# Girl Gives Me Her Number, But.. Lives In Diff. Town **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 15, 2004, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254 "2004-05-15T07:18:37Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 18\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![eno801](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c2a13f/32.png) [@eno801](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eno801)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2004, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/1 "2004-05-15T07:18:37Z")
Well i went to visit some friends in austin this week and while out a club i got this girls number . trouble is don’t live there. should i call her? thing is i cannot recall the last time i felt this way about a girl, i saw her and instant crush, lust, hell i couldn’t think. we kept looking at each other all night and me who has given up dating for a while kinda put it off. well when she was leaving i knew i had to get in touch with her somehow so i made a fool of myself asking for her number( having no pen or paper) she waited for me to get a pen even as her friends were giggling. what can i say if i do call hey i don’t live in your town, but i would like to hang out?? or should i just forget about it. ---
**Author:** ![Electronic\_Chaos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Electronic\_Chaos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Electronic_Chaos)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2004, 7:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/2 "2004-05-15T07:38:09Z")
Well, are you willing to make the drive to the town every so often to see her? I honestly don’t see a problem with calling her, and she may even feel a little insulted if you don’t. Long distance relationships aren’t **all** that bad as long as you realize you’ll have to make some sacrifices. ---
**Author:** ![eno801](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c2a13f/32.png) [@eno801](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eno801)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2004, 7:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/3 "2004-05-15T07:42:00Z")
funk yeah! it is only a couple of hours away. but then again i remember how in college that was the death knell for a relationship. well at least for me a couple. ---
**Author:** ![iampunha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/74df32/32.png) [@iampunha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/iampunha)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2004, 7:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/4 "2004-05-15T07:52:43Z")
What’s the worst that could (reasonably; death by rabid chipmunk bite doesn’t count) happen? Okay, so maybe she turns out to be a psychotic man-killer. Sell the rights to your story, make a pile! ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2004, 7:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/5 "2004-05-15T07:52:43Z")
How many women have you met recently that have set your heart so a-flutter that you think you can pass this one up? Call her. ---
**Author:** ![eno801](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c2a13f/32.png) [@eno801](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eno801)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2004, 8:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/6 "2004-05-15T08:03:32Z")
to Otto: not many thing is i have also forgotten how to have a date. shit i am way more than rusty! what would be a good thing to ask her to do? i had given up on ever dating and was allright with that, but now i have no backup plan. ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [May 15, 2004, 11:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/7 "2004-05-15T11:50:44Z")
Dinner? Movie? Some sort of athletic endeavor? Museum? Zoo (even though I don’t approve of zoos)? Picnic? Play? Coffee? Window shopping? Author’s reading? Shit, I didn’t have this many ideas the last time I was dating. Of course I was dating someone who didn’t speak English with any fluency so some of them were right out. ---
**Author:** ![ioioio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ioioio/32/316_2.png) [@ioioio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ioioio)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2004, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/8 "2004-05-16T01:38:35Z")
Go for it. Call her. If you decide you’d like to see each other again, let her show you Austin. Most Austinites would be thrilled at the chance to show off their city. Suggest going to the Oasis and watching the sun set. Get your friends to organize a tubing trip down the Guadalupe and invite her along. You met her at a club, so take her to a club. There’s always some fine music to be heard in Austin. I see lots of good times in your future. ---
**Author:** ![Bear\_Nenno](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bear_nenno/32/3358_2.png) [@Bear\_Nenno](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bear_Nenno)\ **Post date:** [May 16, 2004, 2:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/9 "2004-05-16T02:18:25Z")
> [@eno801](#): > > to Otto: > > not many > > thing is i have also forgotten how to have a date. shit i am way more than rusty! what would be a good thing to ask her to do? i had given up on ever dating and was allright with that, but now i have no backup plan. That’s the easy part!! It’s her town. Let her show you around. Ask her what’s fun in her city. When you go to see her, she’s the host. ---
