# Friend won't let me shower at his house, am I being unreasonable?

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**Created:** [April 19, 2022, 4:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/friend-wont-let-me-shower-at-his-house-am-i-being-unreasonable/963036 "2022-04-19T04:04:14Z")\
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**Author:** ![wguy123](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wguy123/32/3161_2.png) [@wguy123](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/wguy123)\
**Post date:** [April 22, 2022, 2:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/friend-wont-let-me-shower-at-his-house-am-i-being-unreasonable/963036/121 "2022-04-22T14:29:25Z")

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> [@Asuka](#):
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> The times he took a shower at my house were the typical “Hey I’ll hang at your house after my workout at the nearby park but I gotta shower, can I use yours?” so him showering was part of some condition not an emergency like I had if that matters.

Never thought of this as being typical. Living 5 minutes away, I’d say it’s odd. I’ve never gone over to a friend’s house and expected to shower there as part of the visit, or vice versa. Maybe I’m the oddball here.

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**Author:** ![doreen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/858c86/32.png) [@doreen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/doreen)\
**Post date:** [April 22, 2022, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/friend-wont-let-me-shower-at-his-house-am-i-being-unreasonable/963036/122 "2022-04-22T14:57:23Z")

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Nope, you’re not the oddball. The “five minutes away” makes that weird. It might not be so weird if it was a longer distance (like if someone was participating in a sporting event an hour away from home and then planning to hang out with a friend who lives near the event ), but to save 10 minutes of traveling?

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**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\
**Post date:** [April 22, 2022, 3:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/friend-wont-let-me-shower-at-his-house-am-i-being-unreasonable/963036/123 "2022-04-22T15:02:36Z")

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Ditto. It would never occur to me to ask to use a friend’s shower under those circumstances.

I like my towels. I like my soap. I like my privacy in my bathroom. If far prefer to just use my shower.

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**Author:** ![pjd](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pjd/32/3009_2.png) [@pjd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pjd)\
**Post date:** [April 22, 2022, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/friend-wont-let-me-shower-at-his-house-am-i-being-unreasonable/963036/124 "2022-04-22T15:38:03Z")

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> [@puzzlegal](#):
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> I like my privacy in my bathroom.

You want to turn off that webcam then.

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**Author:** ![muldoonthief](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muldoonthief/32/3188_2.png) [@muldoonthief](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/muldoonthief)\
**Post date:** [April 22, 2022, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/friend-wont-let-me-shower-at-his-house-am-i-being-unreasonable/963036/125 "2022-04-22T17:33:15Z")

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So the next time he asks to shower at your house to save 10 or fewer minutes of travel time, what’s your plan? Because personally I’d wait until he’s in there, sneak into the basement, and shut off the hot water. Or all the water.

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