# Getting ready for my first date but I am not allowed to drink **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [December 11, 2018, 3:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939 "2018-12-11T15:12:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/21 "2018-12-11T16:14:55Z")
> [@AlenDonald](#): > > Yeah I have considered that and we have spent a lot of time being sober but in a relationship there are times when you want to move on otherwise they don’t remain in the same state. I know you might be thinking I am one of those irresponsible college kids just a drinking wannabe well that is not how things are. The legal drinking age in the US is higher than it should be and I’ve had good grades in my high school and college. I think it is time I should have some freedom to spend some time in a way how me and my girl want to. Having been married for over 24 years, I’m interested in what this stage of relationship is, the one which my wife and I apparently failed to move on to because neither of us drink. We didn’t even know it existed! Thanks! ---
**Author:** ![AlenDonald](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@AlenDonald](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AlenDonald)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/22 "2018-12-11T16:15:00Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > I have to admit that I have never heard the “Supreme Court judges do it, so why can’t I?” excuse before when it comes to underage drinking. Hehe, that is probably because you’ve never seen a judge caught with a fake id before? ---
**Author:** ![AlenDonald](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@AlenDonald](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AlenDonald)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/23 "2018-12-11T16:16:41Z")
> [@JohnT](#): > > Having been married for over 24 years, I’m interested in what this stage of relationship is, the one which my wife and I apparently failed to move on to because neither of us drink. We didn’t even know it existed! > > Thanks! Well some people live a boring lifestyle that doesn’t mean others should follow as well. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/24 "2018-12-11T16:17:47Z")
But you didn’t answer the question! HELP ME, ALENDONALD! HELP MY FROM MY BORING LIFESTYLE! Seriously though… _what stage_ are you talking about? Are you saying you can’t get laid as a kid if she isn’t drunk? Because you can! Well… at least _I_ could. ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/25 "2018-12-11T16:18:20Z")
> [@Sitnam](#): > > You’re looking for advice about how to break the law. That’s not allowed here for pretty obvious legal reasons. We’re giving you legal tips. AlenDonald, if you read t[he rules for the message board](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/misc.php?do=showrules) (which, I believe, you had to agree to as part of signing up for an account here), you will see this: “You agree, through your use of this service, that you will not use the SDMB to post any material that you know or should know is false and/or defamatory, inaccurate, abusive, vulgar, hateful, harassing, obscene, profane, threatening, invasive of a person’s privacy, **or in violation of U.S. law. You agree not to post material that in our opinion encourages activity that is illegal in the U.S.** ” (bolding mine) Your question is, very clearly, asking for advice on how to get around the fact that you aren’t old enough to legally drink. The other posters on this thread are aware of this rule on this board, and that’s why you’re getting the sorts of responses that you are. You aren’t going to get the kind of answers you’re looking for here. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/26 "2018-12-11T16:21:38Z")
> [@AlenDonald](#): > > Well some people live a boring lifestyle that doesn’t mean others should follow as well. If the only excitement you can bring into a relationship is drinking yourself into a stupor, then you are the last one to judge others. ---
**Author:** ![AlenDonald](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@AlenDonald](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AlenDonald)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/27 "2018-12-11T16:25:15Z")
> [@kenobi\_65](#): > > AlenDonald, if you read t[he rules for the message board](https://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/misc.php?do=showrules) (which, I believe, you had to agree to as part of signing up for an account here), you will see this: > > “You agree, through your use of this service, that you will not use the SDMB to post any material that you know or should know is false and/or defamatory, inaccurate, abusive, vulgar, hateful, harassing, obscene, profane, threatening, invasive of a person’s privacy, **or in violation of U.S. law. You agree not to post material that in our opinion encourages activity that is illegal in the U.S.** ” > > (bolding mine) > > Your question is, very clearly, asking for advice on how to get around the fact that you aren’t old enough to legally drink. The other posters on this thread are aware of this rule on this board, and that’s why you’re getting the sorts of responses that you are. > > You aren’t going to get the kind of answers you’re looking for here. That is fine, but these guys are sending me lectures on how to lead a successful relationship without drinking some exotic cocktails as if they have never touched alcohol in their life. ---
