# Fucking Plenty of Fish **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 25, 2015, 7:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344 "2015-12-25T19:43:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2015, 9:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/121 "2015-12-28T21:02:40Z")
> [@Cognoscant](#): > > I do feel in reading about the process that internet dating is somewhat broken and bereft of good new ideas. An idea like yours (maximum of five messages a week, though I would suggest five connections a week instead) might work. But people looking for love are going to be drawn to a site promising UNLIMITED COMMUNICATION!!! over a site like that. And women used to overflowing inboxes might start thinking “but on this site I’m lucky to get a message a week, this sucks.” And the newer sites like Tinder are SO instant gratification, this would be hard to compete with. I ran across an article awhile ago that listed some dating sites and apps that were tailored to address the concerns that confront women on sites like [match.com](http://match.com). I remember there was one that only allowed women to initiate the first contact. I can’t find that article, but the app appears to be Bumble, created by one of the co-founders of Tinder. ---
**Author:** ![NJ22](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/4af34b/32.png) [@NJ22](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NJ22)\ **Post date:** [December 28, 2015, 10:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/122 "2015-12-28T22:47:48Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > God. Look, if you want to meet me send an actual God damned message. Clicking on “wants to meet you” makes you about as interesting as you probably are, and it’s no wonder you’re lonely and single at this point. > > I’m two plus years into a separation and am about to put a stake in the heart of that shit. > > I have better aspirations than just “wants to meet you.” Why? Why do you want to meet me? And for Christ’s sake, if I take the time to send you a message could you at least fucking respond? > > I signed up on this thing months ago and within two days blocked my profile because, well basically people are jerks. I just unblocked and tried again. I might “might” meet up with one lady after negotiations that the UN would find baffling. I really don’t think I’m hideous in any manner, yet POF has been a POS. > > I’m not looking for a neurosurgeon or an MMA superstar, just a normal gal with a brain and a sense of humour. Is that too much to ask? Apparently. They probably want to confirm mutual attraction before sending an actual message. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2015, 3:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/123 "2015-12-29T03:59:44Z")
So, Op here. I’ve taken two days off from POF and have dozens of messages to peruse. Most of them are “Wants to Meet You” but some seem to have actual MESSAGES! Stay tuned. (Like you care :() ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2015, 4:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/124 "2015-12-29T04:11:48Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > So, Op here. > > I’ve taken two days off from POF and have dozens of messages to peruse. > > Most of them are “Wants to Meet You” but some seem to have actual MESSAGES! > > Stay tuned. (Like you care :() Ridicule and derision is our way of saying we care. 😉 Best of luck. ---
**Author:** ![NJ22](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/4af34b/32.png) [@NJ22](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NJ22)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2015, 4:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/125 "2015-12-29T04:18:03Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > So, Op here. > > I’ve taken two days off from POF and have dozens of messages to peruse. > > Most of them are “Wants to Meet You” but some seem to have actual MESSAGES! > > Stay tuned. (Like you care :() POF is so much better than OKC ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2015, 4:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/126 "2015-12-29T04:21:43Z")
I’m suddenly not sure how this works. I don’t know what to click of for … anything basically. Did you message me? Did you want o meet me? God… ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2015, 4:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/127 "2015-12-29T04:21:52Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > Stay tuned. (Like you care :() I hope it works out. If it does I may try that site myself. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2015, 4:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/128 "2015-12-29T04:36:54Z")
I just hid my profile. Done for now. Can’t do it. Too low caliber, and believe me, I am not a snob by ANY stretch of the imagination. ---
**Author:** ![Mona\_Lisa\_Simpson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ce7236/32.png) [@Mona\_Lisa\_Simpson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mona_Lisa_Simpson)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2015, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/129 "2015-12-29T04:50:48Z")
My current partner and I met on POF. Later I realized we were sitting across from each other in the library the day I gave him my phone number in order to get him to leave me alone, as I was trying to talk to someone else. This was in 2007. It hasn’t been all sunshine lollipops and rainbows, but somehow we have made it work for over 8 years. I met my previous partner on POF too. But POF is a numbers game. I am a bit “nicer” than some, (so friends tell me) I replied to basically anyone who didn’t send a dicK pic or similar verbal pick up line. I kept my picture off line. (8 years ago not every person had a phone with a camera.) I don’t know what other advice to give. POF isn’t impossible. But it is work. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2015, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/130 "2015-12-29T05:07:35Z")
> [@Mona\_Lisa\_Simpson](#): > > I met my previous partner on POF too. But POF is a numbers game. I am a bit “nicer” than some, (so friends tell me) I replied to basically anyone who didn’t send a dicK pic or similar verbal pick up line. . As a “victim” of many online dating sites let me extend my thanks for you having some class about the whole thing. ---
