# Fucking Homophobic Customers at Wendy's
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919
**Category:** The BBQ Pit
**Created:** [December 14, 2003, 8:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919 "2003-12-14T08:01:16Z")
**Posts on this page:** 20
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### Author:  [@Upside\_Down\_Amber](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Upside_Down_Amber)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 8:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/1 "2003-12-14T08:01:16Z")
So here I am working like I do every night when my darling **Lola** comes by to pay me a visit. As I do every night I gave her a few quick pecks on the lips. Now after a few minutes of talking and swooning over one another, _from different sides of the counter_, this women comes over and asks to see the manager. I, of course, tell her that I am the manager in a cheery tone. She looks me up and down and replies, “_You’re the manager?_” with utter disgust. She then proceeded to bitch me out saying that she didn’t pay to see people “making out” (which we obviously weren’t.) I said that I apologized if I offended her but if any of my crew were in my position I wouldn’t have reprimanded them. She was a total bitch to me and then proceeded to spend the next 30 minutes staring at me. Then once the rush hit she actually strained her neck in order to watch every move I made.
Now I know some people here will say that if I didn’t want people to stare I shouldn’t be kissing her and I understand your point of view. But I think you’ll agree that if it had been a male crew with his girlfriend she wouldn’t have looked twice.
I was so insulted and hurt by the way she acted, but she was the first person who ever jumped in my face. I can’t believe some people…
**Cory**
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### Author:  [@Lynn\_Bodoni](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lynn_Bodoni)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 8:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/2 "2003-12-14T08:12:11Z")
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> But I think you’ll agree that if it had been a male crew with his girlfriend she wouldn’t have looked twice.
Well, actually, I wouldn’t have wanted to see a hetero couple smooching at the counter either. If you wanna play kissy face, I really think that you should duck into an employees only lounge, no matter which sex(es) the kissers are. It’s just unprofessional to be kissing your SO in front of customers, I don’t care WHAT your orientation is.
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### Author:  [@Ringo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ringo)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 8:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/3 "2003-12-14T08:20:01Z")
Have to agree with **Lynn**. It’s personal, keep it so.
I’ve got to admit the title made me wonder what y’all are wearing at Wendy’s these days.
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### Author:  [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 8:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/4 "2003-12-14T08:40:41Z")
Would she have complained as vociferously as she did had you been a mixed-sex couple? Unanswerable for sure; probably not but she may not have liked it. Did she say specifically that she objected to the fact that it was two women kissing? If not, it may not be fair to characterize her as homophobic.
And I agree with the rest of the crowd in saying that leaning over the counter and kissing is not the most appropriate thing to be doing.
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### Author:  [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 8:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/5 "2003-12-14T08:42:50Z")
I would find it just as disturbing as the couple in front of me yesterday who kissed while waiting at the supermarket checkout. I didn’t give a shit, made me smile like public affection usually does.
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### Author:  [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 8:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/6 "2003-12-14T08:46:06Z")
Oh, I do understand the work connotations and all. That would have made it cuter therefore bigger grin. She did say “a few quick pecks” because I’d be against cunnilingus at the counter.
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### Author:  [@kung\_fu\_lola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kung_fu_lola)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 8:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/7 "2003-12-14T08:54:04Z")
Yeah, yeah, yeah. PDA = evil, bad, naughty, kitten-killing, making-baby-Jeebus-cry _insert Charlie Brown wah-wah-wah noise here_ thing.
I’m sure it was **THE WORST, MOST PORNO** thing that woman has **ever** seen and how **DARE** we act like every other employee who works there (it’s a pretty casual workplace where it isn’t uncommon for employees to hug/peck their SOs goodbye). I bet she had to wash her eyeballs, just like **Lynn** and **Ringo** have to every single time they see two people kissing, on television and at the Post Office and at the kiss-n-ride when a married couple goes their separate ways on a work day.
Shame on us. Bad! Baaaaaaaaad!
::flips the bird::
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### Author:  [@Lynn\_Bodoni](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lynn_Bodoni)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 9:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/8 "2003-12-14T09:01:00Z")
It’s not just two people kissing, it’s two people kissing IN THE WORKPLACE, showing that the employee is not being professional in at least one area. This makes me wonder if the employee is similarly casual in other work areas, because in my experience, nonprofessional conduct in ONE area is a pretty good indicator of nonprofessional conduct in OTHER areas. And believe me, even though Wendy’s is fast food, I DO want the workers there to be professional! It’s NOT PROFESSIONAL to smooch one’s SO in the workplace, in front of customers.
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### Author:  [@Ringo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ringo)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 9:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/9 "2003-12-14T09:09:45Z")
Oh, grow up **lola**. As i said, you’ll do better in life if you learn to keep the personal personal.
