# Girl, what the fuck? **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [January 4, 2004, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-what-the-fuck/222557 "2004-01-04T01:25:09Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![gluteus\_maximus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f17d59/32.png) [@gluteus\_maximus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gluteus_maximus)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-what-the-fuck/222557/81 "2004-01-05T14:33:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Michael Ellis \* > \*\*Oh come on, ease up on the pile on **glute**. Og knows how much I’ve been beating up on Kurdt, but I’m willing to give him one more chance. \*\* One more chance for what, Saint **Michael Ellis** , to spell your name correctly? If you choose to believe him about anything, OK… I don’t believe him, OK? ---
**Author:** ![Already\_in\_Use](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9adbd/32.png) [@Already\_in\_Use](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Already_in_Use)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 3:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-what-the-fuck/222557/82 "2004-01-05T15:47:52Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Zoe \* > \*\*Got any Tim Sample? \*\* Girl, I will put on _Tiny_ Tim if that’s what puts you in the mood for freaking. ---
**Author:** ![DeaganTheWolf](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/49beb7/32.png) [@DeaganTheWolf](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DeaganTheWolf)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 4:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-what-the-fuck/222557/83 "2004-01-05T16:26:08Z")
I’m going to avoid the sniping and address the issue. You got dumped? Sorry to hear it. Go cry in a beer or six and get on with your life. It happens to everyone eventually. Sometimes it’s GOOD to push for that behaviour that drove someone nuts. My last relationship ended in a similar manner, and after a while and a LOT of pushing she told me what was bothering her enough to end a relationship. Frankly, I had never realized that some of my behaviour could be interpreted in the manner she did. I HAVE made an effort to moderate certain things since then and I believe that my new, (and wonderful) relationship has benefited from it. Yes it hurt badly to hear something negative, but if you never hear it then you never know that what you do can be offensive. ---
**Author:** ![norinew](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/eb9ed0/32.png) [@norinew](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/norinew)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-what-the-fuck/222557/84 "2004-01-05T17:17:08Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by DeaganTheWolf_ > Frankly, I had never realized that some of my behaviour could be interpreted in the manner she did. I HAVE made an effort to moderate certain things since then and I believe that my new, (and wonderful) relationship has benefited from it. Yes it hurt badly to hear something negative, but if you never hear it then you never know that what you do can be offensive. I agree that sometimes you need to be told what the problem is so you can work on correctin it (I speak in the collective “you”, not you specifically; I don’t even know you:)), but, IMHO, by far the most useful and constructive setting for this criticism is within a stable, loving relationship. If someone’s dumping me, and I ask why, and they say it’s because I bite my toenails (I don’t, really, I’m just using this as an example; I have completely different bad habits), my response is likely to be, “Hey, we’ve been together for two years, and **just now** you’re dumping me over toenail hygiene? WTF? Screw you, buddy!” However, if my husband of 15 years said to me, “You know, I probably should have mentioned this sooner, but it really annoys me when you bite your toenails”, well, then I can try to curb my behavior. ---
**Author:** ![Jodi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/7feea3/32.png) [@Jodi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jodi)\ **Post date:** [January 5, 2004, 5:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-what-the-fuck/222557/85 "2004-01-05T17:26:36Z")
> [@](#): > > Oh, slight hijack, might I be allowed to add that Jodi, IMHO, is one of our most level-headed, thoughtful and intelligent posters when it comes to inter-personal relationships. :o May I also add that NORINEW is a sweetheart, and also a snappy dresser. 🙂 Thanks, but 90% of what I say is B.S., you know. It’s always easier to give advice on relationships at a time when you’re not actually in one. Monday-morning-quarterbacking is a piece of cake. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girl-what-the-fuck/222557.md?page=4)