# Gays Who Do Not Engage in Anal Sex **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [November 26, 2012, 6:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176 "2012-11-26T18:17:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Kimmy\_Gibbler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Kimmy\_Gibbler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kimmy_Gibbler)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 6:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/41 "2012-11-27T18:13:30Z")
> [@panache45](#): > > I assume you feel the same way about cunnilingus? Why is everybody so obsessed with what Shagnasty does in the sack? ---
**Author:** ![Procrustus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/procrustus/32/2994_2.png) [@Procrustus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Procrustus)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/42 "2012-11-27T18:15:13Z")
I never get tired of threads about anal sex or tattoos. ---
**Author:** ![Inner\_Stickler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inner_stickler/32/318_2.png) [@Inner\_Stickler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inner_Stickler)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/43 "2012-11-27T18:40:40Z")
Well, then you will love the humdinger I have planned for next week where I solicit opinions on which tattoo of anal sex to get. ---
**Author:** ![eschereal](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eschereal/32/18939_2.png) [@eschereal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eschereal)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/44 "2012-11-27T18:48:45Z")
> [@Kimmy\_Gibbler](#): > > Why is everybody so obsessed with what **Shagnasty** does in the sack? I cannot possibly imagine. ---
**Author:** ![Jake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f475e1/32.png) [@Jake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jake)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 7:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/45 "2012-11-27T19:06:36Z")
I really don’t care what opening I use. As long as my semen is going into a (Woman’s) body, that’s where it belongs. Of course the woman must be willing and open to… Whatever. ---
**Author:** ![jackdavinci](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jackdavinci/32/3259_2.png) [@jackdavinci](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jackdavinci)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/46 "2012-11-27T19:09:49Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > I never get tired of threads about anal sex or tattoos. Both together are a rich source of material! Such as “insert tab A into slot B”, “hundreds served”, “nasty shag zone”, bullseye motif, “donate sperm here”, “holy mess”, etc. ---
**Author:** ![Slithy\_Tove](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slithy_tove/32/18248_2.png) [@Slithy\_Tove](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slithy_Tove)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2012, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/47 "2012-11-27T22:22:35Z")
> [@Procrustus](#): > > I never get tired of threads about anal sex or tattoos. I wish I could remember the name of the book for you, on the history of tattoos. Sailors, Yakuza, Maori, and a section on English homosexuals pre-decriminalization. One guy has an entire fox hunt: hounds, horses and riders, running down his back, with a Fox’s tail disappearing into his anus. Another had a large W on each buttock, so when he bent over it spelled “wow.” ---
**Author:** ![buddha\_david](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ee7513/32.png) [@buddha\_david](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/buddha_david)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2012, 4:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/48 "2012-11-28T04:15:27Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > Sorry for the aside, but, I agree. “I see what you did there” is _usually_ a response to intended, but subtle, wit. You mean I’ve been using it wrong all this time? Aw, man. :mad: > [@Fotheringay-Phipps](#): > > Truth be told it wasn’t funny in any event. Well, intentional or not, it had _me_ in stitches. But sex discussions always bring out the 12-year-old boy in me. ---
**Author:** ![Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c77e96/32.png) [@Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Speaker_for_the_Dead)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2012, 1:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/49 "2012-11-28T13:16:34Z")
> [@buddha\_david](#): > > But sex discussions always bring out the 12-year-old boy in me. I see what you did there! ---
**Author:** ![buddha\_david](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ee7513/32.png) [@buddha\_david](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/buddha_david)\ **Post date:** [November 28, 2012, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/50 "2012-11-28T14:43:08Z")
> [@Speaker\_for\_the\_Dead](#): > > I see what you did there! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e47c2d/32.png) [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hershele_Ostropoler)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 8:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/51 "2012-11-30T08:38:21Z")
I wonder (though not enough to look it up) how many man-woman couples never engage in PIV. ---
**Author:** ![Johanna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johanna/32/8318_2.png) [@Johanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johanna)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 12:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/52 "2012-11-30T12:43:26Z")
> [@matt\_mcl](#): > > “What do lesbians do in bed?” We ain’t tellin. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Fotheringay-Phipps](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/d9b06d/32.png) [@Fotheringay-Phipps](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fotheringay-Phipps)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/53 "2012-11-30T14:40:06Z")
> [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](#): > > I wonder (though not enough to look it up) how many man-woman couples never engage in PIV. In case you ever do, the important thing to distinguish is why. There are plenty of heterosexual couples who never engage in PIV, but this will generally be because their sex lives have petered out entirely, whether due to age/infirmity, marital issues or whatever else. To a lesser extent you will have a small number of people who have specific medical/physical issues that proscribe it (e.g. someone with a Foley catheter, for example). The comparable question would be healthy heterosexual couples who have an active sex life but who are disinterested in PIV specifically. I would guess that number is extremely low. ---
**Author:** ![Wakinyan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wakinyan/32/352_2.png) [@Wakinyan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wakinyan)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/54 "2012-11-30T20:09:21Z")
> [@Johanna](#): > > We ain’t tellin. 😃 So the only true gentlemen this days are lesbians. ---
