# GF Is Pregnant With Another Man’s Baby **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 13, 2012, 3:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gf-is-pregnant-with-another-man-s-baby/643899 "2012-12-13T03:57:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 8
**Author:** ![Kevbo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e47774/32.png) [@Kevbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kevbo)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 7:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gf-is-pregnant-with-another-man-s-baby/643899/141 "2012-12-17T19:09:16Z")
> [@bigsteve1966](#): > > ..also its really hard when you think she is absolutely gorgeous.. Some of the ugliest women I know look very pretty. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2012, 7:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gf-is-pregnant-with-another-man-s-baby/643899/142 "2012-12-17T19:18:07Z")
> [@Boyo\_Jim](#): > > I’m going to give you two pieces of advice. > > 1. Make damn sure you are NOT legally and financially responsible for this child. Unless you’re a very wealthy man, your money should be supporting your other kids. > > 2. A piece of advice I gave to a friend who was 50ish and pondering getting married for the first time – “Go for it. You can always dump her later.” I think the first negates the second - if **bigsteve** stays with Ms. Gorgeous and raises the kid as his own, I understand that in some places, that will put him on the hook for child support if they split up (which sort of makes sense; “You were willing to support this child for the last five years; we’ll just make it another 13 years then.”) And, [She Ain’t Pretty, She Just Looks That Way.](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UG3ExHB133k) (Song.) 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Enright3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/enright3/32/2897_2.png) [@Enright3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Enright3)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2012, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gf-is-pregnant-with-another-man-s-baby/643899/143 "2012-12-18T19:04:51Z")
> [@bigsteve1966](#): > > wow sometimes it’s good to hear harsh words like that cause im blind in this relationship…also its really hard when you think she is absolutely gorgeous.. Two things… first if the old saying: “No matter how good looking a woman is, somewhere, someone is sick of her bullshit.” Second… am I the only one thinking of the TV show Friends? “But we were on a BREAK!” 🙂 Dude, regardless of what everyone is overwhelmingly saying in this thread; you’re mind was made up before you started it. I’m in agreement that the right solution is to say to her: GTFO! But you honestly sound a little to meek to do that. You’re actually convincing yourself to stay with woman who is carrying another’s baby. If that’s even a real story to begin with. ---
**Author:** ![Tristan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tristan/32/18058_2.png) [@Tristan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tristan)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2012, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gf-is-pregnant-with-another-man-s-baby/643899/144 "2012-12-18T20:21:12Z")
I just wanted to chime in here to say that you can be all “he won’t have anything to do with her” about babydaddy, but that isn’t a decision you get to make. What you want won’t be considered at all, no matter how tough you think you are (the fact that you seem to think some folks thought you should go beat up the guy that was fucking your woman says a LOT). If he wants to see her, if he REALLY wants to see her, he will go to court and get visitation. And nothing you can do will stop that. Plus, you need to be very very careful. This guy, who is babydaddy, and wants to be with Gorgeous Woman, will always be an alternative to you who will always be in the picture. This means you are going to be in competition with him, in some ways, forever. ---
**Author:** ![bigsteve1966](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9e5f3/32.png) [@bigsteve1966](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bigsteve1966)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2012, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gf-is-pregnant-with-another-man-s-baby/643899/145 "2012-12-19T19:03:36Z")
> [@Kevbo](#): > > Some of the ugliest women I know look very pretty. i agree with that … ---
**Author:** ![bigsteve1966](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9e5f3/32.png) [@bigsteve1966](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bigsteve1966)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2012, 7:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gf-is-pregnant-with-another-man-s-baby/643899/146 "2012-12-19T19:05:11Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > I think the first negates the second - if **bigsteve** stays with Ms. Gorgeous and raises the kid as his own, I understand that in some places, that will put him on the hook for child support if they split up (which sort of makes sense; “You were willing to support this child for the last five years; we’ll just make it another 13 years then.”) > > And, [She Ain’t Pretty, She Just Looks That Way.](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UG3ExHB133k) (Song.) 😃 she isnt like that she would never ask me for support ,she would just take the kid and go also i have my own daughter that im still paying for and all my kids love ms gorgeous (hehe) as u guys call her ---
**Author:** ![bigsteve1966](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9e5f3/32.png) [@bigsteve1966](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bigsteve1966)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2012, 7:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gf-is-pregnant-with-another-man-s-baby/643899/147 "2012-12-19T19:07:02Z")
> [@Enright3](#): > > Two things… first if the old saying: “No matter how good looking a woman is, somewhere, someone is sick of her bullshit.” > > Second… am I the only one thinking of the TV show Friends? “But we were on a BREAK!” 🙂 > > Dude, regardless of what everyone is overwhelmingly saying in this thread; you’re mind was made up before you started it. I’m in agreement that the right solution is to say to her: GTFO! But you honestly sound a little to meek to do that. You’re actually convincing yourself to stay with woman who is carrying another’s baby. If that’s even a real story to begin with. i do love her but i am finding it hard to get over everything that has happened…welll there is lots of time for me to figure things out ---