**Author:** ![Electronic\_Chaos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Electronic\_Chaos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Electronic_Chaos)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2004, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/10 "2004-05-24T17:17:47Z")
Now I’m curious what happend, **eno**. Did you call her, or did you chicken out? If you chickened out it’s still not neccesarily too late. Just apologize for taking the time and say you were nervous. Or busy. ---
**Author:** ![nocturnal\_tick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/3d9bf3/32.png) [@nocturnal\_tick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nocturnal_tick)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2004, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/11 "2004-05-24T19:20:55Z")
Another doper wanting the latest. If you haven’t called her, do it. \ Do it. Do it…Do it. \ This is a great opportunity to have a bit of fun and get a new companion, for lack of a better word. If anything, you’ve got yourself a phone buddy. But stuff happens, and happens for the good. 😃 Good Luck. Do it. ---
**Author:** ![ioioio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ioioio/32/316_2.png) [@ioioio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ioioio)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2004, 10:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/12 "2004-05-24T22:52:19Z")
Dammit, **eno801,** if you haven’t called her yet, do it tonight! We need to know whether or not she gave you a phony number before we get any more emotionally involved. ---
**Author:** ![ioioio](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ioioio/32/316_2.png) [@ioioio](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ioioio)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2004, 5:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/13 "2004-05-26T17:57:08Z")
Update, please! ---
**Author:** ![mmmcheezies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cdc98d/32.png) [@mmmcheezies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mmmcheezies)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2004, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/14 "2004-05-26T18:19:43Z")
ooooh i love this stuff!! i hope you went for it eno801. same thing (sort of) happened to me last year. went to a party, met a nice guy. i felt totally at ease with him, all attracted to him, we hung out, i talked his ear off, we switched contact info, and when he left i thought, “well that was that.” turns out he lives 200 kms away. pretty far. anyhoo, all it took was one email from him: “I’ve been thinking about visiting Toronto on some weekday evenings; wondering if you were available & what you thought of the idea? Truth is I’m dying to see you again rather sooner than later.” and well now we’re happier than a pair of dangling clams! there are a heckuvalot of kms on our cars, but that’s what cars are for… and boy am i glad we’ve got messenger. just try it out, if it doesn’t go anywhere, then no biggie, but if it does… ooooh look at you taking smoochy walks and having someone to figure how to date again with (much easier than trying that on your own!) so let us all know how it goes!!! do it… DO IT… 😃 ---
**Author:** ![eno801](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c2a13f/32.png) [@eno801](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eno801)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2004, 6:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/15 "2004-05-26T18:21:34Z")
well i called 2 days ago and left a message with my number and mentioned i was from outta town. i will be back in austin for memorial weekend so i am thinking of calling her tommorow and seeing if she is up for anything. ---
**Author:** ![eno801](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c2a13f/32.png) [@eno801](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eno801)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2004, 6:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/16 "2004-05-26T18:25:34Z")
oh by the way it was her real number no 555-1234. so that says something, i think? ---
**Author:** ![mmmcheezies](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cdc98d/32.png) [@mmmcheezies](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mmmcheezies)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2004, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/17 "2004-05-26T18:40:14Z")
uh huh… BUT for future reference (you know, in the off chance that things don’t work out with this girl)… i don’t know too many girls who give out fake numbers. some girls give out their number to just about anyone. like it’s not a big deal. not to worry, this sounds like it has more to do with how you guys interacted that night, than with the number giving. if you feel good about it, then you’re on the right track… 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![andymurph64](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a88e57/32.png) [@andymurph64](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andymurph64)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2004, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-gives-me-her-number-but-lives-in-diff-town/245254/18 "2004-05-26T21:49:40Z")
Never, never leave a voice mail on your first call to someone. 😛 Actually, I’m serious. It moves the initiative to her. While that may sound appealing, you don’t want to give up the initiative. It is always better to keep it. If she’s screening her calls and you don’t leave a VM and she is interested she will pick up after a couple of tries (over days apart) Now you are in a situation where you left a VM 2 days ago and she hasn’t called you back. You have little to judge how interested in you she is. If you must leave a VM at the very least require her to call you back if she is interested. Good luck. I hope it works out. 2 Hours is not insurmountable.