# Fuck you, bitch from HR **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [July 13, 2010, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566 "2010-07-13T18:10:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![torie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/77aa72/32.png) [@torie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/torie)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2010, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/21 "2010-07-13T21:58:07Z")
> [@Enderw24](#): > > She was being unprofessional. I’d complain to HR about her. Complain _to_ HR _about_ HR? My head’s exploding just thinking about what a clusterfuck that would be. ---
**Author:** ![Maeglin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Maeglin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maeglin)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2010, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/22 "2010-07-13T22:09:48Z")
> [@torie](#): > > Complain _to_ HR _about_ HR? My head’s exploding just thinking about what a clusterfuck that would be. Whew. Good thing it was a joke. ---
**Author:** ![Cyros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a698b9/32.png) [@Cyros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cyros)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2010, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/23 "2010-07-13T22:11:44Z")
> [@DianaG](#): > > Seriously. He’s never been at a single meeting that was important to _me_. _I’ve_ never been to a meeting that was important to me. ---
**Author:** ![Hyperelastic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a3d4f5/32.png) [@Hyperelastic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hyperelastic)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2010, 10:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/24 "2010-07-13T22:13:53Z")
When I was finishing up my doctorate, there was a rule that all final oral exams (kind of like a dissertation defense but they can ask you any damn thing) had to be attended by a representative from the Graduate School. The guy they assigned me didn’t show. Turned out he was at a conference at a hotel a couple of miles up the road. We had to reschedule for the next day - the Grad School sent a different rep who was diligent enough to **actually fuckin’ show up**. That was the beginning of my disenchantment with the academic mindset. ---
**Author:** ![Crown\_Prince\_of\_Irony](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ed655f/32.png) [@Crown\_Prince\_of\_Irony](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crown_Prince_of_Irony)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2010, 10:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/25 "2010-07-13T22:49:26Z")
**Winston** , did you receive profuse apologies when she rescheduled? If so, I’d let it go. If not, you have every right to fume. Everyone screws up, but if it’s not habitual, and they own up to their mistakes and more importantly acknowledge the negative impact of their mistake, it’s not even something to bother forgiving. It’s just something that happens. On a few occasions (out of 10+ years in my current job), I’ve gotten my schedule mixed up and gotten involved in something when I’ve had a meeting scheduled. Sometimes what distracted me was important, and sometimes it was as trivial as a cuppa joe. But when I’ve realized my mistake, I’ve always fallen on my sword and grovelled. I’ve known people who haven’t offered sincere apologies when they miss a meeting, and it is very unprofessional. ---
**Author:** ![SlickRoenick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e68b1a/32.png) [@SlickRoenick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SlickRoenick)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2010, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/26 "2010-07-13T23:06:41Z")
> [@Morbo](#): > > I don’t understand why HR would be involved with giving a promotion. In my industry HR only gets involved with personal issues like conduct, new hire orientation, or current insurance benefits. What if everyone in your department agrees to it, but HR doesn’t? Why would they say no? Serious question. I work in a hospital and when we get promotions that are a different positionl, not so much a ranking, then it has to go through HR since it is a much higher wage increase. For example when i was promoted from Helpdesk Tech I to Tech II it just a small bump in wage from my manager. But when i was promoted to from Tech III to Administrator I then it went through HR. Can’t quite explain why, that’s just how the system works. ---
**Author:** ![Morbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/morbo/32/389_2.png) [@Morbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Morbo)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2010, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/27 "2010-07-13T23:22:21Z")
> [@SlickRoenick](#): > > I work in a hospital and when we get promotions that are a different positionl, not so much a ranking, then it has to go through HR since it is a much higher wage increase. For example when i was promoted from Helpdesk Tech I to Tech II it just a small bump in wage from my manager. But when i was promoted to from Tech III to Administrator I then it went through HR. Can’t quite explain why, that’s just how the system works. Ah. That makes sense, thanks. ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2010, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/28 "2010-07-13T23:27:58Z")
