# Getting unexpectedly naked on a date? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [November 27, 2008, 2:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646 "2008-11-27T02:22:24Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swallowed_My_Cellphone)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 2:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/21 "2008-11-27T14:14:45Z")
> [@Cuckoorex](#): > > Funny thing is, if the genders were reversed (and assuming that the females would be something less than hideous) it would TOTALLY work on most guys, myself included. Oh, hell no! Not me! It’s like a red flag made out of blinking red LED lights with lit sparklers spelling out: “This chick is psycho!” while a sky writer wrote “RUN! CELLPHONE, RUN!” in the sky. ---
**Author:** ![Mahna\_Mahna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e47c2d/32.png) [@Mahna\_Mahna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mahna_Mahna)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/22 "2008-11-27T15:40:03Z")
Happened to me once. We’d gone out for drinks in my neighbourhood, closed out the bar, and then walked back to my place since we didn’t feel like calling it a night just yet. I excused myself to go to the bathroom, and when I returned, found he’d jumped into my bed wearing nothing but a smile. And yes, hot buttered monkey lovin’ swiftly followed. Mind you, it wasn’t totally unexpected, since the date had been going quite well up to then and it was pretty obvious to both of us that penis would ensue at some point in the evening. Anyone who tried that stunt without any encouragement on my part would probably be thrown out the door in whatever state of (un)dress I happened to find him in, though. ---
**Author:** ![Boyo\_Jim](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/87869e/32.png) [@Boyo\_Jim](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boyo_Jim)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 4:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/23 "2008-11-27T16:16:49Z")
> [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](#): > > Watch who you’re calling “intelligent” here, fella! > > One of the guys had just gotten admitted to Yale, or was just about to be, and the other guy was smarter. But there’s an Yiddish expression that may apply here, loosely translated as “When the prick stands up, the brains get buried in the earth.” Did one of them later become a 2-term president of the United States? It sure sounds like something he would have done. And his friend being smarter fits too. ---
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 4:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/24 "2008-11-27T16:29:13Z")
I don’t take my clothes off until asked, or until the other person (or people) has started to. It’s just good manners. ---
**Author:** ![friedo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/8edcca/32.png) [@friedo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/friedo)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 4:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/25 "2008-11-27T16:39:08Z")
> [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](#): > > Oh, hell no! Not me! It’s like a red flag made out of blinking red LED lights with lit sparklers spelling out: “This chick is psycho!” while a sky writer wrote “RUN! CELLPHONE, RUN!” in the sky. Yeah, same with me. But I’d totally do her first anyway. ---
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/26 "2008-11-27T17:16:35Z")
> [@friedo](#): > > Yeah, same with me. But I’d totally do her first anyway. And end up paying child support for the next 18 years because such a woman is also likely to do crazy things like get intentionally pregnant to make you love her. I’m all for female sexual liberation (indeed I don’t think there’s enough generally) but unforunately conventional opinion on this matter means that the women who buck it tend to be in the crazy category. ---
**Author:** ![Antigen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/848f3c/32.png) [@Antigen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antigen)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/27 "2008-11-27T17:31:57Z")
If a guy ever tried that on me on a date, I’d be outta there in a second. Ick. Although, now that we’re a couple years into the relationship, I’ll sometimes come out of the bathroom after brushing my teeth and find a naked man with a big goofy grin waiting for me on the bed. That usually works, but first I sigh and roll my eyes at him. Just so he knows he’s being silly. ---
