I have to share a semi relevant hijack that’s not worth it’s own pit thread but I think others will “know where I’m coming from”-
What pisses me off is when I’m doing research and some distant cousin has tried to FORCE a connection where there isn’t one.
For example, I have ancestors on both sides with the surname Lee and one with the surname Henry. You wouldn’t believe the lengths that some people from this group will go to in order to connect to Robert E.'s family and Patrick Henry respectively. On ancestry.com especially you can’t afford to take at face value any of these connections in a family tree- if there’s no documentation you’ve got to trace it yourself, otherwise you’ll have an ancestor who’s descended from, say, an uncle of Robert E. Lee who seems to have fathered a child when he was 8 (or another ancestor who was 108 and whose wife was 12, or some such), or a son born to Patrick Henry’s parents 4 months after Patrick Henry’s sister yet omitted from the family Bible or other sources (in other words- square pegs in round holes). I’m not even sure why they do this- even if you’re a direct descendant of Lee (there aren’t many) or of Henry (there are tons- he had 15 kids or so- kept one of his wives locked in her room due to her mental illness, incidentally) big whoop- that hardly reflects on you- but at the same time you’re messing up the real line that can actually be more interesting. (For example, in one of the Lee lines I found their real ancestor and what’s interesting is the house he was born in in Shropshire is still standing [though much modified in the past 400 years obviously] which makes for a great graphic and connection.)
So a caveat on ancestry.com- never believe connections made by others until you see the proof. (And one line of Lees that I’ve found really is connected to the Virginia/Robert E. Lee ancestry was completely different from the way it was listed and was in fact so distant and so disconnected from any famous distant relatives they’d begun spelling their name Lea [though resumed Lee after the Civil War]). It’s irritating how many people seem to go into genealogy determined to find a famous ancestor (or to place one if there’s not one there).