> [@Winston\_Smith](#): > > I dropped by her desk 15 minutes after our scheduled start time, and someone said she went down to the Cafe or something. Wait…you were late to the meeting, and you’re mad because she didn’t wait for you? ---
**Author:** ![Rigamarole](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/77aa72/32.png) [@Rigamarole](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rigamarole)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2010, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/29 "2010-07-13T23:33:11Z")
> [@Oakminster](#): > > Wait…you were late to the meeting, and you’re mad because she didn’t wait for you? I think he’s saying they were supposed to meet somewhere other than at her desk, and after he waited for her 15 minutes he went over to her desk to ask what was up. ---
**Author:** ![Oakminster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/77aa72/32.png) [@Oakminster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oakminster)\ **Post date:** [July 13, 2010, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/30 "2010-07-13T23:40:11Z")
> [@Rigamarole](#): > > I think he’s saying they were supposed to meet somewhere other than at her desk, and after he waited for her 15 minutes he went over to her desk to ask what was up. Ah. In that case, I don’t blame him for being steamed. ---
**Author:** ![needscoffee](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/needscoffee/32/1076_2.png) [@needscoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/needscoffee)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2010, 12:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/31 "2010-07-14T00:16:45Z")
You still can disable her network logon. ---
**Author:** ![BellRungBookShut-CandleSnuffed](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bcef8e/32.png) [@BellRungBookShut-CandleSnuffed](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BellRungBookShut-CandleSnuffed)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2010, 12:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/32 "2010-07-14T00:46:02Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > Let me fix that for you: > [Ren Höek]I will keeel you! Aaaaiiiiieeeeeeeeeee!!![/Ren Höek] [arlo] And I started jumpin up and down yelling, “KILL, KILL,” and he started jumpin up and down with me and we was both jumping up and down yelling, “KILL, KILL.” And the sargent came over, pinned a medal on me, sent me down the hall, said, “You’re our boy.” [/arlo] ---
**Author:** ![Maeglin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Maeglin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maeglin)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2010, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/33 "2010-07-14T00:55:40Z")
> [@needscoffee](#): > > You still can disable her network logon. And then he can fix it really quickly. He can show his flexible, team-playing, go-to guy personality. ---
**Author:** ![Rand\_Rover](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/db5fbb/32.png) [@Rand\_Rover](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rand_Rover)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2010, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/34 "2010-07-14T01:14:55Z")
She might’ve had a poop sneak up on her. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2010, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/35 "2010-07-14T01:39:46Z")
You just said that she called to re-schedule. Did she apologize? If not she is being very unprofessional. Maybe it’s too late now, but I would have sent her an email putting it on record that she missed the meeting without explanation (but be as nice as possible about it). Is it possible that she’s testing you in any way? i.e. your ability to deal with unprofessionalism in the workplace? ---
**Author:** ![pkbites](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pkbites/32/204_2.png) [@pkbites](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pkbites)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2010, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/36 "2010-07-14T02:25:17Z")
> [@Winston\_Smith](#): > > I hope she catches the clap from a toilet seat. Please tell me you don’t work in the medical profession. ---
**Author:** ![Ludovic](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7ab992/32.png) [@Ludovic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ludovic)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2010, 3:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/37 "2010-07-14T03:04:26Z")
> [@pkbites](#): > > Please tell me you don’t work in the medical profession. ::::golfclap:::: ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2010, 3:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/38 "2010-07-14T03:46:12Z")
I’ve never been to a meeting that was important to me. ---
**Author:** ![tim314](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tim314/32/3468_2.png) [@tim314](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tim314)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2010, 8:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/39 "2010-07-14T08:11:13Z")
> [@Ludovic](#): > > ::::golfclap:::: Can’t get it from that, either. ---
**Author:** ![outlierrn](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/outlierrn/32/3005_2.png) [@outlierrn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/outlierrn)\ **Post date:** [July 14, 2010, 8:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566/40 "2010-07-14T08:23:52Z")
> [@tim314](#): > > Can’t get it from that, either. Not even if you play with Tiger Woods? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-bitch-from-hr/546566.md?page=3)