# Fucking Plenty of Fish **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 25, 2015, 7:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344 "2015-12-25T19:43:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/41 "2015-12-26T05:11:20Z")
> [@RickJay](#): > > POF sucks. Delete your account. Literally every other site is better. > > I met my fiancée on eHarmony. Worked great. Thanks Rick. I appreciate your advice, as always. ---
**Author:** ![Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slow_moving_vehicle/32/291_2.png) [@Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slow_Moving_Vehicle)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 6:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/42 "2015-12-26T06:47:21Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > Carp Diem. See, that’s exactly the sort of thing I’m talking about. No wonder you’re floundering. And I also met my wife on eHarmony. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 7:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/43 "2015-12-26T07:46:05Z")
> [@Rushgeekgirl](#): > > I always thought Plenty of Fish was a Christian hook-up site. I have no idea why. Fish maybe? My dear old (departed) dad always told me “there are plenty of fish in the sea.” He was very adamant that one did NOT meet a loved one for life, but rather people can and will experience numerous people with whom they can live with during life. My dad was a very wise man. I miss him dearly! ---
**Author:** ![jz78817](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jz78817/32/1028_2.png) [@jz78817](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jz78817)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 12:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/44 "2015-12-26T12:09:34Z")
> [@Rushgeekgirl](#): > > I always thought Plenty of Fish was a Christian hook-up site. I have no idea why. Fish maybe? nah, that’s eHarmony. > [@Leaffan](#): > > I dunno. I guess I agree with Woody Allen: “Don’t knock masturbation. It’s sex with someone you love.” not always 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slow_moving_vehicle/32/291_2.png) [@Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slow_Moving_Vehicle)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 1:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/45 "2015-12-26T13:03:41Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > My dear old (departed) dad always told me “there are plenty of fish in the sea.” He was very adamant that one did NOT meet a loved one for life, but rather people can and will experience numerous people with whom they can live with during life. My dad was a very wise man. I miss him dearly! Ah, so you’re not necessarily looking for Ms. Right; you’ll settle for Ms. Right Here Right Now? ---
**Author:** ![Tibby](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tibby/32/17030_2.png) [@Tibby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tibby)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 1:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/46 "2015-12-26T13:35:33Z")
The OP is like me: divorced guy in his 50’s who doesn’t want any complicated relationships, or messy hookups. He just wants some nice sterile, anonymous, non-committal cyber-sex. _Wham bam, thank you spam_….And he wants it set to music. Something like this: [thrust in] [pull out][thrust in] [pull out][thrust in] [pull out][thrust in] [pull out] [thrust in] [pull out] [badda-bing]… **Leaffan:** ………[girl, I don’t know, I don’t know why,…can’t get enough of your love, baby](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ypyiAT1RelU)…[repeat x 3]…ohhhhhh……see ya later, alligator… **Cyber-babe:** …[Oh, Leaffan you so big…you so big you blow my wig, hey Leaffan!..hey Leaffan!](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NW7VnHnX3LQ)…[repeat x 3]…ohhhhhh…in a while, crocodile… ---
**Author:** ![Scribble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scribble/32/3317_2.png) [@Scribble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scribble)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/47 "2015-12-26T13:46:36Z")
> [@jz78817](#): > > nah, that’s eHarmony. > > not always 😛 EHarmony isn’t a Christian site. Its founder is a Christian who believed that we should all be paired up in lasting marriages. The site itself isn’t Christian at all, IME. I’ve had no trouble finding people of all faiths and no faiths, various political persuasions, and ethnic or national origins. There’s no proselytizing, direct or implied there, either. ---
**Author:** ![Scribble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scribble/32/3317_2.png) [@Scribble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scribble)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 1:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/48 "2015-12-26T13:49:13Z")
It’s been a while since I was last on eHarmony, but I suspect the non-religiousness of the site hasn’t changed. ---
**Author:** ![Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slow_moving_vehicle/32/291_2.png) [@Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slow_Moving_Vehicle)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 1:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/49 "2015-12-26T13:56:09Z")
> [@Scribble](#): > > EHarmony isn’t a Christian site. Its founder is a Christian who believed that we should all be paired up in lasting marriages. The site itself isn’t Christian at all, IME. > > I’ve had no trouble finding people of all faiths and no faiths, various political persuasions, and ethnic or national origins. There’s no proselytizing, direct or implied there, either. True, but only if you’re looking for the opposite sex. Gay folks are invited to go elsewhere. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/50 "2015-12-26T14:22:09Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > My understanding is that any genuine women with profiles on sites like these are so absolutely deluged by responses from men that it is often not practical for them to respond to them all, even with a brief, polite message. That’s what I’ve heard, too. The attractive women are overwhelmed. > [@Leaffan](#): > > So, they’re all a waste of time, eh? Super. No, the woman whose search I heard the most about is now dating a guy she met on one of those sites. But no, she didn’t reply to every note she got. She replied to the small number that interested her. Apparently, it gets overwhelming for the attractive women, though. She ended up removing photos and only sending photos to guys who messaged her based on other stuff. Fwiw, my friends who use dating sites seem to prefer Match and OK Cupid. And Tinder, but you are a little old for Tinder. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/51 "2015-12-26T14:22:59Z")
