# Gays Who Do Not Engage in Anal Sex **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [November 26, 2012, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176 "2012-11-26T18:17:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 4:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/21 "2012-11-27T04:20:21Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Have you even tried it? No, I have never screwed a sheep either and don’t really care to. Sexual preferences cut both ways. Some people don’t find women attractive, others do and use the equipment provided only for their designed purpose. I don’t care what anybody else does but I never understood the purpose of the anal region except for one thing and that is not a romantic image. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 4:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/22 "2012-11-27T04:42:02Z")
> [@matt\_mcl](#): > > The other other question is, how does this compare to practices among heterosexuals (or, more accurately, how do men’s anal sex habits with other men compare to their habits with women – to account for men who have sex with both men and women – or for that matter to women’s anal sex habits with other women)? According to the column I linked to earlier, about 40% of heterosexuals have had anal sex. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 4:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/23 "2012-11-27T04:44:13Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > No, I have never screwed a sheep either and don’t really care to. Sexual preferences cut both ways. Some people don’t find women attractive, others do and use the equipment provided only for their designed purpose. I don’t care what anybody else does but I never understood the purpose of the anal region except for one thing and that is not a romantic image. So to you, anal sex and beastiality are basically synonymous? ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 4:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/24 "2012-11-27T04:52:09Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > So to you, anal sex and beastiality are basically synonymous? No, I’m guessing they’re just equally undesirable. He also gives us this… > [@shagnasty](#): > > You have perfectly marked entrance right next to one the one that is clearly an exit only door by design. However, I doubt he ever turned down a blow job. :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Kimmy\_Gibbler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Kimmy\_Gibbler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimmy_Gibbler)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 4:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/25 "2012-11-27T04:53:31Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > So to you, anal sex and beastiality are basically synonymous? I’m not sure the OP was inquiring about **Shagnasty** ’s personal sex life. How about you try to stay on topic, rather than belaboring some irrelevant point. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 4:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/26 "2012-11-27T04:56:46Z")
> [@Kimmy\_Gibbler](#): > > What I think animates **F-P** ’s bewilderment, and what might be the kernel of truth that these “g0ys” have unwittingly latched on to, is the idea that _homosexuality is not just some mirror image of heterosexuality_. Some straights, those confused by the not-universal adoption of anal sex as the preferred mode of sexual congress, seem to think: Well, we have penis-in-vagina sex, so to the extent that non-heterosexuals have sex, it must endeavor to simulate normative heterosexual practices. Thus, they believe, anal sex is the most important kind of gay sex, or the most frequent, or the only kind that counts. This is an error. I agree. I can’t tell you how much it blew my mind (stop it) when I read right here on this board recently that “gay sex” is everything my male SO and I (female) do that isn’t actual penis-in-vagina sex. Hugging, kissing, cuddling, mouth on penis, mouth on vagina, fingers, hands, toys…all the same for gay couples. Hell, by that label, we have “gay sex” more than we have “straight sex”! I mean, duh. Of course. And I even knew that not all gay men are into anal. But the way it was phrased…wow, did it suddenly remove the "Other"ness from my world view. ---
**Author:** ![Shagnasty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9dc877/32.png) [@Shagnasty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shagnasty)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/27 "2012-11-27T04:58:28Z")
> [@Ethilrist](#): > > No, I’m guessing they’re just equally undesirable. He also gives us this… > > However, I doubt he ever turned down a blow job. :eek: Mouths are designed for taking things in. People do it every day and they do the job well. I don’t mean for my earlier posts to offensive to anyone but anal sex is an improvisation and a rather risky one at that. Is an extreme disease vector including HIV. There are some serious design problems with the idea no matter what your preference or orientation. ---
**Author:** ![stui\_magpie](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stui_magpie/32/11010_2.png) [@stui\_magpie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/stui_magpie)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/28 "2012-11-27T05:01:46Z")
> [@Fotheringay-Phipps](#): > > I’ve seen it asserted - on this board and possibly elsewhere as well - that some gay men do not engage in anal sex. I’m wondering how common this is. Like are we talking about something like 0.1% - it’s out there but very very rare - or would that be more like 10% - 20%, IOW a significant percentage of the gay people out there? > > To be clear, I’m not talking about people who simply lack the opportunity, e.g. deeply closeted or lack partners etc. > > Also, it’s not about people who are exclusively tops or bottoms. > > Cites would be appreciated. But estimates from people who have broad enough personal experience would also be OK. Thanks. A number of people have already posted answers and information. I have known gays who fit in either camp. My question is though, why on gods earth are you intrigued by such a question? 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/29 "2012-11-27T05:07:27Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > Mouths are designed for taking things in. People do it every day and they do the job well. I don’t mean for my earlier posts to offensive to anyone but anal sex is an improvisation and a rather risky one at that. Is an extreme disease vector including HIV. There are some serious design problems with the idea no matter what your preference or orientation. Thanks for the clarification. Knocking anal sex because “it’s an exit” without knocking oral sex because “it’s an entrance” is a pet peeve of mine. ---