**Author:** ![even\_sven](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/dfb087/32.png) [@even\_sven](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/even_sven)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2015, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/131 "2015-12-29T05:10:21Z")
> [@Wesley\_Clark](#): > > I still can’t figure that one out. I’m going to assume women just look at the pics and don’t read the profiles. Of course they do. Women like attractive partners, too. And not every contact on a dating site is necessarily meant to lead to a life partnership. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2015, 5:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/132 "2015-12-29T05:45:59Z")
> [@billfish678](#): > > As a “victim” of many online dating sites let me extend my thanks for you having some class about the whole thing. And that upsets me. I’m just (honestly!) a regular guy looking for a date. I suppose Ted Bundy said the same thing. OK. Heart on sleeve… here I am on [Facebook](https://www.facebook.com/doug.blair.108). I hope this works, maybe my security settings can’t let you see me: beats me. I have nothing to hide. ---
**Author:** ![JackieLikesVariety](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackielikesvariety/32/296_2.png) [@JackieLikesVariety](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JackieLikesVariety)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2015, 1:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/133 "2015-12-29T13:54:53Z")
You are adorable, and we do so care! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2015, 4:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/134 "2015-12-29T16:23:23Z")
Awww…there’s a picture of my friend! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Scribble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scribble/32/3317_2.png) [@Scribble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scribble)\ **Post date:** [December 29, 2015, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/135 "2015-12-29T16:42:47Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > Perhaps because those 30-plus-aged women are financially secure in their own right? There’s that. Many of us also learned early on that your financial status doesn’t say much about any of the really important stuff: how much your personality, goals, interests, and sexuality are compatible with ours. (Granted, looks don’t say much either, but dating someone you find physically unattractive is a non-starter.) ---
**Author:** ![Mona\_Lisa\_Simpson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ce7236/32.png) [@Mona\_Lisa\_Simpson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mona_Lisa_Simpson)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2015, 4:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/136 "2015-12-30T04:55:58Z")
> [@billfish678](#): > > As a “victim” of many online dating sites let me extend my thanks for you having some class about the whole thing. I am not sure if you are joking or not. I replied… yes I had a standard cut and paste response to anyone who said Hi. It was a few sentences and a few quirky questions with my own answers. (What’s your favourite pizza toppings, when you were 5 what did you want to be when grew up, last thing that made you laugh really hard) If all I got was one or two word answers or something illiterate then I would send a “thank you, I don’t think we are compatible”. Or the fellow wouldn’t reply. Those who replied generally were interesting people and we would converse further or not. I went on a few dates. I had a year and a half relationship and my current 8 year one. I was a single parent at the time and it was a way to screen out idiots and non conversationalists. I am not sure if I would go the POF route again if I became single. I met a few rude people and one person who actually scared me. But in general it can work. ---
**Author:** ![Leaffan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/leaffan/32/299_2.png) [@Leaffan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Leaffan)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2015, 6:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/137 "2015-12-30T06:23:00Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > Awww…there’s a picture of my friend! 🙂 Just curious. What can you see on my profile and what can’t you see. I’m not savvy in this stuff. RSVP. Thanks. ---
**Author:** ![Edward\_The\_Head](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ce73a5/32.png) [@Edward\_The\_Head](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Edward_The_Head)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2015, 1:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/138 "2015-12-30T13:04:50Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > Just curious. What can you see on my profile and what can’t you see. I’m not savvy in this stuff. I can see your main photo and when you updated it, including the one that was upside down! I’ve spent years on and off online dating. Things really turned around when I turned 40 though, I guess that’s supposed to mean I’m mature or something like that. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2015, 2:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/139 "2015-12-30T14:11:07Z")
> [@Mona\_Lisa\_Simpson](#): > > I am not sure if you are joking or not. I replied… yes I had a standard cut and paste response to anyone who said Hi. It was a few sentences and a few quirky questions with my own answers. (What’s your favourite pizza toppings, when you were 5 what did you want to be when grew up, last thing that made you laugh really hard) > > If all I got was one or two word answers or something illiterate then I would send a “thank you, I don’t think we are compatible”. Or the fellow wouldn’t reply. Those who replied generally were interesting people and we would converse further or not. I went on a few dates. I had a year and a half relationship and my current 8 year one. > > I was a single parent at the time and it was a way to screen out idiots and non conversationalists. I am not sure if I would go the POF route again if I became single. I met a few rude people and one person who actually scared me. But in general it can work. Sorry if I wasn’t clear. I honestly meant “thank you”. If I actually bothered to send some woman a personalized response to her “ad” and she responded back in ANY way (well not fuck you 🙂 ) that meant a lot. If you did that, good on you for being someone with some class. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [December 30, 2015, 3:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344/140 "2015-12-30T15:14:32Z")
> [@Leaffan](#): > > Just curious. What can you see on my profile and what can’t you see. I’m not savvy in this stuff. > > RSVP. > > Thanks. Well, I don’t have a Facebook account, so all I get is your name and picture. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344.md?page=6) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/fucking-plenty-of-fish/741344.md?page=8)