# Funeral Home Etiquette (a bit serious, though)

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/funeral-home-etiquette-a-bit-serious-though/560594>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [November 13, 2010, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/funeral-home-etiquette-a-bit-serious-though/560594 "2010-11-13T21:36:42Z")\
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**Author:** ![CoffinMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b9bd4f/32.png) [@CoffinMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CoffinMan)\
**Post date:** [June 29, 2017, 11:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/funeral-home-etiquette-a-bit-serious-though/560594/81 "2017-06-29T23:08:22Z")

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> [@Scumpup](#):
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> Did you go there to grieve or did you go there to critique the other mourners?

I’m a funeral director and since you mentioned you worked at a funeral home for years, I wonder if you got so burned out by it that you lost all compassion for others. I think this comment was a bit snarky and unnecessary.

For me I too have seen people dress inappropriately for a funeral service, and while I didn’t care and the family did not make a comment about it, it is still disrespectful.

Yeah it doesn’t really matter to God or whatever, for example, what you are wearing when you are praying and worshiping, just as it doesn’t matter to the decedent. But purely out of respect for the situation, and for other mourners, wouldn’t a little courtesy be in order? I think it should.

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**Author:** ![CoffinMan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b9bd4f/32.png) [@CoffinMan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CoffinMan)\
**Post date:** [June 29, 2017, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/funeral-home-etiquette-a-bit-serious-though/560594/82 "2017-06-29T23:11:57Z")

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> [@bengangmo](#):
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> Recently I was introducing a new colleague to clients - he asked “what’s the dress code?”
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> My reply? - up to you, just so long as it looks like you care.

I think this sums up the issue I have with folks dressing situationally inapprorpirately quite well.

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**Author:** ![engineer\_comp\_geek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/engineer_comp_geek/32/504_2.png) [@engineer\_comp\_geek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/engineer_comp_geek)\
**Post date:** [June 30, 2017, 1:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/funeral-home-etiquette-a-bit-serious-though/560594/83 "2017-06-30T01:11:55Z")

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**Moderator Action**

Thread closed due to excessive thread bumping.

**CoffinMan** , please do not bump every thread that you can find on a topic as you have done here today.

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