# Getting awoken for sex **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 10, 2009, 1:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036 "2009-11-10T13:46:56Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 7:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/21 "2009-11-10T19:16:28Z")
> [@neuroman](#): > > Although this makes me sound like an old fob, I’m not even thirty. Old Fob(42) checking in. Any time’s the right time. _Age_ ain’t your problem young man. Perhaps when your 40+ and you’re just happy when the thing works you’ll look back with fondness at the time when you could take or leave Mr. Woody. 😃 Ah who am I kidding. I would have been into it even when I was in my 20s. ---
**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 7:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/22 "2009-11-10T19:41:58Z")
Love it. Haven’t been on the receiving end (yet) but would definitely enjoy it, regardless of how badly I needed to sleep. Had discussed it with my SO, she said she was fine with me messing around with her if she was asleep; if she really wasn’t up for it she’d just tell me to knock it off. So far she hasn’t 😃 Whats fun is when someone wakes up about 75% of the way into it, they’re about to orgasm and they’re like, “wait whats happening?” 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Eonwe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eonwe/32/240_2.png) [@Eonwe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eonwe)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/23 "2009-11-10T19:45:29Z")
> [@Incubus](#): > > Whats fun is when someone wakes up about 75% of the way into it, they’re about to orgasm and they’re like, “wait whats happening?” 😛 Do people really sleep that soundly? I can’t imagine sleeping through someone performing sex acts on/with me. ---
**Author:** ![Dung\_Beetle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dung_beetle/32/7945_2.png) [@Dung\_Beetle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dung_Beetle)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/24 "2009-11-10T20:21:14Z")
I said never, but truthfully…I’ll participate with a marked lack of enthusiasm. It only takes a minute and then I can get back to sleep. A rejection and hurt feelings would take all damn day, and I’m tired, goddammit. ---
**Author:** ![billfish678](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/7bcc69/32.png) [@billfish678](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/billfish678)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 8:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/25 "2009-11-10T20:41:40Z")
> [@gaffa](#): > > Former [NBC News Overnight](http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/NBC_News_Overnight) anchor Linda Ellerbee mentioned in her book _And So It Goes: Adventures in Television_ that, because of their wildly different schedules, she and her boyfriend had an agreement that only one of them had to be awake at a time for sex to occur. That arrangement will work for decades when you are single too.. ---
**Author:** ![Skammer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/skammer/32/143_2.png) [@Skammer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skammer)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/26 "2009-11-10T21:09:45Z")
Do I have to work in the morning? 'Cause if so, I really need my sleep. ---
**Author:** ![yellowval](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/919ad9/32.png) [@yellowval](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/yellowval)\ **Post date:** [November 10, 2009, 10:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/27 "2009-11-10T22:04:32Z")
It happens a lot with my husband and I. I’m an early to bed, early to rise girl. He stays up later and naturally wakes up later than me. Often he’ll wake me up when he comes to bed, and I do the same if I wake up in the morning before the alarm goes off. Neither of us minds, though we pretty much always ask, “Do you want me to let you sleep/leave you alone?” Usually, the answer is “no.” ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/28 "2009-11-11T00:01:53Z")
Love sex, but don’t even THINK of waking me up for it. ---
**Author:** ![Incubus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c68b51/32.png) [@Incubus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Incubus)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 12:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/29 "2009-11-11T00:18:48Z")
> [@Eonwe](#): > > Do people really sleep that soundly? I can’t imagine sleeping through someone performing sex acts on/with me. Well, they’re not _completely_ asleep; more like in-between where you might not be sure if you’re having an erotic dream or something. TMI The times it was appreciated, the foreplay I initiated followed through into sex. The times she wanted to sleep, she gently pushed my head out of her crotch, I rubbed one out myself, and went back to sleep. Everybody wins 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Eo\_Echo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ebca7d/32.png) [@Eo\_Echo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eo_Echo)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/30 "2009-11-11T00:27:59Z")
> [@Marienee](#): > > My husband tried several times before we were married. Trouble is that I sleep soundly and only wake up enough to realize that someone is in my bedroom. So I brained him with a lamp once, ran away to the far side of the bed and escaped from under it another time in a full blind panic, and whacked him with the clock radio upside his head another time. All of these things rather spoil the mood. Now he knows better. > > Really, I am a very nice person. Mostly. I had the same problem with my ex. (That’s not why she’s my ex). Once I started wearing my official Evel Knievel Star Spangled Crash helmet to bed, problem solved. ---
**Author:** ![HazelNutCoffee](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/ac91a4/32.png) [@HazelNutCoffee](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HazelNutCoffee)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 1:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/31 "2009-11-11T01:10:59Z")
I think I’d like it, but unfortunately both of us sleep much too soundly to wake up at night. ---
**Author:** ![DigitalC](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ebca7d/32.png) [@DigitalC](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DigitalC)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 1:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/32 "2009-11-11T01:12:37Z")
There’s about a 95% chance that i will have a boner when waking up so its the perfect time. ---
**Author:** ![Hockey\_Monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/a183cd/32.png) [@Hockey\_Monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hockey_Monkey)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/33 "2009-11-11T01:14:29Z")
Morning sex is OK, but not really my thing. You better not ever wake me up in the middle of the night unless the house is on fire. ---
**Author:** ![Claire\_Beauchamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ec9cab/32.png) [@Claire\_Beauchamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Claire_Beauchamp)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 1:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/34 "2009-11-11T01:19:21Z")
Totally depends. Might be fab, might prefer to sleep. How will my partner know when is when? Not until you try. So, always worth a try, but don’t be hurt if, on occasion, I don’t wanna. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 4:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/35 "2009-11-11T04:17:14Z")
I find it deeply creepy even to contemplate. When I am unconscious no one should be touching me sexually, not even my beloved (not that he would). I would awaken super-pissed. It’s fine for other people if that’s what they like. I was really surprised the first time I heard about it though. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/36 "2009-11-11T04:50:45Z")
> [@DigitalC](#): > > There’s about a 95% chance that i will have a boner when waking up so its the perfect time. Me too, and my partner knows it. And it’s my favorite way of waking up. ---
**Author:** ![Todderbob](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e47774/32.png) [@Todderbob](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Todderbob)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 5:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/37 "2009-11-11T05:13:40Z")
Go for it, the worst two outcomes are terrible sex or denial, and it’s not like anyone in my bedroom has never experienced both of those. On the other hand, though, the possibility for mindblowing sex is there. And hey, even terrible sex is better than no sex at all. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 2:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/38 "2009-11-11T14:10:03Z")
> [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > I said never, but truthfully…I’ll participate with a marked lack of enthusiasm. \*\*It only takes a minute \*\*and then I can get back to sleep. A rejection and hurt feelings would take all damn day, and I’m tired, goddammit. A whole minute? Dayum!! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/39 "2009-11-11T14:14:09Z")
I have recounted before being woken up with a BJ by a relative stranger at a party (I’d gone to lie down in her room). I was delighted. In the context of a relationship, my recent ex _hated_ this. The ex before her _loved_ it. You can’t please all the people all the time. ---
**Author:** ![Olentzero](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/90ced4/32.png) [@Olentzero](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Olentzero)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2009, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036/40 "2009-11-11T16:08:30Z")
Been woken up once for sex, a little confusing but fun nonetheless. I’d definitely be up for it again, but never tried it on anyone. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-awoken-for-sex/517036.md?page=3)