# Gaudere **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [March 13, 2004, 1:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070 "2004-03-13T13:08:11Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 4:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/41 "2004-03-14T04:53:51Z")
> [@vanilla](#): > > praise the lard! And pass the ham-munition! I predict… **lel** 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Lamia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/8e7dd6/32.png) [@Lamia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lamia)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/42 "2004-03-14T04:56:52Z")
> [@CrankyAsAnOldMan](#): > > It’s very nice to see her praised, but you make it sound like Gaudere just entered 7th grade. Before this thread I had no idea how old **Gaudere** was, and the OP had me imagining her as an elderly shut-in! I’m glad to know that she’s really a spring chicken. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![MonkeyMensch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/82dd89/32.png) [@MonkeyMensch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MonkeyMensch)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/43 "2004-03-14T04:57:47Z")
'Course, we had it toof. There were two hundred of us dying from consumption in shoe box in middle of road. All we could do was to wheeze in morse code to get bit of cold gravel to fill our empty bellies… ---
**Author:** ![Fenris](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fenris/32/498_2.png) [@Fenris](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fenris)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/44 "2004-03-14T04:58:55Z")
> [@vanilla](#): > > praise the lard! Og smash heritic Lard-worshipper! ---
**Author:** ![nano](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/dec6dc/32.png) [@nano](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nano)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 5:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/45 "2004-03-14T05:05:36Z")
god isn’t evil, it’s too lazy for that. It’s just a sadist. ---
**Author:** ![Desmostylus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/c57346/32.png) [@Desmostylus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Desmostylus)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 5:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/46 "2004-03-14T05:26:17Z")
> [@Libertarian](#): > > Just to (hopefully) stop this from derailing into something about me… I was out-of-line, **Lib**. Sorry. ---
**Author:** ![pepperlandgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f17d59/32.png) [@pepperlandgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pepperlandgirl)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 10:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/47 "2004-03-14T10:41:13Z")
> [@AugestWest](#): > > I disagree. How is it insulting to call somebody “young”? A little patronizing perhaps, but not insulting. > > Of course, it’s been a while since anybody called me young, so maybe my memory is going. You damn kids. Get outta my yard! Back in my day we used to wear an onion on belt, which was the fashion at the time… Well, she’s been a mod as long as I’ve been a member, and I joined in '01. You have to be at least 21 to be a mod, which means she’s at _least_ 25. Calling an adult woman “young with limited life experience” is patronizing at _best_. Quite frankly, I wouldn’t be thrilled at a compliment like that. I’d be annoyed and yeah depending on the context, maybe offended. _shrug_ Maybe I’m projecting. Maybe **Guadere** _is_ a child prodigy. Maybe she wouldn’t be the least bit annoyed at being praised for being so gosh darn smart for somebody so obviously inexperienced. Maybe **Libertarian** meant it in the nicest possible way. I guess that’s what’s limiting about text-only communication–sometimes it’s difficult to know just what somebody means. ---
**Author:** ![Liberal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/848f3c/32.png) [@Liberal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Liberal)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 10:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/48 "2004-03-14T10:53:12Z")
I mean that she is wonderful. As someone twice her age, I get to call her young. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 3:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/49 "2004-03-14T15:07:53Z")
As someone who just recently got over being young and female (still female, time tends to change the young part), I always really tried to give people the benefit of the doubt about being “charming” over “patronizing.” But, Lib, I’m going to tell you that sometimes it was darn hard – and that sometimes people who referred to my age and/or gender when giving a compliment (as in “limited life experience”) had very little understand of how much “living” I’d managed to pack into my fewer years - I was often better educated and better travelled with a broader career background, a wide circle of diverse friends and a few hard knocks that had given me perspective people twice my age that hadn’t travelled, knew a bunch of people just like them, and had a homogeneous background didn’t. Gaudere IS pretty incredible. As a mod, she is incredible regardless of if she is female, male or other - twenty five or sixty - rode hard and put away wet or cloistered. That she happens to look better in a bikini than most other mods due to her age and gender (Coldfire being, of course, the notable exception) is icing on the cake (and not terribly relevant given the nature of a message board). Of course, most of our mods are pretty incredible human beings. ---
