# For Women Only/Rape by Fraud **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 8, 2010, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-women-only-rape-by-fraud/553082 "2010-09-08T18:12:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 2:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-women-only-rape-by-fraud/553082/101 "2010-09-14T02:48:41Z")
> [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](#): > > > [@Guinastasia](#): > > > > Anyone remember the thread where the one poster claimed that being told she wrong was like “being gang-raped?” > > Yes, it was **brightpenny** Cite or _ **die** _. Why, no. I can’t search for myself. What? ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-women-only-rape-by-fraud/553082/102 "2010-09-14T02:49:55Z")
[Here it is.](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=353719) > [@](#): > > The snarkiness began immediately and escalated without provocation. At first I clarified, then tried to play good sport, then eventually conceded that my question might not be of great import, and probably should be rephrased and posted in IMHO. I even described how my thinking was evolving with the discussion. And yet I was told I failed the open-minded test. ??? > > _Not one of them provided their cherished cite for their comments, nor provided any factual info that I asked for_ > > I reminded them that I was not in The Pit nor in Great Debates, and that I only posted in GQ because I thought people were treated more respectfully here. I tried to diplomatically ask if it was their intent to collectively chase out someone with a question, and when I eventually quit the board they snarked at me “on my way out”. I would think the behavior in that thread would scare away any timid soul like me who dared to ask a question. Does that promote learning, inquisitiveness, community even? > > It felt like a gang rape. I really thought of this place as my home community and didn’t deserve to be treated this way. I was meeting some really special friends here, and now I’ve lost that. I couldn’t believe that much of the behavior was by Charter Members, as if it was condoned or encouraged. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-women-only-rape-by-fraud/553082/103 "2010-09-14T02:54:46Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > > [@The\_Flying\_Dutchman](#): > > > > Yes, it was **brightpenny** > > Cite or _ **die** _. > > Why, no. I can’t search for myself. What? Apparently she changed her name to **wanderlust**. [The post that started it all](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=6987864&postcount=5) The follow up Pit thread: [brightpenny, you’re a loathesome bitch](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=353800) ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 3:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-women-only-rape-by-fraud/553082/104 "2010-09-14T03:04:54Z")
Um, wow. That started off funny, then got kinda sad rather quickly. ---
**Author:** ![TruCelt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/trucelt/32/523_2.png) [@TruCelt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruCelt)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2010, 12:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-women-only-rape-by-fraud/553082/105 "2010-09-14T12:14:04Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > > [@Superhal](#): > > > > _No Splenda for you!_ > > That’s right. Remember, everyone: **Splenda is rape**. Anybody know where I can get a custom bumper-sticker printed up? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Dare2Dream](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Dare2Dream](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dare2Dream)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2018, 8:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-women-only-rape-by-fraud/553082/106 "2018-02-17T08:40:10Z")
Malacandra, to say nobody gives a fig about men is a wildly sweeping, and frankly inaccurate statement. Why can’t anyone, male or female can have a conversation about the rape of a woman, specifically, without being accused of misrepresenting men by doing so? By discussing the rape of a woman, nobody is negating the rape of a man, they just aren’t discussing it specifically. In the wave of this ‘Me too’ movement, I keep hearing men saying this same thing, ‘Nobody gives a fig about men…’ And it’s just BS. Men aren’t getting the radio time (they perhaps think they deserve) at the moment because, frankly, the issue of men being paid less than women, treated unequally, disrespected, harassed, abused and raped just isn’t as prevalent. Nobody, nobody is saying it doesn’t happen. Nobody, nobody is saying that it isn’t equally as abhorrent when it does. Just because you aren’t being discussed specifically, doesn’t mean you aren’t cared about equally, considered equally, respected, and loved. You just aren’t being talked about in that moment. I think men should stop waving their arms around in the wake of this movement to try and detract from it. You aren’t being talked about, that’s all. Deal with it and step up to the plate for the women around you who have suffered inequality since time immemorial. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2018, 2:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-women-only-rape-by-fraud/553082/107 "2018-02-17T14:56:35Z")
Hi, **, Dare2Dream**! While I endorse your sentiments, I’d like to point out that you’re the first person to post to this thread since 2010. ---
**Author:** ![IvoryTowerDenizen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ivorytowerdenizen/32/17937_2.png) [@IvoryTowerDenizen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/IvoryTowerDenizen)\ **Post date:** [February 17, 2018, 4:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-women-only-rape-by-fraud/553082/108 "2018-02-17T16:05:18Z")
Given the nature of the last few posts before this thread was reanimated, I think closing it is in order. Feel free to start a new one on the topic and link to this one if you’d like. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/for-women-only-rape-by-fraud/553082.md?page=5)