# Give me the strength to ask this woman out. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 16, 2007, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624 "2007-11-16T01:03:17Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Quasimodal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/57b2e6/32.png) [@Quasimodal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodal)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/1 "2007-11-16T01:03:17Z")
I work with her, I like her…I think she likes me…there is no ring on her finger and she hasn’t yet dropped the “boyfriend” bomb on me like all the others. Give me the push I need…because women always chew me up and spit me out… ---
**Author:** ![Kythereia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e8c25b/32.png) [@Kythereia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kythereia)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 1:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/2 "2007-11-16T01:06:14Z")
_notches arrow to string_ Go for it, mate, I’ve got your back covered! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![joemama24\_98](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ce7236/32.png) [@joemama24\_98](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/joemama24_98)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 1:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/3 "2007-11-16T01:08:12Z")
[QUOTE=Quasimodal] Give me the push I need…because women always chew me up and spit me out… [/QUOTE] I hope she’s the one who sucks you in and swallows. In other words, good luck! ---
**Author:** ![Don\_t\_Panic](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/don_t_panic/32/398_2.png) [@Don\_t\_Panic](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Don_t_Panic)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/4 "2007-11-16T01:22:05Z")
For God’s sake, _don’t show weakness_! Don’t you know they smell fear a mile away? They can bite! They can decapitate! They can take your head off with one blow! Dude, you have to assert your dominance. You have to make them believe you’re more powerful than they are. In a sense, you have to \*be \*more powerful, if you want to survive out there with the chicks. No, it’s not easy. Few men can do it. If you think you have the stuff, go ahead. _Just be careful!_ There. Feel better now? Go get her. ---
**Author:** ![threemae](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/5f9b8f/32.png) [@threemae](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/threemae)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/5 "2007-11-16T01:36:46Z")
Just do it or I’ll put you in a box and bury you alive. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 1:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/6 "2007-11-16T01:42:14Z")
Good god, man. She’s just a woman. Go ahead and ask her out. You have nothing to lose but your dignity, and possibly your singleness. ---
**Author:** ![Moriarty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moriarty/32/49_2.png) [@Moriarty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moriarty)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/7 "2007-11-16T01:57:27Z")
How would you react if a girl you knew, but didn’t want to date, asked you out? If you’re like me, you’d be nice, kind, and flattered. Sure, you’d say no, but you would probably go out of your way to be nice after that. Now, how would you react if a girl you knew, and had a crush on, asked you out? Most likely, you’d gladly accept and happily embark on a new romance. Bottom line, then, is the “worst” reaction wouldn’t be that bad, and the best reaction has major potential. So go for it already! ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 2:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/8 "2007-11-16T02:02:07Z")
Go easy…ask her out for lunch or coffee or something like that. Work your way up to dinner and a movie. (that’s what I’d want, if a guy I worked with was interested in me)… good luck-you can do this. You should do this. ---
**Author:** ![Rysdad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/7cd45c/32.png) [@Rysdad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rysdad)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/9 "2007-11-16T02:11:03Z")
She wants you _bad!_ ---
**Author:** ![bbs2k](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e495f1/32.png) [@bbs2k](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bbs2k)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/10 "2007-11-16T02:12:50Z")
nm ---
**Author:** ![Duke\_of\_Rat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ad7895/32.png) [@Duke\_of\_Rat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke_of_Rat)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/11 "2007-11-16T02:14:33Z")
Tap that ass first, ask questions later. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 4:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/12 "2007-11-16T04:45:55Z")
I had the same thing with someone I work with, then got the boyfriend line. Do it for the rest of us. Make us proud. ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 5:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/13 "2007-11-16T05:10:06Z")
I’m recently making a plunge with this female that I worked with. I hung out at her house a couple times before she asked in an email why I didn’t make a move. I said “I’m retarded and, if a move is going to first be made, it’s got to be you because I’m completely retarded”. She moved, and now I can move freely. In short, get in there, tiger. ---
**Author:** ![Duckster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/duckster/32/1244_2.png) [@Duckster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duckster)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 5:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/14 "2007-11-16T05:12:00Z")
What’s the worst thing she could say to you when you ask her? Besides that. Just do it. Get it over with. You might be pleasantly surprised. And if not, you don’t have to share the turkey leg _and wing_ with someone next week. ---
**Author:** ![bbs2k](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e495f1/32.png) [@bbs2k](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bbs2k)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/15 "2007-11-16T05:19:34Z")
You do realize now that if you **don’t** ask her out we’re all gonna follow you around and tease you about it. ---
**Author:** ![Sunspace](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/sunspace/32/1250_2.png) [@Sunspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sunspace)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 5:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/16 "2007-11-16T05:36:04Z")
[QUOTE=Kythereia] _notches arrow to string_ Go for it, mate, I’ve got your back covered! 😉 [/QUOTE] Of course, you realise that one definition of a “pioneer” is “someone with an arrow in their back”. 🙂 Go for it! We’ll all be following along vicariously [sub]so we don’t have to go through it[/sub]. ---
**Author:** ![Quasimodal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/57b2e6/32.png) [@Quasimodal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quasimodal)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 5:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/17 "2007-11-16T05:37:47Z")
Okay, I’ll try and make a move…keep the encouragement coming! I don’t see her next till Monday. I might chicken out by then…I’ll be sure to report all the (likely devastating) details. ---
**Author:** ![drachillix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/48db29/32.png) [@drachillix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/drachillix)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 5:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/18 "2007-11-16T05:50:02Z")
[QUOTE=Quasimodal] Okay, I’ll try and make a move…keep the encouragement coming! I don’t see her next till Monday. I might chicken out by then…I’ll be sure to report all the (likely devastating) details. [/QUOTE] Sing her a song…that always works. I reccomend this one. [![](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/B2v-AkSj260/hqdefault.jpg "What's It Gonna Be?") ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B2v-AkSj260) ---
**Author:** ![anamnesis](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/eb8c5e/32.png) [@anamnesis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anamnesis)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 6:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/19 "2007-11-16T06:52:18Z")
No no, sing her [this one](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=chtdBDCnJnE)! She’ll be so weak in the knees that she’ll have no choice but to be yours. ---
**Author:** ![purple\_haze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/db5fbb/32.png) [@purple\_haze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purple_haze)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2007, 7:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624/20 "2007-11-16T07:02:09Z")
[QUOTE=drachillix] Sing her a song…that always works. I reccomend this one. [![](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/B2v-AkSj260/hqdefault.jpg "What's It Gonna Be?") ](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B2v-AkSj260) [/QUOTE] Thanks for linking! I’ve had a bad day and laughed until I cried, watching that video. Perfect love song… [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/give-me-the-strength-to-ask-this-woman-out/426624.md?page=2)