**Author:** ![dantheman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dantheman/32/9421_2.png) [@dantheman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dantheman)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 3:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/50 "2004-03-14T15:35:43Z")
> [@pepperlandgirl](#): > > Well, she’s been a mod as long as I’ve been a member, and I joined in '01. :: looks at Join Date :: Hummm… 😕 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Liberal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/848f3c/32.png) [@Liberal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Liberal)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/51 "2004-03-14T17:16:49Z")
Dangerosa, I understand. I wouldn’t be at all hurt if someone wanted to open a thread complaining about how old-fashioned I am, how insensitive I am to the age-impaired, and how no matter what I say I must have meant something inexplicably horrible. I have, however, explained what I mean. (Incredibly, it was necessary.) Meanwhile, let’s use this thread not to bash one another, but to praise Gaudere. ---
**Author:** ![AncientHumanoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ancienthumanoid/32/278_2.png) [@AncientHumanoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AncientHumanoid)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 5:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/52 "2004-03-14T17:28:23Z")
Praise be to Gaud - ere! ---
**Author:** ![Liberal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/848f3c/32.png) [@Liberal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Liberal)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/53 "2004-03-14T17:33:35Z")
By the way, some trivia: 1. Gaudere is pronounced gaw-DAY-ray. 2. My first couple of weeks here, I thought she was male, and I thought that DavidB was her lover (due to context of some threads). 3. She became an admin when she volunteered to help Tuba Diva navigate the other site that hosted us for a while. (During that time, by the way, Tuba paid for the board out of her own pocket). 4. Fenris wrote a cool ode to her back in '01. [http://www.teemings.com/extras/mods/fenris05.html](http://www.teemings.com/extras/mods/fenris05.html) ---
**Author:** ![Tusculan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecd19e/32.png) [@Tusculan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tusculan)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/54 "2004-03-14T17:33:48Z")
> [@Dangerosa](#): > > That she happens to look better in a bikini than most other mods due to her age and gender (Coldfire being, of course, the notable exception) … I did _not_ need that image in my mind. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![minty\_green](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f6c823/32.png) [@minty\_green](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/minty_green)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 5:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/55 "2004-03-14T17:36:06Z")
> [@NoClueBoy](#): > > Praise be to Gaud - ere! And to [the Son](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/member.php?userid=6) and to [the Holy Ghost](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/member.php?userid=31). Ahhh, nothing like a little blasphemy on Sunday morning. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![ShibbOleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 5:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/56 "2004-03-14T17:48:07Z")
**Gaudere** is great! In addition to BBQ she’s also a fan of _dim sum_, which adds to her coolness. As to her age, she looks younger than me, older than 21, is smart, attractive, friendly, and plays in a weekly kickball game. Given the kickball she is at least young at heart. And she does a damned fine job as a Mod. ---
**Author:** ![pepperlandgirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f17d59/32.png) [@pepperlandgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pepperlandgirl)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 6:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/57 "2004-03-14T18:27:23Z")
> [@Libertarian](#): > > I mean that she is wonderful. As someone twice her age, I get to call her young. 🙂 Fair enough. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 7:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/58 "2004-03-14T19:28:48Z")
Lib, I think you are charming and old fashioned and not being intentionally patronizing. You can compliment me with words like “girl” or “sweet” or “dear” if you want. (Unlike december, who I once pitted for referring to me as “dear” in a thread on feminism. That seemed patronizing.) ---
**Author:** ![EddyTeddyFreddy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eddyteddyfreddy/32/18796_2.png) [@EddyTeddyFreddy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EddyTeddyFreddy)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/59 "2004-03-14T21:58:21Z")
:: waving madly, jumping up and down :: **Lib** , over here, over here! You can call me young, too. Please? Pretty please with real maple syrup on it?? :: panting to a halt, middle-aged lungs heaving :: ---
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [March 14, 2004, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070/60 "2004-03-14T22:00:45Z")
> [@Tusculan](#): > > I did _not_ need that image in my mind. > > 😉 Hey, don’t knock it until you’ve seen it, dude. 😃 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gaudere/234070.md?page=4)