**Author:** ![bigsteve1966](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9e5f3/32.png) [@bigsteve1966](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bigsteve1966)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2012, 7:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gf-is-pregnant-with-another-man-s-baby/643899/148 "2012-12-19T19:11:23Z")
> [@Tristan](#): > > I just wanted to chime in here to say that you can be all “he won’t have anything to do with her” about babydaddy, but that isn’t a decision you get to make. What you want won’t be considered at all, no matter how tough you think you are (the fact that you seem to think some folks thought you should go beat up the guy that was fucking your woman says a LOT). > > If he wants to see her, if he REALLY wants to see her, he will go to court and get visitation. And nothing you can do will stop that. > > Plus, you need to be very very careful. This guy, who is babydaddy, and wants to be with Gorgeous Woman, will always be an alternative to you who will always be in the picture. This means you are going to be in competition with him, in some ways, forever. well she has already told me that even if im not in the picture she doesnt think she will stay with the guy…so im not worried about him, and if i decide to leave the it really doesnt matter then its hard that , she as always wanted to be with me , not once has she strayed. she just told me it seemed that i was never gonna give her a child and as a woman she wanted to be a mother ..i dont blame her for that , cause i LOVE being a dad.. ---
**Author:** ![bigsteve1966](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9e5f3/32.png) [@bigsteve1966](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bigsteve1966)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2012, 7:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gf-is-pregnant-with-another-man-s-baby/643899/149 "2012-12-19T19:24:48Z")
Guys im not sure if i said anything but when we split up i was i also doing my own thing , she just doesnt know that …i tried to move on but i too found myself wanting what i had with her back again…i only tried to move on cause she told me that we were never getting back together …but its NOT what i wanted … ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [December 19, 2012, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gf-is-pregnant-with-another-man-s-baby/643899/150 "2012-12-19T19:36:26Z")
> [@bigsteve1966](#): > > she isnt like that she would never ask me for support ,she would just take the kid and go also i have my own daughter that im still paying for and all my kids love ms gorgeous (hehe) as u guys call her Never say never; you know her better than we do, of course; my advice if you think she would not do something like that is to act like she won’t, but maybe keep it in the back of your mind that she might some day. By the way, I wanted to thank you for continuing to come back to this thread - we get a lot of drive-by posters here. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![bigsteve1966](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9e5f3/32.png) [@bigsteve1966](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bigsteve1966)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2012, 2:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gf-is-pregnant-with-another-man-s-baby/643899/151 "2012-12-20T14:34:26Z")
> [@Enright3](#): > > Two things… first if the old saying: “No matter how good looking a woman is, somewhere, someone is sick of her bullshit.” > > Second… am I the only one thinking of the TV show Friends? “But we were on a BREAK!” 🙂 > > Dude, regardless of what everyone is overwhelmingly saying in this thread; you’re mind was made up before you started it. I’m in agreement that the right solution is to say to her: GTFO! But you honestly sound a little to meek to do that. You’re actually convincing yourself to stay with woman who is carrying another’s baby. If that’s even a real story to begin with. wow you really think i made this all up, trust me this isnt no tv fantasy for ratings thing …this is 100 % real . i appreciate all the responses that i have gotten and some of the comments really made me open up my eyes , so when i went back to her i ask alot of questions that you guys asked me … this is real …!!! ---
**Author:** ![bigsteve1966](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/b9e5f3/32.png) [@bigsteve1966](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bigsteve1966)\ **Post date:** [December 20, 2012, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gf-is-pregnant-with-another-man-s-baby/643899/152 "2012-12-20T14:36:37Z")
> [@Cat\_Whisperer](#): > > Never say never; you know her better than we do, of course; my advice if you think she would not do something like that is to act like she won’t, but maybe keep it in the back of your mind that she might some day. > > By the way, I wanted to thank you for continuing to come back to this thread - we get a lot of drive-by posters here. 🙂 well like i mentioned before this is actually good for me , i was very confused, alone and hurt . A lot of people put some good thoughts in my head that i didnt even consider or think about. I appreciate all the feed back good or bad [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/gf-is-pregnant-with-another-man-s-baby/643899.md?page=7)