I used to have a crazy neighbor lady who complained at the slightest thing and tried to get the teenagers arrested when they ran over MY fence. She was an endless source of amusement to me because she was living in a rural area and seemed to expect that everyone else on the block would live up to her city life standards.
When her daughter asked the police to check on her, I was the one who told them that she wasn’t acting normally (I think she had had a stroke), and I was the one who took care of her house and mail until she died. I was actually posting in a thread here about her when I got the call from her daughter that she had died.
Its been years, and I still feel like a jerk about that. I’m not saying that people shouldn’t rant about NBs, but just warning you all that you might end up feeling like a jerk.
And now you’re talking about her behind her back. It’s normal. Everyone does it. She could have said nothing, and she could just be grateful you got the problem taken care of. But she’d be equally within her rights to make a comment alluding to the fact that it should have already been taken care of.
Comparing what you’ve said in this thread to what she said to your landscaper, she has a lot more reason to be offended.
I don’t think you need to be a homeowner to know that you should keep the sidewalk in front of your house clear. “Oh, but I had to wait to call a landscaper!” Please, you’re so busy you can’t even pick up a phone and call someone? Sorry, if you’re impeding other people like that, she has every fucking right to complain, dude. If you let it get that bad you couldn’t even do it yourself, to the point that people wanted to call the city – yeah, I don’t think you have much room to bitch about a fairly mild comment she made.
The difference here is Im talking behind her back anonymously on some Message Board. I have not revealed who this woman is or where she lives, meanwhile she is saying things behind my back and everyone knows who she is talking about. Theres a tremendous difference so how can she be more offended if she doesn’t even know Im talking about her and no one here knows who I am talking about. She is psychic, perhaps?
Oh I am sorry I must be confused, I believe my question was directed at another poster. But OK as her representative, Ill respond to your quote. It wasn’t that I was too busy to call a landscaper—it was we hadn’t saved enough money to call a landscaper and in the meantime worked as hard as we could to maintain the upkeep ourselves, fairly well, may I add. So it wasn’t “too busy” to make a phone call, it was fitting it into our budget. But, if theres landscapers out there who do work for free, then yes, I guess I was lazy. Please let me know where I can find one in the future.
As for asking whether your fellow poster is a homeowner or not, SHE is the one blasting me saying the woman was smarter than I am because she bought a property she could afford to keep up. If that poster is a renter and never owned her own house, who is she, or anyone else for that matter come to think of it, to judge me? I’ll buy whatever house my income level allows me to that I please, thank you very much, and if anyone here doesn’t like it, fuck them.
Oh, and someone else posted about all these “yuppies” who buy their first house then don’t take care of it. Well, again, they don’t know me, because Im not a “yuppie” (what is this, the 80s???) and its actually my SECOND house, I used to work in real estate, so I would say my expertise on who can and cannot buy such and such a house is probably in the top percentile on this Board. Thank you.
She isn’t saying anything that other people haven’t already thought to themselves.
You only have evidence that she talked to one person. Your landscaper. The one person who has a vested interest in shaming you about your lawn maintenance. You don’t know exactly what she said or how she said it. She might have mentioned the sidewalk in a laughing/joking manner, for all you know. Why are you getting worked up without even knowing what went down?
Instead of fuming over the “biddie”, why don’t you mosey over to her house and apologize? Even if you don’t think you need to apologize, you’ll have the high ground and that always feels good.
It takes me a day to call my landscaper. He’s here the next day and I pay him then. That’s my point-- you absolutely had time to deal with this, and chose not to. Which, whatever. We all have priorities. But you fucked up. Just own it. It makes you look like less of a tool.
You don’t know that, and moreover, who cares?? Grow up. You’re behaving like a child.
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That’s MISTER Asshole to you, Miss. Respect your elders.
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Um, no. From the way you’re behaving I’m going to be generous and assume you are not my elder. Even if you were, I do not respect you.
She didn’t criticize you, she joked with you landscaper. You are the asshole in this situation.
Yep. I currently own four, thanks to a few deaths in my family. I’m also a landlord. Thanks for asking.
Haha I posted before I read this. God, I bet you feel like as big a dipshit as you are.
