# Fuck You, Girlfriend's Brother **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [December 30, 2012, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586 "2012-12-30T19:17:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Budget\_Player\_Cadet](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/budget_player_cadet/32/205_2.png) [@Budget\_Player\_Cadet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Budget_Player_Cadet)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/61 "2012-12-31T14:22:08Z")
> [@SeaDragonTattoo](#): > > You don’t drive. No wonder the mom thinks you’re a loser. Hey, not driving and living in an urban area with good public transit is one thing. Living in the sticks without wheels is a whole other level of uselessness. That goes for both of you - she’s just as bad if she doesn’t drive either. I don’t drive because I _do_ live in an urban area with good public transit. I live on the outskirts of Munich. They live like 30 miles north of Munich. And almost nobody my age here drives, either. > [@](#): > > How do you get to be 17 and 18 and not drive? And not be actively working to be able to drive? And not be actively working to have and keep a cheap set of wheels? How do you get to school, work, the grocery? How do you have your own place and not have a car?? What? Ride a bike everywhere? I live in Munich. It’s a big, european city. You can get _literally_ everywhere with just a bike and public transit. I do my shopping on my bike. I get to work on my bike. I ride my bike 8-12km each day to my classes. And almost everyone I know does the same. And you can’t drive until you’re 18 in Germany anyways! My girlfriend is getting her license. > [@bucketybuck](#): > > So you are staying in her house, fucking her daughter, using her electricity and pissing off her son, You know, if I knew that I was pissing off her son, I wouldn’t be quite as mad. But he didn’t tell _me_. He bitched behind my back to my girlfriend about me. Now, feel free to blame me for not being the single most perceptive person on the planet, but he was damn well deceiving me. > [@](#): > > and she actually has to go and lift you and bring you to the house so that she can enjoy this wonderful situation? > > How do you get back home? Does she have to deliver you back also? I get to and from where she works. All she has to do is deal with some extra weight in the back of her empty car on the way to and from work. Some of you people really ought to stop making dickish assumptions. @Uber_the_Goober: thanks. ---
**Author:** ![drewtwo99](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/d07c76/32.png) [@drewtwo99](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drewtwo99)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 2:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/62 "2012-12-31T14:48:33Z")
Ignore the American-centric idiots claiming that you’re a loser if you are 17 or 18 and cannot drive. Kudos to you for using public transportation. Most 'Merkins forget that the rest of the world does not equate independence and freedom with being able to drive a car. Also, video-gaming _is_ a hobby and people who think otherwise are idiots. Frankly, you seem like a decent guy. Yes, you are complaining too much about a relatively minor situation, and you are letting other people’s opinions bother you when you shouldn’t. But, as you get older you’ll get more callous and you won’t worry so much about others trying to bring you down. As long as you are doing good in school, and your girlfriend is happy with you, ignore what anyone else here says about you and your life, and _especially_ ignore everyone in your life who is trying to bring you down. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 2:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/63 "2012-12-31T14:55:45Z")
Ah, Munich. Lovely city. One of my favorites. You two just need to grow up (literally, as in come of age) and lead your own lives. Lots of us had sucky situations as teenagers. Ignore the dufus brother, do whatever you have to do to get independent as soon as possible, and suck it up until then. ---
**Author:** ![CrazyCatLady](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/dfb087/32.png) [@CrazyCatLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CrazyCatLady)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 3:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/64 "2012-12-31T15:14:46Z")
This is the easiest-solved problem ever. Have your girlfriend ride to work with her mom, spend the day together doing whatever, and she can ride back home with Mom in the evening. You won’t be on Mom’s couch playing video games every. single. time she turns around. You two will have more entertainment options and won’t spend so much time playing video games. You won’t be in Brother’s house, either hogging the tv playing video games or fucking his sister, and pissing him off. You won’t have to put up with Brother’s assholery or listen to the fighting and carrying-on. Everybody wins. ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 3:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/65 "2012-12-31T15:16:52Z")
Don’t ask if you can help around the house, just start helping: wash a sink of dishes, pick up the living room, take out the garbage, wipe down the counters, whatever. Be the sort of person who sees what needs doing and does it without fuss. ---
