# For those who love the cock: do you find penises visually attractive? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [February 6, 2009, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735 "2009-02-06T18:54:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Omniscient](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omniscient/32/3290_2.png) [@Omniscient](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omniscient)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2009, 1:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/21 "2009-02-07T01:16:35Z")
> [@sunacres](#): > > Well, me for one. I’m as straight as they come, but I get very enthusiastic around swollen members. I like to watch, handle, and throttle. This isn’t a judgment, but you have a very different definition of straight than most folks. Party on. ---
**Author:** ![sunacres](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4491bb/32.png) [@sunacres](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sunacres)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2009, 1:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/22 "2009-02-07T01:21:22Z")
> [@Omniscient](#): > > This isn’t a judgment, but you have a very different definition of straight than most folks. Party on. I know, but doesn’t it seem odd that for many folks _manliness_=fear of manliness? or repulsion by manliness? ---
**Author:** ![Omniscient](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/omniscient/32/3290_2.png) [@Omniscient](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Omniscient)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2009, 1:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/23 "2009-02-07T01:26:08Z")
> [@sunacres](#): > > I know, but doesn’t it seem odd that for many folks _manliness_=fear of manliness? or repulsion by manliness? Not really. I think it’s a bit of word-baiting to call it “fear of” or “repulsion”. As a straight guy I will say I’m certainly not afraid of cock. But I don’t particularly want to come into contact with one other than my own. For someone eager to point out how diverse the human condition is you’re pretty quick to paint non-cock loving men with a broad, stereotypical brush. Oh, and cock != manliness. ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2009, 1:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/24 "2009-02-07T01:40:28Z")
I’ll join in with those who say, “It depends on the cock.” Side note: “squeer?” No thanks. I’m bi, and I’m going to stick with “queer” as my casual designator of choice. ---
**Author:** ![bufftabby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/77aa72/32.png) [@bufftabby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bufftabby)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2009, 6:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/25 "2009-02-07T18:24:12Z")
> [@Omniscient](#): > > I think you are in the minority on this definition. Just about everytime I’ve heard that used, and Urban Dictionary agrees, it means a straight-laced, boring, suburb dwelling queer. Un-_fabulous_ queers. Well, UD lists it as definition #3, and this is the only way I’ve ever heard/used the word. _shrug_ Different words can mean different things to different people. Language is fun like that. ---
**Author:** ![Doody\_Pants](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/839c29/32.png) [@Doody\_Pants](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doody_Pants)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2009, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/26 "2009-02-07T20:47:06Z")
For those who love the cock -BOOM- We salute you! ---
**Author:** ![Doody\_Pants](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/839c29/32.png) [@Doody\_Pants](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Doody_Pants)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2009, 8:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/27 "2009-02-07T20:57:22Z")
I apologize that I did not answer the OP in my last post. I am a straight female and I tend to giggle and smile when I see penis, so I would say that I do find them attractive in a way. ---
**Author:** ![Green\_Bean](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/green_bean/32/1760_2.png) [@Green\_Bean](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Green_Bean)\ **Post date:** [February 7, 2009, 11:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/28 "2009-02-07T23:31:06Z")
> [@Doody\_Pants](#): > > For those who love the cock -BOOM- We salute you! That was beautiful. ---
**Author:** ![sunacres](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/4491bb/32.png) [@sunacres](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sunacres)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/29 "2009-02-08T00:58:33Z")
> [@Omniscient](#): > > As a straight guy I will say I’m certainly not afraid of cock. But I don’t particularly want to come into contact with one other than my own. You’re a comedian, right? > [@Omniscient](#): > > For someone eager to point out how diverse the human condition is you’re pretty quick to paint non-cock loving men with a broad, stereotypical brush. > > Oh, and cock != manliness. I apologize if this hit a raw nerve for you. Party on. ---
**Author:** ![Risha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/5fc32e/32.png) [@Risha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Risha)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 1:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/30 "2009-02-08T01:45:13Z")
I think they’re kind of silly looking, honestly. Doesn’t stop me from wanting to look at erect ones, because of the implications, but no, I don’t think they’re very pretty. Then again, to me, neither is a vulva. ETA: Straight female. ---
**Author:** ![InterestedObserver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@InterestedObserver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InterestedObserver)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 3:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/31 "2009-02-08T03:29:48Z")
I think they’re beautiful. No more “visually unattractive” than female genitalia, at the very least. (which is also beautiful, imo) I guess it’s a judgment call, highly subjective. Dan Savage once caught a load of crap for comparing the female genitalia to a canned ham dropped from a great height, lol, but being a gay male, his subjective “ick” factor doesn’t count for much. I’m not gay or bi, but I can still appreciate the beauty of the female. Flacid, erect, in between, still lovely. Even better if attached to an attractive PERSON (and not just visually so). ---