**Author:** ![running\_coach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/running_coach/32/15836_2.png) [@running\_coach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/running_coach)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/28 "2018-12-11T16:27:25Z")
> [@AlenDonald](#): > > That is fine, but these guys are sending me lectures on how to lead a successful relationship without drinking some exotic cocktails as if they have never touched alcohol in their life. There’s room between teetotaler and drunk out of your skull. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/29 "2018-12-11T16:29:20Z")
> [@AlenDonald](#): > > That is fine, but these guys are sending me lectures on how to lead a successful relationship without drinking some exotic cocktails as if they have never touched alcohol in their life. Child, I have “touched” alcohols that you will never see in your lifetime. I have had 25 year old single malt scotch, tequilas so expensive and smooth that you don’t want to set the glass down, and brandies that inspire dreams. You don’t know jack about drinking. ---
**Author:** ![AlenDonald](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@AlenDonald](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AlenDonald)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/30 "2018-12-11T16:34:58Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > Child, I have “touched” alcohols that you will never see in your lifetime. I have had 25 year old single malt scotch, tequilas so expensive and smooth that you don’t want to set the glass down, and brandies that inspire dreams. You don’t know jack about drinking. You probably touched one out of these you mentioned while you were writing this comment. ---
**Author:** ![Slash1972](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slash1972/32/6461_2.png) [@Slash1972](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slash1972)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/31 "2018-12-11T16:35:50Z")
> [@AlenDonald](#): > > You probably touched one out of these you mentioned while you were writing this comment. Oh snap! 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/burpo_the_wonder_mutt/32/365_2.png) [@burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burpo_the_wonder_mutt)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/32 "2018-12-11T16:37:55Z")
> [@AlenDonald](#): > > You probably touched one out of these you mentioned while you were writing this comment. You say that like it’s a _bad_ thing. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/33 "2018-12-11T16:40:15Z")
> [@AlenDonald](#): > > You probably touched one out of these you mentioned while you were writing this comment. How witty, by half. ---
**Author:** ![AlsoNamedBort](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alsonamedbort/32/3213_2.png) [@AlsoNamedBort](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AlsoNamedBort)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/34 "2018-12-11T16:42:07Z")
Can I just say that I’m confused how you are in a “relationship” and she’s “your girl” when you haven’t gone on a date yet? Have things changed that much in the last decade? ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/35 "2018-12-11T16:44:18Z")
> [@AlenDonald](#): > > You probably touched one out of these you mentioned while you were writing this comment. Sick burn. Really. You may wish to wait on posting retorts until you feel better. That was pretty bad. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 4:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/36 "2018-12-11T16:44:32Z")
> [@AlenDonald](#): > > That is fine, but these guys are sending me lectures on how to lead a successful relationship without drinking some exotic cocktails as if they have never touched alcohol in their life. But do you understand the agreement you signed to post here? ---
**Author:** ![guizot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guizot/32/3636_2.png) [@guizot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/guizot)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/37 "2018-12-11T17:05:59Z")
> [@Czarcasm](#): > > But do you understand the agreement you signed to post here? Maybe he signed up under his “novelty ID.” ---
**Author:** ![Broomstick](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/broomstick/32/246_2.png) [@Broomstick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Broomstick)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/38 "2018-12-11T17:06:40Z")
> [@AlenDonald](#): > > I didn’t mean to offend anyone, I opened the thread because I thought it was a forum where anyone could talk straight… We are talking straight. It’s just that straight talk doesn’t seem to be what you want to hear. If you’re in the US and under 21 you can not legally drink. Sorry about that. But that’s the facts. We can’t stop you from breaking that law if you’re determined, but neither are we compelled to help you break the law. ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 5:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/39 "2018-12-11T17:06:57Z")
> [@guizot](#): > > Maybe he signed up under his “novelty ID.” Time to place bets on the name on that ID. 50 quatloos on “Jack Mihoff.” 😃 ---
**Author:** ![guizot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guizot/32/3636_2.png) [@guizot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/guizot)\ **Post date:** [December 11, 2018, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939/40 "2018-12-11T17:08:35Z")
> [@AlenDonald](#): > > Please help me out on this if possible. What kind of help are you expecting to get here, exactly? Do you want someone to ship you a fifth of vodka or something? [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-ready-for-my-first-date-but-i-am-not-allowed-to-drink/825939.md?page=3)