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### Author:  [@Jervoise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jervoise)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 11:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/10 "2003-12-14T11:45:02Z")
Maybe it’s a matter of regional differences, but I can’t see anything unprofessional about a “few quick pecks” from _opposite sides of the counter_. It’s not like they were getting it on in public view. Like **don’t ask** , I’d just smile without forming any conclusions as to the professionalism of the staff.
Also, what **Otto** said; it’s easy for us to infer homophobia, but there’s a chance the customer just had a stick up her arse about PDAs (even chaste ones).
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### Author:  [@Snooooopy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Snooooopy)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 12:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/11 "2003-12-14T12:03:42Z")
Maybe the customer was afraid you’d leap over the counter and try to kiss her.
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### Author:  [@Road\_Rash](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Road_Rash)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 12:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/12 "2003-12-14T12:51:14Z")
Personally, if I had seen it, and if it was later at night, and if I had some beers in me, I may have given a “Woo-Woo.” I certainly would have looked. If sober, I would have just smiled and enjoyed. Maybe pretend not to notice. Of course, they do notice, but it is polite to at least try to look discreet.
Girls kissing just does that to me.
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### Author:  [@ivylass](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ivylass)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 12:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/13 "2003-12-14T12:56:59Z")
Put me in the “not at work” crowd. I will kiss Ivylad while we’re standing in line at the grocery store, but I don’t think it’s appropriate at work.
YMMV, of course.
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### Author:  [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 1:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/14 "2003-12-14T13:04:46Z")
Put me in the ‘not at work’ crowd. You’re a professional, Amber, so behave like it at work.
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### Author:  [@MsRobyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsRobyn)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 1:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/15 "2003-12-14T13:06:57Z")
> [@](#):
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> \*Originally posted by ivylass \*
> \*\*Put me in the “not at work” crowd. I will kiss Ivylad while we’re standing in line at the grocery store, but I don’t think it’s appropriate at work.
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> YMMV, of course. \*\*
I have no problems with a quick smooch in line, but Airman disagrees.
**lola** , not everything can be ascribed to homophobia. It is extremely unprofessional to engage in any kind of PDA in the workplace, and since you (presumably) were wearing a uniform at the time, it made you an identifiable employee of Wendy’s. If I saw any two people, at least one of whom is an employee of the firm in question, kissing and swooning and making eyes at each other, I’d assume that the company is not interested in good customer service and probably go elsewhere.
Work is for serving customers, not for spending time with one’s SO.
Robin
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### Author:  [@MsRobyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsRobyn)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 1:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/16 "2003-12-14T13:09:05Z")
Apologies, the post should’ve been addressed to the OP, not to **lola**.
Robin
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### Author:  [@Drastic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Drastic)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 1:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/17 "2003-12-14T13:13:29Z")
> [@](#):
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> _quoth MsRobyn_:
> …I’d assume that the company is not interested in good customer service and probably go elsewhere.
I dunno. I think I’d probably assume that as soon as I saw that it was a Wendy’s.
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### Author:  [@MsRobyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsRobyn)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 1:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/18 "2003-12-14T13:30:28Z")
Where I live, Wendy’s is about the best thing going.
Robin
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### Author:  [@don\_t\_ask](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/don_t_ask)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/19 "2003-12-14T13:34:32Z")
I’m mystified by this. American’s I have known are kissing machines - friends’ partners, in-laws, family and friends all get kissed. Me I only kiss young relatives, old relatives, people I am having sex with and people I am trying to have sex with. Yet you guys object to a peck at work and to me it’s nice to see.
Try these:
You’re sitting talking to your accountant. His secretary sticks her head in to say that Mrs Accountant needs a moment about “their daughter’s wedding”. Mrs Accountant clears up the matter in moments but before leaving gives hubby a peck. Do you change accountants?
At the corner store Juan is ringing up your groceries. Maria runs past dragging the kids. On the way she gives Juan a peck. Shop elsewhere tomorrow?
A woman walks up to the counter at Wendy’s carrying a baby. A staff member greets her warmly, leans over and kisses the baby before fawning over it. Off to McDonalds?
You are in the arms of a hooker and …bad example.
Anyhow what’s the answer, how strong is your disregard for workplace kissing? What specifically is not professional about it? I can see that running your hands through your lover’s greasy locks before preparing food is a no-no but a peck? And I have seen food prep staff do plenty of genuinely unprofessional things without the need of another person.
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### Author:  [@Ranchoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranchoth)
#### Post date: [December 14, 2003, 2:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-homophobic-customers-at-wendys/218919/20 "2003-12-14T14:03:24Z")
Hey, I wouldn’t care. Not even if it were a couple of _guys_ kissing.
If I go to a restarant, I’m going for the _food_. As long as no one’s spilling bodily fluids into the grub, go ahead and do whatever makes you happy. Go nuts.
Plus, one should always remember…_never_ insult the person in charge of your food. Especially if you haven’t eaten yet. That’s just common sense, heck, practically a law of nature.
Ranchoth
(…especially if you don’t want to get a “sneezer.”)
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