**Author:** ![C6541](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90db22/32.png) [@C6541](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/C6541)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 5:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/30 "2012-11-27T05:30:43Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > Mouths are designed for taking things in. People do it every day and they do the job well. I don’t mean for my earlier posts to offensive to anyone but anal sex is an improvisation and a rather risky one at that. Is an extreme disease vector including HIV. There are some serious design problems with the idea no matter what your preference or orientation. Yeah, taking things into the stomach… ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 5:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/31 "2012-11-27T05:36:38Z")
> [@Kimmy\_Gibbler](#): > > I’m not sure the OP was inquiring about **Shagnasty** ’s personal sex life. How about you try to stay on topic, rather than belaboring some irrelevant point. A and B, meet C. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 7:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/32 "2012-11-27T07:40:14Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > Mouths are designed for taking things in. People do it every day and they do the job well. I don’t mean for my earlier posts to offensive to anyone but anal sex is an improvisation and a rather risky one at that. Is an extreme disease vector including HIV. There are some serious design problems with the idea no matter what your preference or orientation. First of all, your unending use of the word “designed” is wrong on so many counts. Who “designed” everything, and who decided what body parts were “designed” for? Are hands “designed” for playing the violin? Are noses “designed” for holding up glasses? Are chins “designed” for folding pillow cases? We use various body parts for whatever suits our needs, and it’s ALL “improvisation.” For you, your dick was “designed” to be in a vagina, and vice-versa. For me, none of my body parts were “designed” for any particular task, but I find it totally natural for my dick to be in my partner’s mouth . . . meaning, it gives us more pleasure than any alternative. And that’s all that matters. At no point did either of us look around at heterosexuals, and emulate what they were doing. And at no point did we say “Oh gee, we don’t have that body part that sex was designed for, so we’ll have to settle for something else.” It’s not like that at all. ---
**Author:** ![gracer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8e7dd6/32.png) [@gracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gracer)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 12:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/33 "2012-11-27T12:46:13Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > Are chins “designed” for folding pillow cases? Shhh, don’t give the creationists ideas! Next thing you know books will be written about how natural selection could never have come up with something as delicate as the chin, and how would primordial soup know about pillowcases, huh?! ---
**Author:** ![Freakenstein](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/b782af/32.png) [@Freakenstein](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freakenstein)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 1:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/34 "2012-11-27T13:10:46Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > No 'Cause that would be a nasty shag, right? ---
**Author:** ![matt\_mcl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7ab992/32.png) [@matt\_mcl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/matt_mcl)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 2:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/35 "2012-11-27T14:04:03Z")
> [@Kimmy\_Gibbler](#): > > What I think animates **F-P** ’s bewilderment, and what might be the kernel of truth that these “g0ys” have unwittingly latched on to, is the idea that _homosexuality is not just some mirror image of heterosexuality_. Some straights, those confused by the not-universal adoption of anal sex as the preferred mode of sexual congress, seem to think: Well, we have penis-in-vagina sex, so to the extent that non-heterosexuals have sex, it must endeavor to simulate normative heterosexual practices. Thus, they believe, anal sex is the most important kind of gay sex, or the most frequent, or the only kind that counts. This is an error. Yup. And it also leads directly to “What do lesbians do in bed?”: the belief that sex = a penis going into something leads to confusion about how two people can possibly have sex when neither has a penis (one assumes, because of cissexism). ---
**Author:** ![Fotheringay-Phipps](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/d9b06d/32.png) [@Fotheringay-Phipps](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fotheringay-Phipps)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/36 "2012-11-27T15:25:03Z")
> [@buddha\_david](#): > > Which, dear sir, is the explicit definition of the meme, “I see what you did there.” From my experience that’s not correct. > [@](#): > > If it _was_ intentional, it wouldn’t be funny. 🆒 Truth be told it wasn’t funny in any event. > [@stui\_magpie](#): > > My question is though, why on gods earth are you intrigued by such a question? 😕 [I have taken all knowledge to be my province](http://www.quotationspage.com/quote/28978.html). What’s it to you? ---
**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 3:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/37 "2012-11-27T15:27:33Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > Mouths are designed for taking things in … chewing those things to mush, then swallowing them. Sexy. I will also admit my own personal surprise at learning (not that long ago) that anal sex is not overwhelmingly on the menu for gay men. Like K-G surmised, I projected my own hetero mindset onto their relationships. ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/38 "2012-11-27T15:33:23Z")
> [@gracer](#): > > Shhh, don’t give the creationists ideas! Next thing you know books will be written about how natural selection could never have come up with something as delicate as the chin, and how would primordial soup know about pillowcases, huh?! How would they explain elephants having chins then? ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 3:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/39 "2012-11-27T15:42:39Z")
> [@Fotheringay-Phipps](#): > > From my experience that’s not correct.Truth be told it wasn’t funny in any event. Sorry for the aside, but, I agree. “I see what you did there” is _usually_ a response to intended, but subtle, wit. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 4:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/40 "2012-11-27T16:28:13Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > Some people don’t find women attractive, others do and use the equipment provided only for their designed purpose. I don’t care what anybody else does but I never understood the purpose of the anal region except for one thing and that is not a romantic image. I assume you feel the same way about cunnilingus? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176.md?page=3)