# Girlfriend is spending a lot of time talking to a new guy friend of hers online. Should I worry?

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> [@kidneyfailure](#):
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> My wife doesn’t give me any reason to snoop, so I don’t. There’s no pattern to be had. And no snooping to undertake unless someone gives you a reason to.

You couldn’t just say, “I don’t trust this person. I’m so filled with distrust that I would not believe what they say to my face, therefore my relationship is doomed”?

It isn’t a court of law. There is no burden of proof.

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