> [@Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](#): > > Ah, so you’re not necessarily looking for Ms. Right; you’ll settle for Ms. Right Here Right Now? Where do you get that from? My God people are obtuse. ---
**Author:** ![puzzlegal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/puzzlegal/32/3827_2.png) [@puzzlegal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/puzzlegal)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 3:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/52 "2015-12-26T15:08:29Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > I gotta say, that’s entirely commensurate with my experience, and it worries me. > > My sex drive has never been Ron Jeremy-like and now that I’m older once a month would be fine by me. And that worries me as I enter the dating pool once again. Once a week would be completely pushing it. > > What do the ladies here think of this? I mean I can totally give in other ways (if you know what I mean) and am very happy to, but ejaculations are not too easy these days. And I don’t so much ejaculate as just…well…dribble? > > I’m sharing a lot but better here than on a dating site. I’m over 50. I’m married, and not in the market, so take my opinion with a grain of salt. But I would consider that disappointing but not a deal breaker. I’d probably encourage you to try viagra, and see if that helped. ---
**Author:** ![oara](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/b77776/32.png) [@oara](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/oara)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/53 "2015-12-26T17:16:17Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > I have adblock installed and it’s not an issue. If it just won’t work for me for some mysterious reason, I suppose I’m glad I’m not missing much. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 8:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/54 "2015-12-26T20:35:47Z")
> [@puzzlegal](#): > > Fwiw, my friends who use dating sites seem to prefer Match and OK Cupid. And Tinder, but you are a little old for Tinder. I’m about the OP’s age and have tried Tinder. Haven’t had any luck with it, but it doesn’t seem that I’m too old. ---
**Author:** ![Emtar\_KronJonDerSohn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/58956e/32.png) [@Emtar\_KronJonDerSohn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Emtar_KronJonDerSohn)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/55 "2015-12-26T21:25:53Z")
> [@Spud](#): > > I’m in my 50’s so it takes me a bit of time to recover after just fucking one fish… but back in the day, boy could I spawn. Uncle Miltin’? Is that you? ---
**Author:** ![Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slow_moving_vehicle/32/291_2.png) [@Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slow_Moving_Vehicle)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 9:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/56 "2015-12-26T21:37:23Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > Where do you get that from? My God people are obtuse. My constitutional inability to resist an opportunity for a lame pun. That was what was behind the comment about you “floundering”, as well. No disparagement intended, my friend - I also spent some time trolling the online romance sea, and I know it’s frustrating. But as I said, I did end up meeting the woman I married on eHarmony, so online dating sites _can_ work. I wish you luck. ---
**Author:** ![jayrey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/47e85d/32.png) [@jayrey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayrey)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/57 "2015-12-26T22:03:12Z")
> [@ThelmaLou](#): > > Look at it this way: these people are self-qualifying (or dis-qualifying). IOW, they are eliminating themselves from consideration so you don’t have to expend the energy. The one(s) you’re looking for will stand out from the group. There’s at least one really smart, attractive, funny, literate, kind woman on POF. I know that for a fact. There were two until I deleted my profile several months ago in complete frustration. I feel your pain, Leaffan. ---
**Author:** ![jayrey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/47e85d/32.png) [@jayrey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayrey)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/58 "2015-12-26T22:08:33Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > I gotta say, that’s entirely commensurate with my experience, and it worries me. > > My sex drive has never been Ron Jeremy-like and now that I’m older once a month would be fine by me. And that worries me as I enter the dating pool once again. Once a week would be completely pushing it. > > What do the ladies here think of this? I mean I can totally give in other ways (if you know what I mean) and am very happy to, but ejaculations are not too easy these days. And I don’t so much ejaculate as just…well…dribble? > > I’m sharing a lot but better here than on a dating site. I’ve said before that I liked you, Leaffan, and this confirms it. Once a month (or less) would heaven for me. So move to Oregon, why doncha? ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 10:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/59 "2015-12-26T22:10:13Z")
Go for it! ---
**Author:** ![Brynda](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e79b87/32.png) [@Brynda](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Brynda)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2015, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/60 "2015-12-26T22:24:19Z")
OKCupid was great. IMHO, much better than POF or match, both of which sucked. OKCupid has a good matching algorithm. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344.md?page=4)