# Girlfriend ranting (longer than I had originally thought) **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [September 23, 2002, 3:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-ranting-longer-than-i-had-originally-thought/129282 "2002-09-23T15:48:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 8\ **Page:** 10
**Author:** ![apotheosis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ba8739/32.png) [@apotheosis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/apotheosis)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2002, 2:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-ranting-longer-than-i-had-originally-thought/129282/181 "2002-10-09T02:30:14Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by KellyM \* > **Thanks for playing along, everyone, it was great.** A troll, by any other name… :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Treviathan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/838e76/32.png) [@Treviathan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Treviathan)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2002, 2:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-ranting-longer-than-i-had-originally-thought/129282/182 "2002-10-09T02:50:16Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by KellyM \* > \*\* > You see, I saw this thread, and read the first few posts, and thought, No, dammit, this is NOT going to turn into a pity party_\* I’m going to assume that, when you said “read the first few posts,” you actually meant “I willfully ignored _every_ bloody item on the entire first page, contributed by numerous individuals, about how **NPavelka** has serious jealousy and insecurity issues, and instead created my own little fantasy world where fluffy pink unicorns prance all-the-livelong-day, wizards in funny hats and long flowing robes turn people into frogs, and everybody feels bad for poor widdle **NPavelka** because, awwww, his giwwfwiend doesn’t wuv him anymore.” Jesus, look at the _first_ reply, and you’ll see what I’m getting at. ---
**Author:** ![Diane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2acd7d/32.png) [@Diane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Diane)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2002, 3:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-ranting-longer-than-i-had-originally-thought/129282/183 "2002-10-09T03:58:05Z")
> [@](#): > > So, I decided to get medieval on his ass. If your definition of “medieval” is “make myself look like a total fucking idiot”, then you have greatly suceeded. > [@](#): > > Thanks for playing along, everyone, it was great. Are you admitting to trolling? [quote] And to all the people who fell qualified to diagnose my personality via my comments in one Pit thread. [quote] You are the one who chose to put your words on a public message board for all the world to see. If you don’t like the impression some of us have of you maybe you should choose your words a bit more carefully, ya think? I could give a shit about your girlie bits and boy parts or lack thereof. Nor do I care one way or another about your sexual identity or your living arrangements. The impression **you** have given me from your _behavior here_ is that you are emotionally unstable and I greatly question your ability to raise a child. ---
**Author:** ![KellyM](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/57b2e6/32.png) [@KellyM](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/KellyM)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2002, 4:31am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-ranting-longer-than-i-had-originally-thought/129282/184 "2002-10-09T04:31:21Z")
No, I wasn’t trolling. I was ranting. I believe the underlying thesis of that rant (that using force to stop other people from intimate contact is wrong, even if one of the people involved is your spouse/SO and even if you don’t approve of it, as long as the parties involved consent). I honestly don’t know whether that thesis applied to **NPavelka** ’s actual situation, insofar as it’s not clear whether the contact involved was truly consensual, but it seems clear to me that the **reason** why **NPavelka** interceded was not defense-of-other (excusable by ambiguousness) but rather jealous indignance (not excusable at all). That aside, **Diane** , I question your competence to judge my emotional stability, and think you should crawl back under whatever slime-encrusted rock you normally live under. You can’t tell squat about someone’s personality from what they post on a message board. At least not reliably. Concluding that I lack parental fitness from my comments in one thread is just plain absurd – and I say that as a qualified child custody evaluator. ---
**Author:** ![Eonwe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eonwe/32/240_2.png) [@Eonwe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eonwe)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2002, 4:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-ranting-longer-than-i-had-originally-thought/129282/185 "2002-10-09T04:57:27Z")
> [@](#): > > And it worked. Damn, did it ever work. Thanks for playing along, everyone, it was great. > > For the record, I don’t think NPavelka is a lesbian-hating (or even -hatting, which would be far far worse, I can pick my own hats, thank you) rapist. Nor do I believe that whoever I called “scum” is actually scum. Well fuck you too. What an insult to those of us who participated or spent time reading and following this discussion. You didn’t mean what you said, and it was all a psychological ploy to get a rise out of people? Let me just say that if that kind of posting was typical, I’d have given up on the net as a waste of time long ago. Go play your games somewhere else, and post again when you’ve given up toying with other people. I for one am pretty pissed off and hurt that I got caught in your little joke. Screw you. ---
**Author:** ![apotheosis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ba8739/32.png) [@apotheosis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/apotheosis)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2002, 5:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-ranting-longer-than-i-had-originally-thought/129282/186 "2002-10-09T05:08:18Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by KellyM \* > **No, I wasn’t trolling. I was ranting.** Call it whatever you will. You essentially admitted to making accusations even you didn’t believe, posting in such a way as to get people frothing at the mouth, all for your own amusement. If that wasn’t your actual goal, then do yourself a favor and knock off the “you people played right into my hands” attitude. It looks like trolling at best, and badly-disguised CYA at worst. “Oh yeah? Well…umm…I was just fucking with you! Yeah…and YOU FELL FOR IT! Yeah, that’s it! Ha ha, wotta buncha maroons!” Infantile. FTR, I don’t think he should’ve grabbed her either; but all you’ve demonstrated is that _either_ side of an argument can be taken to ridiculous extremes. > [@](#): > > **I say that as a qualified child custody evaluator.** Poultry farms are still candling eggs, huh? Who’da thunk it. ---
**Author:** ![astro](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9dc877/32.png) [@astro](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/astro)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2002, 5:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-ranting-longer-than-i-had-originally-thought/129282/187 "2002-10-09T05:18:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by KellyM \* > \*\*No, I wasn’t trolling. I was ranting. I believe the underlying > That aside, **Diane** , I question your competence to judge my emotional stability, and think you should crawl back under whatever slime-encrusted rock you normally live under. You can’t tell squat about someone’s personality from what they post on a message board. At least not reliably. Concluding that I lack parental fitness from my comments in one thread is just plain absurd – and I say that as a qualified child custody evaluator. \*\* Good Lord! I’m with Diane on this one. If this is the way you are going to jerk people around, who even if they disagree with your perspective, are utilizing some degree of assumed good faith in taking you seriously, may God have mercy on the souls whose real world lives and relationships are subject to your childish capriciousness and dangerous whims. You’re not competent to adopt a goldfish much less raise a child. ---
**Author:** ![Lynn\_Bodoni](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e47c2d/32.png) [@Lynn\_Bodoni](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lynn_Bodoni)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2002, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-ranting-longer-than-i-had-originally-thought/129282/188 "2002-10-09T05:19:28Z")
**KellyM** , that seemed like an admission of trolling to ME, and generally being a jerk. Don’t troll or be a jerk. I’m locking this thread down as per the OP’s request. Lynn For the Straight Dope [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/girlfriend-ranting-longer-than-i-had-originally-thought/129282.md?page=9)