# Girl trouble, can I have some advice please? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 17, 2005, 12:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-trouble-can-i-have-some-advice-please/326533 "2005-10-17T00:15:40Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![partlycloudy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/partlycloudy/32/3114_2.png) [@partlycloudy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/partlycloudy)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2005, 4:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-trouble-can-i-have-some-advice-please/326533/41 "2005-10-18T04:26:12Z")
> [@teemingONE](#): > > I am pissed. At least when talking to her. I’m a lot more blue then pissed, though. Yup, you’ll be pissed, then sad, then trying to get it out of your mind so you can pretend everything is fine. While that might feel better now, it’s much better to just be pissed and then lonely. You will get over it. > [@teemingONE](#): > > I think I just got too committed too quickly and had unrealistic expectations of her. Ugh Trust me, it won’t be the first time this happens! You sound like a guy who has his shit together. You articulate yourself very well, and you seem to realize what’s going on, however blinded you might be by your own desires. 😉 It sounds like you’ve got your emotions under control, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that other people do (whether you realize it or not)! So, bonus points for you. Don’t let someone else’s problems become your own. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2005, 2:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-trouble-can-i-have-some-advice-please/326533/42 "2005-10-18T14:30:56Z")
Never get involved with a woman whose problems are worse than yours. Kissing someone against whom you have a restraining order seems to indicate she fits this description. You don’t need this kind of thing at your age. Or later either. I don’t think she _intends_ to be messing with your head, but that is what she is doing nevertheless. Regards, Shodan ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2005, 2:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-trouble-can-i-have-some-advice-please/326533/43 "2005-10-18T14:38:20Z")
> [@teemingONE](#): > > That is until a couple weeks ago when she kissed her ex boyfriend (they stopped seeing each other about 3 and a half months ago), who up to a week before that had a restraining order on him so he couldn’t be near her. Dude, if you could write that sentence and not see at least a dozen large red flags start waving… ---
**Author:** ![Larry\_Borgia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/larry_borgia/32/156_2.png) [@Larry\_Borgia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Larry_Borgia)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2005, 3:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-trouble-can-i-have-some-advice-please/326533/44 "2005-10-18T15:38:33Z")
I dunno, **teemingONE** , maybe you like drama. Nothin’ wrong with that, lots of people do. You get to be the star of your own little soap opera, which some people find gives some meaning to their lives, and it sure fills up the emptiness of suburban teenagerhood. Just don’t kid yourself that your going to get anything but drama–well, drama and some sex maybe–so if drama’s not what you want, this relationship’s probably not a good idea. I can see a dozen different ways this could play out, ain’t none of them good. ---
**Author:** ![Vevila](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/bc8723/32.png) [@Vevila](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Vevila)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2005, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-trouble-can-i-have-some-advice-please/326533/45 "2005-10-18T15:51:51Z")
Psssst, **Sailboat**? Teenagers can be eighteen or nineteen, and therefore not under a guardianship. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-trouble-can-i-have-some-advice-please/326533.md?page=2)