**Author:** ![CanvasShoes](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/74df32/32.png) [@CanvasShoes](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CanvasShoes)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 3:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/32 "2009-02-08T03:45:46Z")
**pepperlandgirl** , _squeer_=_bisexual/pansexual_. [/QUOTE] What the heck is pansexual? Someone who loves their cooking implements? 😃 To answer the OP’s question… I’m a straight female, and I think some are very attractive. Some are not so cute though. Looks do matter “down there” as well. hehe ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 10:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/33 "2009-02-08T10:02:22Z")
I haven’t seen much cock other than my own outside of porn, but I’ll echo **Miller** ’s sentiment that it depends on the cock. There’s a reason they call it “bumping uglies”, but some really do look nice. For me, it’s about symmetry, even coloring, and an overall smooth and continuous look. Hostile Dialect, Hostile Dialect, Narcissist ---
**Author:** ![tumbleddown](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e9bcb4/32.png) [@tumbleddown](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tumbleddown)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 12:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/34 "2009-02-08T12:06:55Z")
From a general perspective, I think penises tend to look kind of silly, but as a pansexual, I think most genitals look kind of silly. Attraction, however, puts a different twist on how things are viewed, most definitely. When I’m with someone, I tend to find that their genitals become very attractive and interesting to me, but separated from interest in the _person_ (like in porn) they don’t do much for me. There is one exception, a person I actually don’t care for much as a person nor in the professional capacity in which I know him (which is not porn related) did a porn shoot for a gay men’s magazine in which the photos of him flaccid were meh, but one photo of him at full mast caught my eye and has stuck in my memory. He’s got an objectively gorgeous erect penis. It’s very odd to me that I think that about him. I wish I could replace my feelings on the matter with someone else. > [@Stoid](#): > > I have what my shrink calls “skin hunger”. Oh, I relate to that. I didn’t know anyone had given it a name, but yeah, definitely relating. > [@CanvasShoes](#): > > What the heck is pansexual? Someone who loves their cooking implements? It’s someone who rejects the notion that gender is a binary and recognizes that while they are attracted to male and female people, there are also people to whom they may be attracted who do not fit into either category, for example, people whose gender presentation does not match the body in which they dwell. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/35 "2009-02-08T23:10:15Z")
I love cocks. Big or small, hard or soft, there’s just something about them that’s a total turn-on for me. It’s not unusual for me to play with my partner’s cock, even when we’re not having sex . . . not with the purpose of getting him off, just for the pleasure of playing with it. And his balls too. This can happen at any time; he’ll be busy doing something, and I’ll just go over and pull his pants down. He likes to pretend he doesn’t notice. And I love to watch him walking naked, when his cock & balls swing back and forth; that is so-o-o-o-o sexy! And I do \*\*\*not \*\*\*like the way some people (mostly straight women) ridicule cocks as silly or cute. I take cocks very seriously. But over the years I’ve encountered a few guys with really hideous cocks; when they got hard they actually looked deformed. These are the guys who give cocks a bad name. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [February 8, 2009, 11:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/36 "2009-02-08T23:15:57Z")
> [@Omniscient](#): > > This isn’t a judgment, but you have a very different definition of straight than most folks. Party on. If so, it wouldn’t be the first time that “most folks” are wrong about something. An appreciation of cocks, even an enjoyment of them, doesn’t necessarily imply an attraction to males. ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2009, 8:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/37 "2009-02-09T08:08:28Z")
Of course, that depends on whether orientation is considered sexual or romantic in nature (or both, and to what extent which). I don’t think it’s fair to say that other people are “wrong” for thinking of his cock play as homosexual. Personally, I see it as a homosexual activity. Just my two cents. Keep this in mind: I may be many things, but as a queer male with an orientation that confuses just about everyone, and as an LGBT rights activist, I can’t be called insensitive to issues of sexual orientation. Hostile Dialect, Hostile Dialect, Narcissist ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [February 9, 2009, 11:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/38 "2009-02-09T23:26:17Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > If so, it wouldn’t be the first time that “most folks” are wrong about something. An appreciation of cocks, even an enjoyment of them, doesn’t necessarily imply an attraction to males. I agree - I recall seeing some discussion on the boards here about how just about everyone on earth, male and female, gay or straight, is attracted to female breasts, and women finding breasts attractive doesn’t make them lesbians. ---
**Author:** ![CaerieD](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/da6949/32.png) [@CaerieD](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CaerieD)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/39 "2009-02-10T00:11:44Z")
Bisexual female chiming in. I love cocks. I love everything about cocks. The way they look, feel, and taste. Each has his own unique personality that is entirely separate from that of the man he’s attached to. Some are inquisitive and bold. Some are shy. Some are cute. Some are scary. Some make me incapable of thinking about anything but sex for hours at a time. Cocks are, frankly, awesome. I used to have a folder on my hard drive entitled **Cocks**. In my youthful exuberance, I objectified the cock. I admired it with no attention to the fine men attached to the cock. All I cared about was the wonder, the splendor, the downright divine glory of the cock. I looked at cocks. I drew cocks. I even sculpted them out of clay. Now, I have matured so that I can enjoy the full package. I can even enjoy the man. Still, the cock itself is a miracle to behold. I love cocks. Hi, Mom! ---
**Author:** ![Atomicflea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/58956e/32.png) [@Atomicflea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Atomicflea)\ **Post date:** [February 10, 2009, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-those-who-love-the-cock-do-you-find-penises-visually-attractive/484735/40 "2009-02-10T01:29:35Z")
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