Born in 1972. To an Air Force sergeant.
I grew up on or near military installations - Webb AFB, TX; RAF Lakenheath, UK; Eglin AFB, FL; RAF Upper Heyford, UK; and Bergstrom AFB, TX. Obviously this colors my perceptions quite a bit. We had nuclear war drills all the time - especially in England, where they had war games (“alerts”) every few weeks. There was alarms green yellow, orange, red, and black. Red, I think, is when you would see every GI with their gas masks on. Black meant an attack was in progress and everyone was either inside or dead.
(Funny story - I worked as a middle schooler as a summer employee at the Consolidated Base Personnel Office - CBPO. I think I was hiding out in a loo one morning to avoid getting more work, when I realized that the lights were out in my office. I was in there typing on a IBM Selectric when a GI in a gas mask taps on the window. “IT’S ALARM BLACK. GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE.” I can’t remember where I was sent…)
We also knew that we were a few minutes from destruction from the Soviet Union - I think it was supposed to take 5-6 minutes for missiles to reach England. There was also the “Protect and Survive” PIFs that were on TV in the UK that scared the hell out of us. One even told what to do when dead people were in your house after the nuclear attack. (I think it’s parodied in one of the Young Ones episodes.) I did see The Day After but the BBC had a programme called Threads which scared me even more, because it seemed so real. I remember one of the scenes was of a bomb going off and a mushroom cloud rising over an English city (Leicester?) while a lady with her shopping bag watched. She dropped the bag and you could see a trickle of pee running down her leg. Scary stuff!
Both Lakenheath had front-line F-111 fighter-bombers so we knew the Russians were coming after us pretty quick. RAF Greenham Common had B-52s so they were going to catch hell. Not to mention the satellite stations at smaller bases like RAF Feltwell and Croughton. So we grew up with a real fear of it happening.
The Air Force had a propaganda program called “Project Warrior” and they had all of these books about the Cold War in the base library, so that was another source of fear/information. I was definitely most scared during the Reagan-Brezhnev years, and MAD was a meme in popular culture - music, TV, books. But I remember my childhood being pretty happy, so I guess we didn’t think about it too much. But when you did, you were scared shitless. When Gorbachev became premier, it was like, “We’re going to live!” But then they rolled out AIDS and scared the shit out of us with that, too.
The biggest fear, I think, was not that the US and the USSR would go to war over some issue. It was the idea that some accident would take place, and MAD meant they would bomb before they knew what happened, and we’d all be dead or burning in twenty minutes. I was in seventh or eighth grade when Chernobyl happened. We couldn’t eat fresh food or dairy for a few days. That was a particularly scary time as well.
Reagan just seemed like such a cowboy, that if anything ever sounded like it might be attack, he’d hit the button and destroy the world. Like Rubystreak said, when Reagan made that joke I was like, “Can he be arrested or fired from being President?” Can you imagine how scared we would be if GWB was president back then?