**Author:** ![Sitnam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/6a8cbe/32.png) [@Sitnam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sitnam)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 3:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/66 "2012-12-31T15:28:48Z")
> [@Martin\_Hyde](#): > > While impossible to know the race of a poster simply from their post, I’m wagering this story is brought to you by the White Trash Drama Network. Right! What is wrong with some peoples families. The only answer is to move far away and drop off contact. ---
**Author:** ![Uber\_the\_Goober](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/58956e/32.png) [@Uber\_the\_Goober](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Uber_the_Goober)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/67 "2012-12-31T15:42:27Z")
> [@bucketybuck](#): > > \ > > And **Goober** , I’ll assume what I want. Male privilege. Yes, yes you will. And I’ll feel free to call it pretentious dickheadery, and toking on the bong of judgmental self-righteousness. Another male privilege. ---
**Author:** ![al27052](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/41988e/32.png) [@al27052](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/al27052)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/68 "2012-12-31T15:47:36Z")
> [@Uber\_the\_Goober](#): > > My gawd…I can hardly believe the level of assumptive pretentious dickheadery that is being oozed out by the replies in this thread. > Either way…sounds like this thread is full of a bunch of dicks. Is this your first trip to the Pit, or to message boards in general? I mean, yeah, they’re Dr. Phil-ing this kid to death, but that’s par for the course. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/69 "2012-12-31T15:55:56Z")
> [@drewtwo99](#): > > Frankly, you seem like a decent guy. Yes, you are complaining too much about a relatively minor situation, and you are letting other people’s opinions bother you when you shouldn’t. But, as you get older you’ll get more callous and you won’t worry so much about others trying to bring you down. > > . True, but as you get older you also realize how socially clueless you were as a teenager (pretty much everyone is, so its not a crime or anything). And one day the OP will be middle aged, have a daughter, and be miffed at the boyfriend thats always hanging around his house doing nothing and and banging his daughter 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/70 "2012-12-31T16:15:36Z")
Visiting someone else’s house and spending large amounts of time planted in front of the hosts’ television or playing video games is dickish. When you’re at someone else’s house, you don’t act like you’re at your own home. Either stay in your girlfriend’s bedroom or be sociable. That is, find something to do that acknowledges that you’re a guest … interact with the hosts, talk to them, entertain them, participate in household chores, prepare meals. When you come over, bring food or drink. Bring them food from your childhood that they haven’t tried. It’s a guest’s obligation to be entertaining. You’re not their son – you don’t have the privilege of behaving as if you live there. ---
**Author:** ![al27052](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/41988e/32.png) [@al27052](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/al27052)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/71 "2012-12-31T16:27:54Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > Visiting someone else’s house and spending large amounts of time planted in front of the hosts’ television or playing video games is dickish. When you’re at someone else’s house, you don’t act like you’re at your own home. Either stay in your girlfriend’s bedroom or be sociable. That is, find something to do that acknowledges that you’re a guest … interact with the hosts, talk to them, entertain them, participate in household chores, prepare meals. When you come over, bring food or drink. Bring them food from your childhood that they haven’t tried. It’s a guest’s obligation to be entertaining. You’re not their son – you don’t have the privilege of behaving as if you live there. You’re right, he’s NOT her son. And I bet she wishes he WERE, because he sounds far more useful than the idiot she gave birth to. ---
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/72 "2012-12-31T16:37:17Z")
Wait, people are jumping down this guy’s throat because there is a one year age difference between him and his girlfriend? But if he went with to Comicon with his cat dressed like Boba Fett, this board would elect him king. ---
**Author:** ![Giraffe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/giraffe/32/129_2.png) [@Giraffe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Giraffe)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 4:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/73 "2012-12-31T16:58:35Z")
> [@CrazyCatLady](#): > > This is the easiest-solved problem ever. Have your girlfriend ride to work with her mom, spend the day together doing whatever, and she can ride back home with Mom in the evening. You won’t be on Mom’s couch playing video games every. single. time she turns around. You two will have more entertainment options and won’t spend so much time playing video games. You won’t be in Brother’s house, either hogging the tv playing video games or fucking his sister, and pissing him off. You won’t have to put up with Brother’s assholery or listen to the fighting and carrying-on. > > Everybody wins. This is an incredibly sensible solution. I can’t wait to hear why it couldn’t possibly work for the OP and why you’re a rude jerk for assuming it could. ---