**Author:** ![appleciders](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/85f322/32.png) [@appleciders](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/appleciders)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 5:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/28 "2008-11-27T17:40:58Z")
> [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](#): > > Oh, hell no! Not me! It’s like a red flag made out of blinking red LED lights with lit sparklers spelling out: “This chick is psycho!” while a sky writer wrote “RUN! CELLPHONE, RUN!” in the sky. While I can certainly understand this position, and I think I’d agree with you under most circumstances, it might serve as a tiebreaker, or push me over the edge if I were wavering. If a date were going well but not well enough that I thought I should make a move, it might be a good way of making sure I got the hint. Likewise, if I were having fun but had to get up early in the morning or the timing was bad for some other reason, I might give in under those circumstances. ---
**Author:** ![aruvqan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aruvqan/32/2891_2.png) [@aruvqan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aruvqan)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 5:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/29 "2008-11-27T17:46:01Z")
> [@Sarahfeena](#): > > There was a story line the other night on How I Met Your Mother about a guy who, when on a date, would strip down to the buff while the girl was in another room (going to the bathroom or what not). The character claimed that it “works” (in terms of getting the girl to sleep with him) a certain percentage of the time, so he gives it a shot, just to see if he’ll get lucky. > > My husband said that he knew a girl that this actually happened to (didn’t work with her)! So, he wanted me to ask the dopers about it: > > If you’re a girl…has this ever happened to you? What did you do about it? > > If you’re a guy…ever tried it? Did it work? > > Please…tell all! 🙂 Female Did happen to be way back in about 1982. He got dressed when I picked up the phone and started to call the police. It was a neighbor who came over to ‘borrow’ a broiler pan … If it had been someone I even had been on a date with I probably would have laughed, but a more or less total stranger … I don’t think so. ---
**Author:** ![Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swallowed_My_Cellphone)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 6:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/30 "2008-11-27T18:07:08Z")
> [@appleciders](#): > > While I can certainly understand this position, and I think I’d agree with you under most circumstances, it might serve as a tiebreaker, or push me over the edge if I were wavering. If a date were going well but not well enough that I thought I should make a move, it might be a good way of making sure I got the hint. Likewise, if I were having fun but had to get up early in the morning or the timing was bad for some other reason, I might give in under those circumstances. On a first date, no way. Anyone that, um, “eager” might have been equally eager with every Tom, Dick, and Harry, and Dopey, and Sneezy, and Itchy, and Crabsy, and Open Soresy. But I’d be more cautious for what **Illuminatiprimus** said. Someone moving too fast too soon strikes me as suspicious for assorted reasons. I’d be thinking Single White Female or bunny boiler, or someone who would get all icepick stabby in the morning. Now if someone did that after a series of successful, fun dates, that’s a different story. I’d probably make the Homer Simpson “Hee-hee!” of glee as I trotted into the bedroom. ---
**Author:** ![Mahna\_Mahna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e47c2d/32.png) [@Mahna\_Mahna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mahna_Mahna)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 7:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/31 "2008-11-27T19:39:08Z")
> [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](#): > > On a first date, no way. Anyone that, um, “eager” might have been equally eager with every Tom, Dick, and Harry, and Dopey, and Sneezy, and Itchy, and Crabsy, and Open Soresy. > > But I’d be more cautious for what **Illuminatiprimus** said. Someone moving too fast too soon strikes me as suspicious for assorted reasons. I’d be thinking Single White Female or bunny boiler, or someone who would get all icepick stabby in the morning. > > Now if someone did that after a series of successful, fun dates, that’s a different story. I’d probably make the Homer Simpson “Hee-hee!” of glee as I trotted into the bedroom. I’m just curious… would you be just as cautious with someone who tried to get you into bed on the first date using a more subtle tactic, or is it just the get-naked-when-you-leave-the-room tactic that makes you question their errr… cleanliness? (says the girl who has been known to get naked on the first date on occasion, though her date was always in the room when it happened) ---
