# Friends with benefits **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [August 15, 2004, 12:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/friends-with-benefits/259886 "2004-08-15T00:49:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 3\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![nonnative](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/2acd7d/32.png) [@nonnative](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nonnative)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2004, 12:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/friends-with-benefits/259886/41 "2004-08-19T00:53:14Z")
I guess results are all over the charts, though there seems to be a pattern where the women sometimes can’t prevent their emotions from deepening. I thought this would be the case , since men usually are not as selective in terms of sex partners. Something I’ve failed to mention before is the fact one of the reasons i do not want to date my FWB is that I want to try pursue a relationship with one of her friends, which would complicate the matter further. I can’t really think of a way to resolve this without something going wrong. Any advice would be appreciated. ---
**Author:** ![Sisyphus\_Stone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/bc79bd/32.png) [@Sisyphus\_Stone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sisyphus_Stone)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2004, 10:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/friends-with-benefits/259886/42 "2004-08-19T10:46:10Z")
Nup. Give the **FWB** a big miss, particularly when you are romantically interested in one of her mates. It has never worked for me because there will always be more commitment by one party than the other. Friends are just friends, never adequate sexual partners. To have good sex one needs some mystery, not familiarity. Hell, all my women friends are little mystery to me, we all have seen everything that each of us have to offer and have rejected the offering. That’s why we are friends, not romantic partners. Look for something outside of friendship for a good and lasting fuck, and possible permanence… ---
**Author:** ![twickster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ec9cab/32.png) [@twickster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/twickster)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2004, 12:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/friends-with-benefits/259886/43 "2004-08-19T12:00:19Z")
**nonnative** – if you’re interested in one of the FWB’s friends, do _ **NOT** _ pursue anything with the FWB. They will both (rightly) consider you a complete scumbag. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/friends-with-benefits/259886.md?page=2)