# From "Polls only, no discussion": I would like to discuss being attracted to a person of another gender than usual if you met the right person **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 10, 2022, 9:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/from-polls-only-no-discussion-i-would-like-to-discuss-being-attracted-to-a-person-of-another-gender-than-usual-if-you-met-the-right-person/964258 "2022-05-10T21:38:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/from-polls-only-no-discussion-i-would-like-to-discuss-being-attracted-to-a-person-of-another-gender-than-usual-if-you-met-the-right-person/964258/21 "2022-05-11T20:21:50Z")
Never say never, but I really can’t imagine any circumstance where I would be attracted to a man. Like others, that’s just how I’m wired. Sexually, I would rather please myself than have the help of another of the same sex. ---
**Author:** ![Icarus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/icarus/32/72_2.png) [@Icarus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Icarus)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/from-polls-only-no-discussion-i-would-like-to-discuss-being-attracted-to-a-person-of-another-gender-than-usual-if-you-met-the-right-person/964258/22 "2022-05-11T20:27:03Z")
Like many here, I am cis hetro male, and I can certainly identify when a male is conventionally attractive (duh!), but that does not mean that I am attracted to them. I can also state that I have not found any conventional male physically/sexually attractive. I have met androgynous people that I found physically attractive. In my imagination, if I were to be in a romantic relationship with such a person, and we became physical, and it were revealed that they had male genitalia, I would not be repulsed and (again, in my imagination) would be OK with that fact. ---
**Author:** ![velomont](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/8491ac/32.png) [@velomont](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/velomont)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/from-polls-only-no-discussion-i-would-like-to-discuss-being-attracted-to-a-person-of-another-gender-than-usual-if-you-met-the-right-person/964258/23 "2022-05-11T21:07:58Z")
Cis-hetero guy here, and I can see a guy and think “oh he’s cool” or “he’s a good looking dude”, or “I bet women sure find him attractive”, but that’s it. On the other hand I can see certain women and I have to do my utmost not to stare (not in some intentionally creepy or leering kind of way, but just because I find them so attractive, cute, elegant or whatever). And I’ve known women who I would just love to hold, if nothing else. But a guy? Nope, that feeling just isn’t there. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/from-polls-only-no-discussion-i-would-like-to-discuss-being-attracted-to-a-person-of-another-gender-than-usual-if-you-met-the-right-person/964258/24 "2022-05-11T21:34:03Z")
> [@velomont](#): > > I can see certain women and I have to do my utmost not to stare (not in some intentionally creepy or leering kind of way, but just because I find them so attractive, cute, elegant or whatever). And I’ve known women who I would just love to hold, if nothing else. I’ve never felt that way about anyone. ---
**Author:** ![velomont](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/8491ac/32.png) [@velomont](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/velomont)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 9:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/from-polls-only-no-discussion-i-would-like-to-discuss-being-attracted-to-a-person-of-another-gender-than-usual-if-you-met-the-right-person/964258/25 "2022-05-11T21:40:36Z")
I seem to have a weakness for those who I see as cute, as opposed to what most people would call beautiful, for some reason. ---
**Author:** ![velomont](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/8491ac/32.png) [@velomont](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/velomont)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 10:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/from-polls-only-no-discussion-i-would-like-to-discuss-being-attracted-to-a-person-of-another-gender-than-usual-if-you-met-the-right-person/964258/26 "2022-05-11T22:12:28Z")
> [@puzzlegal](#): > > I’ve never felt that way about anyone I had a bit of a laundry list of items there. Was there a specific one you were referring to? ---
**Author:** ![Jophiel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jophiel/32/66_2.png) [@Jophiel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jophiel)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2022, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/from-polls-only-no-discussion-i-would-like-to-discuss-being-attracted-to-a-person-of-another-gender-than-usual-if-you-met-the-right-person/964258/27 "2022-05-12T01:56:49Z")
> [@ekedolphin](#): > > If Tom Hiddleston appeared in my bed, I doubt I’d kick him out, but I’d probably go no farther than cuddling. I’d go the other way. It’d be easier to imagine myself having sex with a guy under some contrived circumstances than the whole cuddling, making out, etc thing. The former could be experimentation, drunk & horny, etc but non-sexual intimacy feels different to me and more based on actual attraction than “I’ll try anything once”. ---
**Author:** ![DorkVader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/73ab20/32.png) [@DorkVader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DorkVader)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2022, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/from-polls-only-no-discussion-i-would-like-to-discuss-being-attracted-to-a-person-of-another-gender-than-usual-if-you-met-the-right-person/964258/28 "2022-05-12T23:37:50Z")
I’ve had deep emotional long term relationships with other men, I’ve never had a sexual relationship with a man, I don’t find men sexually attractive, at all. That being said, penis doesn’t scare me and yes I can imagine having sex with a man and enjoying it even though it’s not my thing. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/from-polls-only-no-discussion-i-would-like-to-discuss-being-attracted-to-a-person-of-another-gender-than-usual-if-you-met-the-right-person/964258.md?page=1)