I can’t understand how that conversation developed. Such a fuss over needing a hat.
Normally, I’d suggest people need to get out more, but maybe they need to get out less.
I have two hats because the semi-tropics are a bitch.
I used to hate hats, same as my Dad. My head just doesn’t get cold except in extreme winter weather. Then I discovered, long ago, that hats with brims are useful to keep the glare out of my eyes – glare from the sun or even from downcast ceiling lighting when I am sitting at the computer at night. So I wear a baseball hat on many occasions.
And if I haven’t washed or cut my hair for a while, which happens more now than ever while staying at home, I just wear a hat to cover up and look halfway decent in public. Baseball hats work for that, too, so I collect the freebies that come my way. Must have a dozen by now.
Only if your friend is Indiana Jones.
Knickers atop your guest’s head will hardly repel the Aussie sun.
I have one hat that I carry in the car and use once in while. I used to have a Greg Chappell cricket hat but it has disappeared.
20-30 (not counting the ones I’ve stopped using)
I love hats. Always wear one, and not just baseball caps. I never step out the door without one.
This took me aback. You happen to be caught without a hat. It happens. And he immediately calls you “irresponsible”? That’s bizarre.
This is also strangely hostile. These are friends helping each other out. “Provide for yourself” shouldn’t be part of the relationship. A person wanting help with work should expect to have enough tools and equipment to share or should explicitly remind someone that it might be a good idea to bring X, Y, and Z.
I have one hat, and I have never worn it.
I have a couple of baseball caps around somewhere, but I would probably have to do a dedicated search of the house to find them. I haven’t worn either in years. Just not something that I enjoy wearing.
Baseball caps also do not fit into the mental category of “hat” for me. When I think of hats I think of something more substantial, like a bowler, a fedora, or a Stetson. So my first instinct was to say that I don’t own any hats at all.
I also have a couple of knit caps for winter. But I don’t think of those as “hats,” either.
I guess I’m a splitter, not a lumper, when it comes to headgear categorization. 
I think he just didn’t want to share.
I love hats and have quite a few. But paradoxically, I never wear them. When I see a new one and like it, “I think, ‘Ok! I’ll wear THIS one!’” Then I buy it, and I don’t wear it. I’m seriously messed up.
I own exactly zero hats. If I need to keep my head warm I’ll wear something with a hood.
First, that’s weird. Yardwork buddies? Seriously?
As for hats, I have a zillion, but would never “loan” one and then wear it later. Eeeeew.
To be fair, I wouldn’t be thrilled about the prospect of loaning someone a hat for working either. Wouldn’t surprise me if he was fibbing.
I keep 3 hats in my daily wear rotation and I guess I would toss one to a buddy if they wanted to wear one but I doubt they would fit and its pretty gross to wear someone’s hat. I used to have a box of hats I’d collected in my travels but my wife talked me into tossing them that ai could reach into and tell someone to keep it. I don’t know that I would want a hat back after someone else was sweating in it.
I don’t like to wear hats because they give me headaches and squash my hair so much I won’t take them off in public.
I have 6 for when I will be in the sun all day. I have 6 different hats because if I’m going to wear it all day it will look like it’s part of my outfit. (I would like at least one more and to replace a couple.) I wear hoods, scarves, and earmuffs in the winter. For recess duty on very warm sunny days I carry an umbrella.
My semi-hoarder husband has many, and it’s a daily deliberation as to which one he will wear today. It’s so much more than a head covering; he must consider his mood, the news of the day, what he’s going to be doing, and many other factors.
Sorry that OP and friend got so bent out of shape over something so trivial.
Baseball caps - maybe a dozen. Only 2 or 3 of them get worn regularly. The rest are either mementos or spares stashed in the car.
I also own a couple of felt cowboy hats. a pair of Tilley’s for outdoor work and a couple of costume hats for whatever.
I have about 10 hats, mostly ball caps from places I have visited. I rarely wear them any more. The only hat I wear now is a wide brimmed water proof hat, it is only worn when it’s raining. There are things that other people have worn that I won’t wear, things like underwear, socks, and hats. I won’t loan mine either. If I am working outside and need something to keep the sweat off my brow, I wear a rolled up bandana. I have about 20 to choose from.
Do you mind if I call you Tokyo “Two Hats” Bayer"?
Anyway I agree this is a silly thing to fuss over. They should beret the hatchet.
Uh… none.
Oh, you mean a hat for yardwork? No, like, a formal hat to wear to an event? I have an irreplaceable (I’ve tried) floppy hat with a super wide brim and black fabric underneath that I wear to keep the sun out of my eyes. There’s no way I would lend that out. I have the non-replacement I bought that is too small for my head and also has a much shorter and less useful brim. I don’t know where it is, so I couldn’t lend it. I also have a fur cap I bought as a souvenir of Finland that I wear while shoveling snow, especially if it’s still falling. I wouldn’t lend that, either, but you probably wouldn’t want to wear it now anyway. I’ve had various baseball caps over the years – usually purchased if I’m in a sunny place but forgot to bring my floppy hat. I rarely wear them and they get gross over time just sitting there (the cardboard decays) and I think I’ve thrown them all out. Oh, and I might be able to find the wool togue I wore as a kid when I went skiing or played in the snow. It has a big ink stain on one side. But it’s probably somewhere and probably still okay. That one is washable, and I might be willing to lend it out if I could find it.
This. Your behavior was weird. Not forgetting your hat, and not asking if he had one you could borrow, but throwing a hissy fit that he didn’t have one for you. I don’t generally expect to clothe visiting friends.
And this.
I can’t imagine what would be going so wrong with my life that I needed to argue with a friend over a hat.
I’ve got a sun hat similar to this one from REI, which I bought for a trip to Australia back in 2012. Now I wear it when I do yard work, just because I have it. I acquired a second, floppy, sun hat in Hawaii a few years ago because I forgot to pack the first one. Other than that I have a couple of baseball caps in the closet that I haven’t worn in years. I suppose the floppy hat is washable, so I would probably be willing to lend out that one.