# Give me one reason why your ex is your ex. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 11, 2005, 11:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092 "2005-09-11T11:35:20Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/21 "2005-09-11T15:15:24Z")
We were in Vegas for my cousin’s wedding. “Honeybee,” I said, “maybe we should think about getting married.” “Um–you know how I used to be a lesbian?” she replied. “Yeah.” “Well, I met this cute girl last week and I think I am again.” :rolleyes: “Well,” :smack: “why didn’t you tell me before I bought FIRST CLASS TICKETS TO VEGAS AND PAID FOR A HOTEL ROOM?” “Because I wanted to see Celine Dion.” “Well, one of us is going to have to move out.” “Can I keep the big screen?” “No!” “But you hardly ever watch it. You only bought it because I wanted a new one.” * * * How many reasons is that? ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/22 "2005-09-11T15:17:44Z")
> [@Fabulous Creature](#): > > “Because I wanted to see Celine Dion.” I can only assume that this was the final straw. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/23 "2005-09-11T15:17:52Z")
He was a mamma’s boy. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/24 "2005-09-11T15:26:14Z")
Sex and religion (they’re inseparable): not enough of the one and too much of the other. ---
**Author:** ![whiterabbit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/cab0a1/32.png) [@whiterabbit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whiterabbit)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 3:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/25 "2005-09-11T15:36:55Z")
Same here, **Anaamika**. Also factor in a lack of spine. I’m much better off without him. ---
**Author:** ![Rushgeekgirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rushgeekgirl/32/3715_2.png) [@Rushgeekgirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rushgeekgirl)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 3:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/26 "2005-09-11T15:40:05Z")
He became soo pathetic and whiny and self-absorbed and and…wait, you said _one_ reason. ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/27 "2005-09-11T15:43:12Z")
> [@Pixisis](#): > > he pulled a gun on me. Not that your situation is funny, but it reminds me of a surreal conversation from college that seems on topic. It’s the beginning of the semester. My slacker friends and I have assembled in the campus eatery to begin our day of class-cutting. The Group Hottie comes in. Group Hottie has been on the outs with us for a while for reasons that will become clear. Group Hottie approaches her putatively ex-boyfriend, Group Idiot, pulls him away from the booth, whispers in his ear for a moment, then leaves him a kiss. Group Idiot returns to the booth. "Oh, I love her _so much_, he says. “Why did I break up with her?” General silence. “Because,” I say, “she tried to kill you.” :rolleyes: “No she didn’t.” :mad: “Yes, she did,” Group Rational Person says. 😕 “She tried to _run you down with her car_.” “Her brakes were just bad.” “Both times?” I ask. “Yeah,” Group Idiot replies. “Did you see how she bounced when she left?” The rest of us look at Group Leader. She shrugs. “If he wants to go out with somebody who tried to run him down with her car,” she says, “clearly he needs to be removed from the gene pool. Who wants cheese steaks?” ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/28 "2005-09-11T15:44:11Z")
I was an asshole. ---
**Author:** ![Ace309](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ace309/32/1050_2.png) [@Ace309](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ace309)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 3:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/29 "2005-09-11T15:44:56Z")
Ex #1. We started dating when we were 14. By the time we were 17, we were different people. Ex #2. She wanted to sleep with another guy. Ex #3. She thought she liked me but actually hated me. Ex #4. “We grew apart.” Specifically, she grew into someone else’s bed, but doesn’t think I know that. Ex #5. She wanted to sleep with another girl. Ex #6. We were dating fast and loose (kind of a benefits deal), and it turned out that her “real” boyfriend proposed. This being the first I’d heard of him, I broke it off. Ex #7. She wanted to have a baby. She knew we were breaking up when I moved and basically asked for my sperm anyway. Ex #8. She “felt I was smothering her.” Basically, she had cultivated this strong, independent woman image for herself and it broke her brain that she was in love with a man. ---
**Author:** ![davenportavenger](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/5f8ce5/32.png) [@davenportavenger](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/davenportavenger)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 3:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/30 "2005-09-11T15:45:36Z")
He moved to Florida. We’d still be together if not for that. I just don’t do long distance relationships. ---
**Author:** ![Pixisis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f17d59/32.png) [@Pixisis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixisis)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 3:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/31 "2005-09-11T15:51:25Z")
oh, the whole list ? 1. he was physically and sexually abusive 2. i wanted more from the relationship than he did (we are still friends) 3. we didn’t have enough in common (we are still friends) 4. he got someone else pregnant 5. he pulled a gun on me 6. he stopped returning my calls 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Bruin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/e274bd/32.png) [@Queen\_Bruin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Bruin)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/32 "2005-09-11T15:55:37Z")
He was a control freak and had self-esteem issues that affected his treatment of me (nothing violent, just annoying). ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/33 "2005-09-11T15:55:45Z")
> [@Pixisis](#): > > oh, the whole list ? > > 1. he was physically and sexually abusive > 2. i wanted more from the relationship than he did (we are still friends) > 3. we didn’t have enough in common (we are still friends) > 4. he got someone else pregnant > 5. he pulled a gun on me > 6. he stopped returning my calls 😕 I assume these are six different reasons for six different fellows, rather than six for one. Becuase it’s hard to reconciile 2 & 3 with 1, 4, 5, & 6 (though 1 & 5 work together nicely). ---
**Author:** ![Pixisis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f17d59/32.png) [@Pixisis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pixisis)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 4:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/34 "2005-09-11T16:07:00Z")
> [@Fabulous Creature](#): > > I assume these are six different reasons for six different fellows, rather than six for one. Becuase it’s hard to reconciile 2 & 3 with 1, 4, 5, & 6 (though 1 & 5 work together nicely). yup. different reasons for different fellows. sorry that wasn’t clear. i could give several more reasons for #5, but that one is the most compelling. ---
**Author:** ![whistlepig](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/73ab20/32.png) [@whistlepig](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/whistlepig)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 4:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/35 "2005-09-11T16:09:18Z")
Because she couldn’t go more than three months without talking about moving to another city and taking a different job (no mention of my coming with). She finally came home from a trip to Seattle and admitted that instead of visiting her friend, she had had a job interview and was moving. I’d spend the day house-shopping for us. :smack: ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/36 "2005-09-11T16:11:03Z")
I don’t know, exactly. But she said it wasn’t me; it was she. 😕 ---
**Author:** ![Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ecccb3/32.png) [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Skald_the_Rhymer)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 4:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/37 "2005-09-11T16:15:58Z")
> [@Pixisis](#): > > yup. different reasons for different fellows. sorry that wasn’t clear. > > i could give several more reasons for #5, but that one is the most compelling. Oh, it was clear, just as it’s clear that I’ma smartass. But I’m glad the gun alone was enough to make you shove off. ---
**Author:** ![Glassy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ea666f/32.png) [@Glassy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Glassy)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/38 "2005-09-11T16:21:34Z")
He was a drug addict and he was angry with me all the time, no matter what I did. Broke up on July 3. It still hurts. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Lady\_Venom](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/9fc348/32.png) [@Lady\_Venom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lady_Venom)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 4:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/39 "2005-09-11T16:31:05Z")
Sounds like Cerri and I had the same experience. He was very controlling\* and I was way too young to get that on the day of my wedding when I stopped at the door of the church, turned to my Dad and said “I can’t do this” = I should NOT do this. \*Controlling to the point of not even being allowed to use the phone to order a pizza, let alone have a job. ---
**Author:** ![Jayn\_Newell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Jayn\_Newell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jayn_Newell)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2005, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-one-reason-why-your-ex-is-your-ex/321092/40 "2005-09-11T16:46:03Z")
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