip to Guatemala and worked for a week at a children’s home. As a result, we didn’t have a lot of disposable cash, nor time off to go anywhere. Also, that was when my wife’s knees really started hurting (get your minds out of the gutter!), and we were in the throes of scheduling her knee replacements, which happened later that year. We probably went out to a “nice” dinner (Red Lobster or Outback Steakhouse). She’s always been a cheap date, which is one reason why I love her so much! 😃 Whenever people ask us for the secret of the longevity of our marriage, we are quick to reply, “Early on, we decided to make two people miserable instead of four!” Yes, we get on each other’s nerves every now and then, and neither of us looks near as good as we did 34 years ago, but I can’t think of anyone else with whom I would rather spend the rest of my life. ---
**Author:** ![BobArrgh](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bobarrgh/32/2881_2.png) [@BobArrgh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BobArrgh)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2017, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/32 "2017-07-12T17:06:55Z")
> [@Fir\_na\_tine](#): > > Congrats you young whipper snappers. We celebrated our 47th back in January. Haven’t the foggiest idea what we did 17 1/2 years ago! Comhghairdeas, mo chara! ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Woodhouse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/838e76/32.png) [@Miss\_Woodhouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miss_Woodhouse)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2017, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/33 "2017-07-12T20:01:47Z")
Congratulation! May you have at least 30 more. We have a few years before we get to 30. We’ll celebrate 23 this weekend. Sent from my SM-J700T using Tapatalk ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [July 12, 2017, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/34 "2017-07-12T21:36:39Z")
We stayed at the Benson some ten years ago or so when on a business trip to Portland, but didn’t have dinner there. The concierge got us tickets to the sold-out Yo-Yo Ma concert. We’ve entered our 25th year. Last year we celebrated with hot dogs slathered with peanut butter and sriracha; potato salad on the side. Yeah, we’re big party animals. ---
**Author:** ![Fir\_na\_tine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/a587f6/32.png) [@Fir\_na\_tine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fir_na_tine)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2017, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/35 "2017-07-13T01:06:32Z")
> [@BobArrgh](#): > > Comhghairdeas, mo chara! Go raibh maith agat, a chara. ---
**Author:** ![DrFidelius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/drfidelius/32/3447_2.png) [@DrFidelius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DrFidelius)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2017, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/36 "2017-07-13T02:02:28Z")
Can’t participate because 30th in in October. ---
**Author:** ![Daylate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/9dc877/32.png) [@Daylate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Daylate)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2017, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/37 "2017-07-13T02:12:47Z")
In 2019 we will celebrate out 60th. Will probably go to either Denny’s or IHOP for dinner. Wifey has always been a pretty inexpensive date. ---
**Author:** ![Topologist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/topologist/32/3208_2.png) [@Topologist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Topologist)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2017, 2:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/38 "2017-07-13T02:40:51Z")
32 years at the end of this month. For our 30th we drove up to Quebec City, one of our favorite places to visit, where we hadn’t been for many years. (Since our oldest was conceived, we think.) This time, instead of staying in an inexpensive B&B, we stayed at the [Château Frontenac](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ch%C3%A2teau_Frontenac). ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2017, 2:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/39 "2017-07-13T02:44:08Z")
We’ve got 9 months to go to the big three-oh. I’m not sure what we’ll do, but it oughta be special. It probably won’t include returning to the scene of the wedding or the honeymoon; that was long, long ago in a galaxy far, far away from our current lives. Congrats to all of us proving long term happiness can be had. Keep the ideas coming. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mean_mr.mustard/32/3865_2.png) [@Mean\_Mr.Mustard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mean_Mr.Mustard)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2017, 9:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016/40 "2017-07-13T09:56:47Z")
> [@DrFidelius](#): > > Can’t participate because 30th in in October. …he said, participating 🙂 (jk, happy 30th in advance) mmm [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-that-have-been-married-for-30-years-or-more/791016.md?page=3)