**Author:** ![Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swallowed_My_Cellphone)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/32 "2008-11-27T21:00:19Z")
> [@Mahna\_Mahna](#): > > I’m just curious… would you be just as cautious with someone who tried to get you into bed on the first date using a more subtle tactic, or is it just the get-naked-when-you-leave-the-room tactic that makes you question their errr… cleanliness? As much as I’d like to think I’m Mr. Scottie McHottie, devilishly handsome, with a body that Brad Pitt would envy, George Clooney’s bank account, and the ability to charm any girl out of her pants, the cold hard reality is that I’m just an _ordinary guy_. I’m decent looking, I think. I’m fit, I can make a girl laugh, and I’ve been told I’m a fun date because I like to do fun things, but bottom line: I’m just your average Joe. Sure I’ve had a few good shags on a first date, but girls (ETA: _sane_ girls) generally don’t throw themselves at guys like me in such a blatant fashion. Really into me? Sometimes. Naked surprise? No. Anyone who was _so aggressively eager_ to jump my bones on the first date, I’d suspect of ulterior motives. Like maybe she’s trying to make someone jealous who’s going to try to whup my ass later, or she’s already pregnant and looking for someone to trick into taking responsibility for someone else’s kid, or maybe she’s going to be tomorrow’s stalker. Either way, it just wouldn’t sit right with me. Really worthwhile women don’t tear their clothes off for regular guys like me. ---
**Author:** ![Antinor01](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@Antinor01](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antinor01)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 9:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/33 "2008-11-27T21:03:59Z")
> [@Illuminatiprimus](#): > > I don’t take my clothes off until asked, or until the other person (or people) has started to. It’s just good manners. You brits and your stuffy manners. I bet you extend your pinky finger when sipping tea as well. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Illuminatiprimus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/illuminatiprimus/32/11520_2.png) [@Illuminatiprimus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Illuminatiprimus)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/34 "2008-11-27T21:04:11Z")
> [@Mahna\_Mahna](#): > > I’m just curious… would you be just as cautious with someone who tried to get you into bed on the first date using a more subtle tactic, or is it just the get-naked-when-you-leave-the-room tactic that makes you question their errr… cleanliness? > > (says the girl who has been known to get naked on the first date on occasion, though her date was always in the room when it happened) I’d like to also point out that I’m as much a slut as the person \*\*Swallow \*\*is describing (slept with plenty of people on the first date - or indeed have met up with people solely for the purpose of casual sex never to see them again), but as a gay man that’s very much par for the course and therefore I can do it without any real problems. Yes it’s a double standard and I think it sucks but I don’t determine what society thinks. ---
**Author:** ![cosmosdan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a6a055/32.png) [@cosmosdan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cosmosdan)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/35 "2008-11-27T21:11:25Z")
> [@Cuckoorex](#): > > Funny thing is, if the genders were reversed (and assuming that the females would be something less than hideous) it would TOTALLY work on most guys, myself included. This reminds me of Dave Barry’s observation about mags like Cosmopolitan that always seem to have cover blurbs like “10 ways to drive your man WILD in bed!” Dave’s recommendation on how to drive your man wild in bed: get in the bed with him. Doesn’t take much else! Maybe this is another thread but I’ve had several incidents where female friends of mine came on to me when they were pretty drunk. I thought I was being a nice guy by not taking advantage of them. Now years later I realize they likely wouldn’t have felt bad later at all. The alcohol was just a convenient excuse and they probably acted more intoxicated than they actually were. In other words, instead of a nice guy, I was really a naive dumb ass. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![robertliguori](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/46a35a/32.png) [@robertliguori](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robertliguori)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 9:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/36 "2008-11-27T21:12:26Z")
