# Give me my fucking ring back **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [October 18, 2002, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892 "2002-10-18T20:44:55Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Ace309](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ace309/32/1050_2.png) [@Ace309](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ace309)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2002, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/1 "2002-10-18T20:44:55Z")
Kristen, right now, I don’t like you. I don’t CARE how you feel about me. I’m mad as hell at you. The way you broke up with me was brutal. I don’t want to get into it again, but I took care of you so much. I was a DAMN good boyfriend, whether you want to admit it or not. I took care of you, I got in fights to defend your honor, I slept on the floor so you could have the couch, I put up with your slutty friend trying to get you to be slutty… And then, when YOU were the one that talked about marriage for the entire nine months of the relationship, then, when I make a softhearted reference to having blue-eyed kids… I’M THE ONE WHO’S TAKING US TOO SERIOUSLY?! And you mystically meet someone brand new ten days after we break up, and fall in love?! Just give me my god damn class ring and PES pin back. Christ. That’s all I asked for. I wanted you to keep everything else, because that’s what you DO. When you give someone a GIFT, you let them KEEP it. You don’t ask for it back with the VERY thinly veiled aspirations of regifting it to your new SO. I gave you all the fucking things you GAVE me back. Pretty promptly, too, considering that you changed your mind and wanted everything back on VERY short notice… and frankly, you’re lucky I didn’t ejaculate on the teddy bears and stick them together, considering what a fucking bitch you were about it. It’s my fault we’re not friends. Whatever. Email me more than once every two weeks and say something besides “I’m so happy with him.” I DON’T CARE ABOUT YOUR NEW BOYFRIEND. I DON’T LIKE HIM. ACCEPT IT. It’s been three months. You’ve lied to me so many times about sending it back. Fuck. Just give me my god damn high school ring and my Phi Eta Sigma pin back. I want so badly to think of you as someone other than my bitchy ex who’s keeping my stuff after I gave her every trace of our relationship back. God, I’m surprised you didn’t ask for the letters you wrote me back too. Christ, woman. And hurry it up, or don’t tell me it’s my fault. ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2002, 9:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/2 "2002-10-18T21:04:15Z")
Phi Eta Sigma? Heh, now that’s a rush. ---
**Author:** ![Ace309](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ace309/32/1050_2.png) [@Ace309](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ace309)\ **Post date:** [October 18, 2002, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/3 "2002-10-18T21:13:43Z")
Oh, boo. 😃 Phi Eta Sigma is a “figurehead” coed honor fraternity… I got in for having aa 3.5 GPA freshman year. I “pinned” her because we were cute and dorky. ---
**Author:** ![HoldenCaulfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/22d042/32.png) [@HoldenCaulfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HoldenCaulfield)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/4 "2002-10-19T01:29:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ace309 \* > **and frankly, you’re lucky I didn’t ejaculate on the teddy bears and stick them together, considering what a fucking bitch you were about it.** It doesn’t matter what you wrote for the rest of the rant, because this line was the worth the whole thing. And I can relate. Them wiminz can be so fickle sometimes. ---
**Author:** ![jane\_says](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/47e85d/32.png) [@jane\_says](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jane_says)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 1:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/5 "2002-10-19T01:47:54Z")
Awe, \*\* Ace\*\*, sorry to hear about your misfortune. That stinks. But remember, the holiday season is fast approaching, and lots of girls hang on through New Year’s just for the loot. So consider yourself lucky that you didn’t get taken for Giftmas too. Women can be harsh. Then again, so can guys. -Jane, who is glad that the young folks are still wearing each other’s class rings. Too sweet. ---
**Author:** ![Miss\_Magic8ball](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Miss\_Magic8ball](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miss_Magic8ball)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/6 "2002-10-19T01:50:27Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by HoldenCaulfield \* > \*\* > > And I can relate. Them wiminz can be so fickle sometimes. \*\* FICKLE??? _gives Holden Caulfield the EYE OF SHAME_ Whatch your mouth young man… without us “wiminz” your socks would NEVER get clean. 😛 Ace, I REALLY think she should have given you back your stuff… shes not being very nice about it. ---
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 4:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/7 "2002-10-19T04:12:41Z")
Ace, in all seriousness, consider getting some counselling. Best wishes. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 4:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/8 "2002-10-19T04:46:18Z")
Counselling? For what? Having the audacity to ask for his ring back? ---
**Author:** ![Sylkyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/da6949/32.png) [@Sylkyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sylkyn)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 4:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/9 "2002-10-19T04:55:34Z")
Is there no way you can just go get them back yourself? I think it’s pretty crappy of her to keep them, since you were nice enough to give back her “gifts” to you. If you can’t physically go there, I’d probably call her every chance I got or talk to her parents or _something_ along those lines to get my stuff back. There’s just no excuse in her refusing to give them back. Lord, I hope she hasn’t hocked them. ---
**Author:** ![butter\_pie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/aca169/32.png) [@butter\_pie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/butter_pie)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 5:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/10 "2002-10-19T05:43:49Z")
Is there a mutual friend between you two? Someone that maybe hangs out with her sometimes, that could steal it back for you or something? It does suck, but if you ever don’t really get it back, you could always order a new one. (I know, it’s the principle of the thing…) ---
