# Fried Dough Ho Needs to Go **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [January 1, 2011, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066 "2011-01-01T18:27:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 9
**Author:** ![crowmanyclouds](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crowmanyclouds/32/19884_2.png) [@crowmanyclouds](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/crowmanyclouds)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/161 "2011-01-03T16:58:48Z")
> [@Drain\_Bead](#): > > If she were really good, she’d fake her own death. We haven’t had one of those in a while. :smack: I have been meaning to tell y’all something. But I’ve been dead for like two years now . . . soo. CMC fnord! ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 6:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/162 "2011-01-03T18:16:46Z")
> [@crowmanyclouds](#): > > :smack: I have been meaning to tell y’all something. But I’ve been dead for like two years now . . . soo. > > CMC fnord! Ah, the old “reverse death fake-out.” Nicely done, sir. I don’t know about her colourful life, either - I personally know a lady who is a daughter of a major player in the music industry, and she’s had a life that would raise both eyebrows if I wasn’t pretty sure that it all happened as she says it did. I think **Fried Dough Ho** is mostly guilty of oversharing and trusting internet people too much, but that shouldn’t be a lynching offense. ---
**Author:** ![Peeta\_Mellark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bc8723/32.png) [@Peeta\_Mellark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Peeta_Mellark)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 6:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/163 "2011-01-03T18:20:49Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > I think **Fried Dough Ho** is mostly guilty of oversharing and trusting internet people too much, but that shouldn’t be a lynching offense. This is the internet, madame. It would appear _everything_ is a lynching offense. “I ate at Applebee’s and really enjoyed it.” “KILL HIM!” ---
**Author:** ![Airman\_Doors\_USAF](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e36b37/32.png) [@Airman\_Doors\_USAF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Airman_Doors_USAF)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 6:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/164 "2011-01-03T18:28:48Z")
[QUOTE=Cat Whisperer;13312235I think **Fried Dough Ho** is mostly guilty of oversharing and trusting internet people too much, but that shouldn’t be a lynching offense.[/QUOTE] Oversharing is sometimes a big deal, but it becomes a bigger deal when what is shared reaches the level of implausibility to the point that everything is called into question. An Internet persona doesn’t exist in a vacuum. As far as trust goes, wouldn’t you say that under the circumstances the violation of trust is on her for making stuff up? And this is hardly a lynching. There are many examples of that to be found, and this is not one of them. This is a case of reflexive knee-jerking causing people to take a better look at other things the person said and finding considerable discrepancies. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 6:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/165 "2011-01-03T18:59:13Z")
> [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](#): > > When AT was on hiatus, you started posting, and you reminded me of him somewhat, as you’re both young, male and twisted. I jokingly accused you of being his sock. Then I apologized, since you were a new poster, and I didn’t want to hurt your feelings. I still cry myself to sleep. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/166 "2011-01-03T19:07:38Z")
> [@Airman\_Doors\_USAF](#): > > Oversharing is sometimes a big deal, but it becomes a bigger deal when what is shared reaches the level of implausibility to the point that everything is called into question. An Internet persona doesn’t exist in a vacuum. As far as trust goes, wouldn’t you say that under the circumstances the violation of trust is on her for making stuff up? And this is hardly a lynching. There are many examples of that to be found, and this is not one of them. This is a case of reflexive knee-jerking causing people to take a better look at other things the person said and finding considerable discrepancies. Well, like I said, I just don’t know. ---
**Author:** ![Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b38774/32.png) [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Attack_from_the_3rd_dimension)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 7:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/167 "2011-01-03T19:30:52Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > I still cry myself to sleep. ☹ You’d do that anyway. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 7:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/168 "2011-01-03T19:35:29Z")
> [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](#): > > You’d do that anyway. I thought it’d make you feel better if I let you take the credit for it. ---
**Author:** ![Duke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e8c25b/32.png) [@Duke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/169 "2011-01-03T19:48:18Z")
> [@MOIDALIZE](#): > > I may not always drink beer, but when I do… > I prefer Genny Cream Ale. Stay skunky, my friends. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/170 "2011-01-03T20:24:14Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > Ah, the old “reverse death fake-out.” Nicely done, sir. > > I don’t know about her colourful life, either - I personally know a lady who is a daughter of a major player in the music industry, and she’s had a life that would raise both eyebrows if I wasn’t pretty sure that it all happened as she says it did. I think **Fried Dough Ho** is mostly guilty of oversharing and trusting internet people too much, but that shouldn’t be a lynching offense. This is how I feel. Some people tend to post mundane boring stuff, and others tend to post when they have something noteworthy to add. Hers just piled up a bunch of noteworthy stuff in a hurry. Maybe she exaggerates, but discrepancies in minute details from decades ago don’t scream “fake” to me. Oversharing, yes. ---
**Author:** ![PlainJain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/5daacb/32.png) [@PlainJain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PlainJain)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/171 "2011-01-03T20:26:47Z")
I dunno, I think if I got I raped would remember the details. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/172 "2011-01-03T20:29:16Z")
> [@PlainJain](#): > > I dunno, I think if I got I raped would remember the details. If you were raped five times, twice at the Ren Fair, I could forgive you mixing them up from time to time. ---
**Author:** ![Morgenstern](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Morgenstern](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morgenstern)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/173 "2011-01-03T20:29:43Z")
> [@PlainJain](#): > > I dunno, I think if I got I raped would remember the details. I’ll bet repressed memory isn’t uncommon in rape cases. ---