And dude, cleaning ivy off a sidewalk well enough so people can walk is a couple hour’s worth of work. I do not for one second believe you couldn’t pay for the landscaper AND you didn’t have a couple hours for this. It might have looked janky, but you could have done it. Which, again, I get putting things off. I do it. Everyone does it. JUST OWN IT
You fucked up and she called you on it. Instead of feeling contrite, you got mad because she made you feel guilty. Now you’re mad at the posters on here for the same reason. You aren’t a scum-sucking piece of shit because you neglected the sidewalk. But you kind of come across as one when you act like this.
Think about it.
OK. So, if I agree to have a perfectly maintained lawn, how much do I get when you sell your house at a premium, and how often will you come over to mow it? If the answers are zero and never, I’m affraid you still won’t have a say in what I do with my yard.
I had to look up what dandelion was, and I’ve indeed no issue with it (besides, dandelion is edible, you can make salads with it). And I do like wild flowers and taller grass too. In fact, part of my outrage comes from the idea that owners of those boring and bland lawns would want my yard to be as boring and bland as theirs. I never got the appeal of well mowed lawns.
One benefit is your neighbor’s higher sale price becomes a comparable sale (comp) when you go to sell your house or try to refi a mortgage. Your asking price can be higher because of higher neighborhood comps. If everyone keeps their property up to some reaonable minimum standard then everyone benefits.
A lot of people want to live in nice neighbourhoods. They want to live in nice neighbourhoods because they feel safer and they feel that their kids are safer, and nice neighbourhoods are, well, nice. In my part of the world, a nice neighbourhood includes yards that are kept, well, nicely. Some people, however, want to be Free Riders in nice neighbourhoods. They want to reap the benefits of everyone else making the efforts it takes to keep a neighbourhood nice, without putting in any of the work themselves. I have a problem with these people, and rental units have owners who frequently are these people. The rental unit owners probably live in nice neighbourhoods themselves, so they don’t care that the rental units that they aren’t keeping up to nice neighbourhood standards are making everyone else’s nice neighbourhood just that much less nice.
No one forces anyone to move to a nice neighbourhood here; if you don’t want to spend every summer Saturday mowing a lawn and spend a little time and effort to do some weed control on your yard and you don’t want to shovel a sidewalk, there are tons of townhouses, condos, and apartments to choose from where you will be required to do none of those things. If you choose to move to a neighbourhood where there will be written and un-written expectations of you as a homeowner, I think people should suck it up and do what is expected of you.
I’m not just making this shit up to be a douchebag, trying to tell everyone else what they have to do with their yards; if you want to own property in Calgary, there are definite expectations on all the homeowners, and that includes the people who own homes but don’t live in them.
Well then Im not a tool since Ive already said I take responsibility. Now there obviously a reading comprehension issue on this Forum because you are about the third or fourth individual who doesn’t seem to grasp my not calling the landscaper was a money, not a time issue, at this point I can only explain it, I can’t make you understand it.
So says the poster that called me an “asshole”.
Um, no. From the way you’re behaving I’m going to be generous and assume you are not my elder. Even if you were, I do not respect you.
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Oh please no, not that. By the nature of your posts, I imagine you respect little. You seem very angry, and confrontational. Sad way to go through life.
Yes, she did criticize me, and Im not laughing
I’m very sorry for the losses in your family, and congratulations on your inheritances.
Just to let you know, no one handed me my houses. I had to work for them, and continue to work 50+ hour weeks to pay my bills and keep a roof over my head. So excuse me when I get my panties in a bunch when someone criticizes how I take care of my house.
There’s only one dipshit here, Sweetie and its you who called me an “asshole” because you are too much of a “dipshit” to conjur up an intelligent adjective.
Couple hours of work? AWESOME. Please forward me your information, I will pay you $5000 if you can clear an equal amount ivy off a sidewalk in 2 hours. This is Boston ivy, not some backyard crabgrass. I suggest you research the plant before shooting your mouth off.
Theres a compliment in there somewhere hahahaha
Im not mad at anybody, I mean come on its a friggin message board who cares. I am willing to have a reasonable discussion about the issue with other posters here. But when they attack me and start calling me names, as you did I can throw haymakers with the best of them, trust me.
However, if the plant is killed first, such as by severing the vine from the root, the adhesive pads will eventually deteriorate to the point where the plant can be easily removed without causing any damage to the wall
the plant can be easily removed without causing any damage to the wall
If you let it get so out of control that it would take more than 2 hours to clear, then your ass needed to be chewed out by someone. That means it wasn’t just a minor inconvenience for your neighbors, but a real nuisance. You are lucky you weren’t fined.