**Author:** ![The\_Ace\_of\_Swords](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e495f1/32.png) [@The\_Ace\_of\_Swords](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Ace_of_Swords)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 5:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/11 "2002-10-19T05:45:57Z")
Wait til’ you get to engagement rings. Nothing like fairness-except-when-it-costs-you-money. If she regifts it, the stick those bears together. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 5:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/12 "2002-10-19T05:47:01Z")
Well, I’m going to be the voice of your mother here and say don’t give people things you can’t afford to lose (speaking from personal experience, too - I lost all my school yearbooks and an excellent comics collection to a relationship that went sour). Sure she should give them back. She probably won’t. You probably won’t give out valuable things again. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 5:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/13 "2002-10-19T05:48:17Z")
Dang it, I wanted to use my new sig. ---
**Author:** ![Ace309](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ace309/32/1050_2.png) [@Ace309](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ace309)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 6:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/14 "2002-10-19T06:02:19Z")
**quoth Muffin** > [@](#): > > Ace, in all seriousness, consider getting some counselling. Best wishes. … Counseling? Look, she’s away at school and she told me she was putting the stuff in the mail this weekend. Even with Columbus Day, it would have gotten here by now, and frankly I don’t think getting pissed about this requires counseling, especially considering some of the other shit that’s in the Pit. \ Thanks for the support, folks. ---
**Author:** ![ninevah](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/46a35a/32.png) [@ninevah](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ninevah)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 11:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/15 "2002-10-19T11:09:40Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by featherlou \* > \*\*Well, I’m going to be the voice of your mother here and say don’t give people things you can’t afford to lose (speaking from personal experience, too - I lost all my school yearbooks and an excellent comics collection to a relationship that went sour). Sure she should give them back. She probably won’t. You probably won’t give out valuable things again. \*\* Erm, losing comic books and year books isn’t the same thing as losing something valuable as meaningful as a ring. And **Ace309** , you don’t need counselling, you just need to get even. Hope things get better for you. ---
**Author:** ![DAVEW0071](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e19b73/32.png) [@DAVEW0071](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DAVEW0071)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 11:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/16 "2002-10-19T11:41:42Z")
I don’t even think it’s a matter of **Ace** getting even. He doesn’t even go there in the OP. He just wants his stuff back so he can put all this behind him. Frankly, I think he’s being totally reasonable and mature. But there are limits, and he doesn’t want to cross the line into patsy-ville, either. I hope you get your stuff back soon, man, and can move on to better things. ---
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/17 "2002-10-19T13:52:28Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by ninevah \* > \*\* > > Erm, losing comic books and year books isn’t the same thing as losing something valuable as meaningful as a ring. > > And **Ace309** , you don’t need counselling, you just need to get even. > > Hope things get better for you. \*\* I don’t think **featherlou** was talking about the relative value of comic books and rings. If you give someone something, expect that it will be theirs forever. It is fucked up. If she was the decent sort, she’d give them back. But from I read in the OP, she ain’t the decent sort. Can’t something be done about the quote in the quote thing? ---
**Author:** ![MandaJo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ac91a4/32.png) [@MandaJo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MandaJo)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 1:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/18 "2002-10-19T13:59:33Z")
> [@](#): > > Erm, losing comic books and year books isn’t the same thing as losing something valuable as meaningful as a ring. I dunno–yearbooks are pretty damn irreplaceable–do you guys sign them in Australia? Here the tradition is to go around the last few days of school and have people write short notes, usually about whatever shared experiences the two of you had. They’re absolute treasure troves of sentimentality, and completely irreplaceable. As far as getting the ring back goes, I think the best path is probably cheerful, patient **persistiant** pressure. I’d consider calling her daily. Don’t be rude, or pushy, or bitchy–be considerate. “Hey, I was just wondering if you got that in the mail yet?” Go ahead and **ask** about the boyfriend–don’t give her the satisfaction of bringing him up. Say something corney like “So, how’s your fellow doing?”. If she says " I sent the ring 14 days ago" say “Ok, it must have gotten lost in the mail. I need to hunt that down. I’m gonna have to send you a letter stating that you did mail hte ring on such-and-such a date from such-and-such a mailbox, ok? Will you sign and return that to me?” (This is all bullshit of course–I have no idea how one seaches for lost mail, but showing her that you are absolutly Not Going To Drop This is important. ---
**Author:** ![lezlers](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@lezlers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lezlers)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/19 "2002-10-19T16:53:31Z")
Yeah, I lost a class ring due to a bad relationship. Lost 3,000 bucks due to another. And yet 1,200 bucks due to another (yes I had some bad relationship patterns going on for awhile) I couldn’t agree more with Featherlou’s advice “don’t give people things you can’t afford to lose.” Aint that the truth… ---
**Author:** ![Bryan\_Ekers](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bryan_ekers/32/183_2.png) [@Bryan\_Ekers](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bryan_Ekers)\ **Post date:** [October 19, 2002, 5:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892/20 "2002-10-19T17:08:05Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Ace309 \* > \*\*… and frankly, you’re lucky I didn’t ejaculate on the teddy bears and stick them together, considering what a fucking bitch you were about it. \*\* I understand Hallmark is trying to promote an “Anti-Valentine’s Day” for disgruntled ex-lovers as a ploy to sell booby-trapped greeting cards, laxative chocolates and, yes, ejaculate-glued teddy bears. They’ve picked August 1st, normally a slow sales period. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-my-fucking-ring-back/132892.md?page=2)