> [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](#): > > As much as I’d like to think I’m Mr. Scottie McHottie, devilishly handsome, with a body that Brad Pitt would envy, George Clooney’s bank account, and the ability to charm any girl out of her pants, the cold hard reality is that I’m just an _ordinary guy_. I’m decent looking, I think. I’m fit, I can make a girl laugh, and I’ve been told I’m a fun date because I like to do fun things, but bottom line: I’m just your average Joe. Sure I’ve had a few good shags on a first date, but girls (ETA: _sane_ girls) generally don’t throw themselves at guys like me in such a blatant fashion. Really into me? Sometimes. Naked surprise? No. > > Anyone who was _so aggressively eager_ to jump my bones on the first date, I’d suspect of ulterior motives. Like maybe she’s trying to make someone jealous who’s going to try to whup my ass later, or she’s already pregnant and looking for someone to trick into taking responsibility for someone else’s kid, or maybe she’s going to be tomorrow’s stalker. Either way, it just wouldn’t sit right with me. Really worthwhile women don’t tear their clothes off for regular guys like me. Uh, **Swallows**? Have you interacted with a large number of women? If so, I am reasonably sure you have interacted with a woman who claims to be regular, ordinary, etc., and for whom a strict majority of guys would cheerfully tear their clothes off. Perhaps we have had different life experiences, but I (who also considers myself mostly average) would think “Hey, this woman wants me and isn’t shy about letting me know! Awesome!” before I’d think “Augh! Crazy! Run away!” That being said, undressing your partner is part of the fun, and I’d personally not make use of this maneuver save for very rare circumstances. Plus, as mentioned, if sexings haven’t been put on the agenda and confirmed, it can lead to problems and embarrasment. All in all, I think that a “Say, would you like to head over to the bedroom/the couch/the kitchen table/the front lawn?” would work better, and be cleaner in the case of a negative response. ---
**Author:** ![Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9d8465/32.png) [@Swallowed\_My\_Cellphone](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Swallowed_My_Cellphone)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 9:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/37 "2008-11-27T21:33:20Z")
> [@robertliguori](#): > > Perhaps we have had different life experiences, but I (who also considers myself mostly average) would think “Hey, this woman wants me and isn’t shy about letting me know! Awesome!” before I’d think “Augh! Crazy! Run away!” Even if I didn’t think she was off-kilter, she would be far too forward for me. And there are a lot of smokin’ hot women I’d cheerfully tear my clothes off for, but not without an invitation. If I stripped down with no warning while a girl was out of the room, as per the OP, while I might be hopeful she’d follow suit, I wouldn’t be surprised if she called the cops. ---
**Author:** ![Malthus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/85f322/32.png) [@Malthus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malthus)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/38 "2008-11-27T22:09:49Z")
Reminds me of this: > **[Nude Surprise Party](https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/birthday-suited/)** > > Boss is surprised by birthday party guests at secretary's apartment after disrobing for sex. ---
**Author:** ![CalMeacham](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/calmeacham/32/35_2.png) [@CalMeacham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CalMeacham)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 11:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/39 "2008-11-27T23:20:23Z")
> [@](#): > > Uh, Swallows? Have you interacted with a large number of women? If so, I am reasonably sure you have interacted with a woman who claims to be regular, ordinary, etc., and for whom a strict majority of guys would cheerfully tear their clothes off. Perhaps we have had different life experiences, but I (who also considers myself mostly average) would think “Hey, this woman wants me and isn’t shy about letting me know! Awesome!” before I’d think “Augh! Crazy! Run away!” You must live on a different planet than I do. ---
**Author:** ![Santo\_Rugger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e95f7d/32.png) [@Santo\_Rugger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Santo_Rugger)\ **Post date:** [November 27, 2008, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646/40 "2008-11-27T23:23:52Z")
Heck, I used to do it all the time in college. It was a bit different than the scenario being described in this thread. I’d invite the gal upstairs (I lived in an A frame, so all that was upstairs was the bedroom). If she said yes, it was pretty obvious what was going to happen (usually). I got pretty good at running up the stairs and getting completely naked by the time I was at the top. About 3/4 of the time, she would be right behind me. About 1/4 of the time, she would be standing at the bottom. The remark I usually got in the latter situation was, "What the _fuck_ are you doing? It still worked about 50% of the time in the “bottom of the stairs” situations. > [@CalMeacham](#): > > You must live on a different planet than I do. Interesting. What planet do you live on? Because I believe the text you quoted describes reality quite well. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/getting-unexpectedly-naked-on-a-date/474646.md?page=3)