**Author:** ![FoieGrasIsEvil](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/foiegrasisevil/32/16638_2.png) [@FoieGrasIsEvil](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FoieGrasIsEvil)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 5:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/74 "2012-12-31T17:09:46Z")
> [@Kimmy\_Gibbler](#): > > Believe it or not, one can manage the vicissitudes of life even while possessing a vagina. Highly debatable. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/75 "2012-12-31T17:15:47Z")
> [@Giraffe](#): > > This is an incredibly sensible solution. I can’t wait to hear why it couldn’t possibly work for the OP and why you’re a rude jerk for assuming it could. Well, the GF is still in High School, so unless mom works on the weekends, and they only want to sped time together on those days, then it’s not such a good plan. Sounds like the OP takes the U-ban or the S-ban to mom’s work, then hitches a ride to her house after work. ---
**Author:** ![Budget\_Player\_Cadet](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/budget_player_cadet/32/205_2.png) [@Budget\_Player\_Cadet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Budget_Player_Cadet)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/76 "2012-12-31T17:27:09Z")
> [@CrazyCatLady](#): > > This is the easiest-solved problem ever. Have your girlfriend ride to work with her mom, spend the day together doing whatever, and she can ride back home with Mom in the evening. You won’t be on Mom’s couch playing video games every. single. time she turns around. You two will have more entertainment options and won’t spend so much time playing video games. You won’t be in Brother’s house, either hogging the tv playing video games or fucking his sister, and pissing him off. You won’t have to put up with Brother’s assholery or listen to the fighting and carrying-on. > > Everybody wins. > [@John\_Mace](#): > > Well, the GF is still in High School, so unless mom works on the weekends, and they only want to sped time together on those days, then it’s not such a good plan. > > Sounds like the OP takes the U-ban or the S-ban to mom’s work, then hitches a ride to her house after work. Bingo. It’s a good idea, but the mom just doesn’t work saturday and sunday. We only see each other on the weekend anyways. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![GrandWino](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/grandwino/32/67_2.png) [@GrandWino](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GrandWino)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/77 "2012-12-31T17:30:09Z")
> [@bucketybuck](#): > > Do you even lift? I’m so mad that you asked this before I could. ---
**Author:** ![you\_with\_the\_face](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/ecccb3/32.png) [@you\_with\_the\_face](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/you_with_the_face)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 5:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/78 "2012-12-31T17:53:34Z")
The brother sounds like an asshole loser, but that doesn’t necessarily make his criticism of the OP invalid. Just hypocritical. ---
**Author:** ![John\_Mace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/john_mace/32/185_2.png) [@John\_Mace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/John_Mace)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 6:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/79 "2012-12-31T18:01:23Z")
Ah, the wretched lives of teenagers and their angsty problems. Isn’t there a Justin Bieber message board somewhere that might be more sympathetic to this horrible situation? ---
**Author:** ![AngelSoft](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/angelsoft/32/440_2.png) [@AngelSoft](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AngelSoft)\ **Post date:** [December 31, 2012, 6:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586/80 "2012-12-31T18:12:33Z")
> [@Budget\_Player\_Cadet](#): > > Bingo. It’s a good idea, but the mom just doesn’t work saturday and sunday. We only see each other on the weekend anyways. 😕 So…she picks you up on her way home from work on Friday afternoon…you stay all weekend, screwing her daughter, causing tension with her son and sitting around playing video games all the time…until she drives you back home when she leaves for work on Monday? Wow, how can anyone have a problem with that? Seriously though, I know from experience that having a sibling’s boyfriend/girlfriend in the house all the time gets very old, very fast. When I was living at home as a teenager, my brothers would bring their girlfriends over constantly. They’d stay for two or three days a week and it was annoying as hell. I know that some people don’t mind guests. My parents didn’t, which is why it was allowed. But I’m the type of person who doesn’t like people who aren’t my friends/relatives/bed buddy slouching around my house constantly. It’s just a personality thing. And it sounds like it’s something both the mother and son share. Understandably, it’s a pain in the ass. You need to stop relying on the mother for transportation or at LEAST have the girlfriend stay over at your place for a weekend every now and then. Do you even give her money for gas? I mean, yeah she’s going that way anyway but it’s considered polite to at least pay forth a couple bucks of gas for the favor. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fuck-you-girlfriends-brother/645586.md?page=5)