**Author:** ![Malacandra](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/45deac/32.png) [@Malacandra](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malacandra)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 8:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/174 "2011-01-03T20:47:30Z")
> [@Morgenstern](#): > > I’ll bet repressed memory isn’t uncommon in rape cases. But does it typically present as confusion over the where and when? Repressed (suppressed?) memory more usually entails a complete blanking out of the horrid event, I thought. ---
**Author:** ![BlankSlate](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/blankslate/32/80_2.png) [@BlankSlate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlankSlate)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/175 "2011-01-03T21:17:28Z")
[Louis CK]You shouldn’t rape anybody. Unless you have a good reason. Like…they won’t let you have sex with them.[LCK] ---
**Author:** ![Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b38774/32.png) [@Attack\_from\_the\_3rd\_dimension](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Attack_from_the_3rd_dimension)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/176 "2011-01-03T21:31:58Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > I thought it’d make you feel better if I let you take the credit for it. Thanks! You’re a pal. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/177 "2011-01-03T22:04:24Z")
[Moderating]Just a reminder, folks, discussions of the appropriateness of a moderator decision belong in ATMB, not in the Pit.[/Moderating] ---
**Author:** ![AnalogSignal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/analogsignal/32/1085_2.png) [@AnalogSignal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AnalogSignal)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/178 "2011-01-03T22:55:38Z")
> [@My first Facebook surprise](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/my-first-facebook-surprise/561851/13): > > **Three** women I had youthful same-sex relationships\* with are now all men. > > Patricia is now Paul, Sheila is now Steve, and Anne is now Andrew. If anyone believes [this](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?p=13183829#post13183829), I have a wonderful investment opportunity for you. For a limited time only, I am selling shares in the Brooklyn Bridge. Get in touch now so you don’t miss out! ---
**Author:** ![Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angel_of_the_lord/32/2949_2.png) [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Angel_of_the_Lord)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 11:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/179 "2011-01-03T23:00:43Z")
I’ve noticed the pile-up of over-interesting information myself; in fact, that’s sort of why I clicked on this thread. I’ll admit to having my own serious doubts about the veracity of her persona and her stories. However, I keep two things in mind: 1.) A few years ago–maybe four or so–I posted here about my then-marriage. I was later directed to a discussion of this off-board during which several posters very bluntly discussed the veracity of my claims, accused me of being another poster, and stated that they’d always had suspicions about whether I was who I was, dating back _years_. I’ve been posting here since I was seventeen, and I’ll be honest; that fucking _hurt_. I have perhaps been incautious about sharing too many details about my life, and god knows I used this place as a substitute for Livejournal, but being accused of making something that big up was a gut blow, as was the idea that everything I’d posted–my _life_, basically–was some kind of experiment in trolling. I sort of apply that sort of knowledge to whenever I see something initially unbelieveable on the boards. The stuff in my ex-marriage seems pretty out there to an outsider, too. Unless it’s a point of debate, though, I just let the doubts go. 2.) I have an online friend from another venue who seems to be something like a pathological liar. She always has the most fantastic stories, has to be the _best_ at everything. It drives me to distraction, and I don’t really trust a single one of her stories, but she still can have a good discussion about computer games or books or what-have-you. That’s sort of how I feel about **Fried Dough Ho**. I don’t really know if everything she’s said is true, and I don’t really care. In general, she’s contributed to the boards, and hasn’t taken anything away from the experience. And, while I think she was seriously out of line in that thread–and thus agree with the OP’s initial thread–it’s not as though that sort of thing is exactly uncommon here. ---
**Author:** ![lorene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/65b543/32.png) [@lorene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorene)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2011, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066/180 "2011-01-03T23:27:05Z")
> [@Angel\_of\_the\_Lord](#): > > I’ve noticed the pile-up of over-interesting information myself; in fact, that’s sort of why I clicked on this thread. I’ll admit to having my own serious doubts about the veracity of her persona and her stories. However, I keep two things in mind: > > 1.) A few years ago–maybe four or so–I posted here about my then-marriage. I was later directed to a discussion of this off-board during which several posters very bluntly discussed the veracity of my claims, accused me of being another poster, and stated that they’d always had suspicions about whether I was who I was, dating back _years_. > \*\* > I’ve been posting here since I was seventeen, and I’ll be honest; that fucking _hurt_. \*\*I have perhaps been incautious about sharing too many details about my life, and god knows I used this place as a substitute for Livejournal, but being accused of making something that big up was a gut blow, as was the idea that everything I’d posted–my _life_, basically–was some kind of experiment in trolling. > > I sort of apply that sort of knowledge to whenever I see something initially unbelieveable on the boards. The stuff in my ex-marriage seems pretty out there to an outsider, too. Unless it’s a point of debate, though, I just let the doubts go. I know. Once people started debating whether she had been raped at all, I started feeling badly about my participation in this thread. I don’t want to be hurtful. If these things are not true, there’s probably a reason why she is saying them. And she may actually believe them. If you look at [this thread](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=576887&highlight=rape), for example (has nothing to do with **FDH** ), there is an essay linked in the thread in which the writer talks about being raped, but there is serious debate amongst the posters about whether she really was\*. I sort of think of it that way. Sometime there’s no easy way to determine what actually did happen, or come to consensus on what it should be called. I dunno. I’m not good at Pitting. As I said upthread, I truly think there’s an element of embellishment in what **FDH** says, but at the end of the day, I do have to wonder what skin it is off my nose. \*Although now I see that \*\*FDH \*\*herself posted in that thread and said no, what the author of the essay experienced was not rape. Oh well, my point still stands. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066.md?page=8) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fried-dough-ho-needs-to-go/566066.md?page=10)