**Author:** ![Cheesesteak](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cheesesteak/32/3694_2.png) [@Cheesesteak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cheesesteak)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/55 "2012-11-30T20:24:18Z")
> [@Fotheringay-Phipps](#): > > The comparable question would be healthy heterosexual couples who have an active sex life but who are disinterested in PIV specifically. I would guess that number is extremely low. I agree with this, and would also add in the folks who do not have PIV because of religious or family planning reasons. Again, that is not disinterest, but an outside factor changing their behavior. ---
**Author:** ![Johanna](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johanna/32/8318_2.png) [@Johanna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johanna)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 10:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/56 "2012-11-30T22:03:51Z")
> [@Wakinyan](#): > > So the only true gentlemen this days are lesbians. Hm, I know a drag king or two that might be pleased by your saying that. ---
**Author:** ![Irishman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/b487fb/32.png) [@Irishman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Irishman)\ **Post date:** [November 30, 2012, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/57 "2012-11-30T22:11:19Z")
> [@Shagnasty](#): > > I never understood it myself. You have perfectly marked entrance right next to one the one that is clearly an exit only door by design. I have no idea why you would choose the latter when a better alternative is available next to it for heterosexual sex. This reminds me of a bit from one of those sketch comedy shows, I think it was MadTV. A couple are in bed, and the woman says something to the man about how she can’t understand why men are so into anal sex. The guy says he doesn’t understand either, that you’re down there an inch away from the greatest place on earth, and you want to put it there? Then they have an argument over whether her anus is sexy, and she makes him study it “in case she’s ever killed in a way that horribly disfigures her and that’s the only part of her body left untouched”. So she leans over in front of him, he stars at her ass for a few seconds, then says, “Well now I kinda do want to try it.” > [@](#): > > It seems like once you opened up that as preferred penetration route, there isn’t really any difference among the sexes because everyone has a butthole. You really think the salient point of sexual attraction is the hole it goes into? That the general shape and attributes of the partner have nothing to do with it? Wouldn’t that be like saying that a vagina is a vagina, so you might as well screw a sheep, as long as it’s female? Maybe, just maybe, an anus is one part of a larger whole that is a person, and anal sex is one possible type of act that can be performed between two people, and that it might be pleasure inducing to one or both parties? That the choice of sex partner is not driven merely by the search for an appropriate hole? > [@](#): > > Many of them probably find the idea just as disgusting as many heterosexual men do so it isn’t worth it. I’m amused by the irony of the poster/post combination. (Already noticed by others.) > [@Shagnasty](#): > > Mouths are designed for taking things in. And then chewing them. That’s why they have teeth. > [@](#): > > There are some serious design problems with the idea no matter what your preference or orientation. Same can be said for oral. > [@stui\_magpie](#): > > My question is though, why on gods earth are you intrigued by such a question? 😕 Curiosity? Desire to understand how other people think? Or is the only possible reason you can think of that the person wants to label them as freaks? > [@Ethilrist](#): > > Thanks for the clarification. Knocking anal sex because “it’s an exit” without knocking oral sex because “it’s an entrance” is a pet peeve of mine. But that’s the point - a dick is in search of an entrance. Why would it make sense to knock oral sex for providing the very thing needed? Now, knocking oral sex because it has sharp hard pointy things in it might make sense, but not because it allows entry. > [@Jake](#): > > I really don’t care what opening I use. As long as my semen is going into a (Woman’s) body, that’s where it belongs. Of course the woman must be willing and open to… Whatever. So you don’t like facials? 🆒 > [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](#): > > I wonder (though not enough to look it up) how many man-woman couples never engage in PIV. Peeing intra venously? Oh. ---
**Author:** ![Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e47c2d/32.png) [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hershele_Ostropoler)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2012, 12:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/58 "2012-12-01T00:45:14Z")
> [@Fotheringay-Phipps](#): > > The comparable question would be healthy heterosexual couples who have an active sex life but who are disinterested in PIV specifically. I would guess that number is extremely low. That’s what I was thinking of. Incidentally, if the brochures at my GI’s office are to be believed, it’s entirely possible to have PIV if the man has a Foley. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2012, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/59 "2012-12-01T01:53:59Z")
> [@](#): > > This reminds me of a bit from one of those sketch comedy shows, I think it was MadTV. A couple are in bed, and the woman says something to the man about how she can’t understand why men are so into anal sex. The guy says he doesn’t understand either, that you’re down there an inch away from the greatest place on earth, and you want to put it there? Then they have an argument over whether her anus is sexy, and she makes him study it “in case she’s ever killed in a way that horribly disfigures her and that’s the only part of her body left untouched”. So she leans over in front of him, he stars at her ass for a few seconds, then says, “Well now I kinda do want to try it.” Really? This was on network television? Yowza. ---
**Author:** ![Ethilrist](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ethilrist/32/4604_2.png) [@Ethilrist](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ethilrist)\ **Post date:** [December 1, 2012, 4:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176/60 "2012-12-01T04:10:05Z")
> [@Hershele\_Ostropoler](#): > > That’s what I was thinking of. Incidentally, if the brochures at my GI’s office are to be believed, it’s entirely possible to have PIV if the man has a Foley. I just pictured a scene with a guy standing in the corner with a box of sand, some shoes, a slide whistle, a gun loaded with blanks and a squeaky duck. :dubious: [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gays-who-do-not-engage-in-anal-sex/642176.md?page=4)