# Girlfriend is getting impatient with my long stay in Asia for medical treatment; need advice **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [April 13, 2023, 5:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-is-getting-impatient-with-my-long-stay-in-asia-for-medical-treatment-need-advice/982613 "2023-04-13T05:03:39Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![thorny\_locust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thorny_locust/32/431_2.png) [@thorny\_locust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thorny_locust)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2023, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-is-getting-impatient-with-my-long-stay-in-asia-for-medical-treatment-need-advice/982613/41 "2023-04-13T18:48:13Z")
> [@mmmiiikkkeee](#): > > In general I’d think 1-2 years total from when you meet someone to deciding whether to make it long-term is reasonable. That needs to be 1 - 2 years during which you actually see a good deal of each other in person. (At least, unless you’re considering a long-term relationship intended to be also long-distance nearly all the time; in which case that needs to be made explicit.) Not just 1 - 2 years from when you met, during most of which you haven’t actually been around each other. > [@mmmiiikkkeee](#): > > I’d set a goal of either decide to stay where you are, or to be on my way somewhere else within X months. @Velocity’s already done that. And he keeps changing the goal. He’s changed it three times already, and wants to make it (at least) four. How can she – or should she – put any faith in any goal that he sets? ---
**Author:** ![DPRK](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/4491bb/32.png) [@DPRK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DPRK)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2023, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-is-getting-impatient-with-my-long-stay-in-asia-for-medical-treatment-need-advice/982613/42 "2023-04-13T19:36:59Z")
Yes, being with one’s loved ones is important! But if you figure out where you stand, medically speaking (possibly including second opinions) then you will know exactly what your options are. ---
**Author:** ![Jaycat.again](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jaycat.again/32/11525_2.png) [@Jaycat.again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jaycat.again)\ **Post date:** [April 13, 2023, 9:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-is-getting-impatient-with-my-long-stay-in-asia-for-medical-treatment-need-advice/982613/43 "2023-04-13T21:44:58Z")
Haven’t read the whole thread, but if the OP has no income, he could possibly return to the U.S. and get on Medicaid. Voila, free health care. ---
**Author:** ![Max\_S](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/46a35a/32.png) [@Max\_S](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Max_S)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2023, 9:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-is-getting-impatient-with-my-long-stay-in-asia-for-medical-treatment-need-advice/982613/44 "2023-04-14T09:19:08Z")
In Texas, Medicaid is only for children, parents, and people with disabilities. ~Max ---
**Author:** ![Jaycat.again](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jaycat.again/32/11525_2.png) [@Jaycat.again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jaycat.again)\ **Post date:** [April 14, 2023, 12:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-is-getting-impatient-with-my-long-stay-in-asia-for-medical-treatment-need-advice/982613/45 "2023-04-14T12:22:14Z")
> [@Max\_S](#): > > In Texas, Medicaid is only for children, parents, and people with disabilities. I don’t doubt that for a minute. ---
**Author:** ![I\_Love\_Me\_Vol.I](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/i_love_me_vol.i/32/521_2.png) [@I\_Love\_Me\_Vol.I](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/I_Love_Me_Vol.I)\ **Post date:** [April 15, 2023, 9:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-is-getting-impatient-with-my-long-stay-in-asia-for-medical-treatment-need-advice/982613/46 "2023-04-15T21:01:36Z")
> [@Max\_S](#): > > In Texas, Medicaid is only for children, parents, and people with disabilities. Everything’s bigger in Texas. Including the “fuck-yous” to financially hampered folks needing medical treatment. ---
**Author:** ![Darren\_Garrison](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/darren_garrison/32/92_2.png) [@Darren\_Garrison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darren_Garrison)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2023, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-is-getting-impatient-with-my-long-stay-in-asia-for-medical-treatment-need-advice/982613/47 "2023-09-28T17:33:06Z")
So I’m guessing this issue resolved itself… > [@Is $70,000/year in Cupertino enough?](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/is-70-000-year-in-cupertino-enough/990820): > > Just got offered a job in Cupertino. The salary range was $70-85k but the offer was at the bottom - $70k. Having never lived in the Bay Area before, is this enough to live on as a single person (and still be able to save some money at the same time) or should I be trying to negotiate higher in that range in order to make ends meet? Cupertino does have houses that cost $1-2 million apiece on average to buy, for instance, although I don’t plan on buying a house - and apartments that can easily c… ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2023, 6:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-is-getting-impatient-with-my-long-stay-in-asia-for-medical-treatment-need-advice/982613/48 "2023-09-28T18:56:39Z")
Maybe. We don’t know what the OP/GF situation has done or not done since this topic was started. ---
**Author:** ![Darren\_Garrison](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/darren_garrison/32/92_2.png) [@Darren\_Garrison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darren_Garrison)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2023, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-is-getting-impatient-with-my-long-stay-in-asia-for-medical-treatment-need-advice/982613/49 "2023-09-30T01:47:29Z")
> [@LSLGuy](#): > > We don’t know what the OP/GF situation has done or not done since this topic was started. We also never got a follow-up on the “the church wants to know how I produce captions so fast” thread despite my asking. I’m _invested_, damn it, don’t cancel the show mid-season! ---
**Author:** ![LSLGuy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lslguy/32/5813_2.png) [@LSLGuy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LSLGuy)\ **Post date:** [September 30, 2023, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-is-getting-impatient-with-my-long-stay-in-asia-for-medical-treatment-need-advice/982613/50 "2023-09-30T02:14:33Z")
'Zactly. Some trainwrecks are soooo much more enthralling than others. Who knew??!?!?!?! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-is-getting-impatient-with-my-long-stay-in-asia-for-medical-treatment-need-advice/982613.md?page=2)